Why is it that good people - inside and out - still get criticized?

Question

Why is it that people who give their all to help others, do their best, and look their best, still get knocked down and criticized?

Answer 1

I think often the only way an insecure person knows to build themselves up is by putting others down. So it would make sense that the person they put down first is one who is making them feel the most insecure. Their ego is taking a hit and they don't have the tools to realize life isn't a competition.

And I think it somehow those type people feel superior if they can convince themselves, and others, that someone who is doing good is flawed. So I think it's all about insecurity, ego, and control. But it also shows what people aren't the best to be closest to, because I know I want to surround myself by good people who don't have a need to behave this negatively and hurtfully. Still can be frustrating though!

And, sometimes, there are some legitimate lessons to be learned in the criticism. I think we all have to stay open to that, and look to see if there was anything to take from it, or to just let it go.

Answer 2

Because nice guys finish last. People like to serve their own agendas and unfortunately a genuinely decent person who is sincere and hard-working is often a person they know they can exploit. I hate to sound cynical, but that's just the way it is. There is such a thing as being "too good" a person. Furthermore, many people are immature and feel threatened by anyone who is truthful and takes pride in themselves, their work and their appearance. Believe it or not, my new year's resolution this year was "to be less nice and be more of a jerk." Like I said, if you're truly genuine, some will appreciate but more will manipulate.

Answer 3

good people get criticized... but they aren't alone

not good people get criticized... but it's for a purpose

Criticism is one method that people use to have perceived needs met. Not the best method, but "a" method...

Try to focus on what the "need" is rather than the poor delivery of the message.

It will keep you more "solution focused" than if you internalize the criticism and allow someone to make you bad.

Live well~

Answer 4

People who criticize all the time are really not happy with themselves. It's really not a reflection of the person being criticized.

Remember, All criticism attacks the criticizer.

Answer 5

Jealousy from others. I think people who try to be happy, do their best, help others and look their best many times are judged as snobs or fake. I don't get it. I like to look my best, neat, clean and put together when I go out in public. I always try to lend a hand to people if I see they need help and I always have tried to do my best in anything I do. I guess people who aren't like that get annoyed or jealous. It makes no sense to me.When did trying to be your best and look your best go out of style and become a negative. We live in a messed up world.