I was best friends with a boy last school year and the beginning of this one. We had so much in common and could talk for hours upon end. Then came homecoming. I went with him and I thought we were having a good time, but he hasn't talked to me since. I gave him some chocolate on Valentine's Day and he just said something like "Yeah" and walked away like he didn't want to see me. I cried the whole day. We were such good friends! What did I do to make him hate me? I'm so confused...I've never really had a good guy friend before.
2007-04-05 16:26:16 · 12 answers · asked by Kate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I'm really not too sure since I don't know you. Can you post more about the situation, and I'll edit my question some to help more. If you haven't changed, then the boy you like has. Maybe he just has a girlfriend and feels awkward. People change. He may have gotten to know you and decided he just wasn't attracted. Nothing is wrong with you, you just aren't his type maybe. I would call him and try to hold a conversation. See how it goes, and casually ask maybe about the situation. Just kind of slip it in. Like, umm, "Yeah, so i was talking to my friend for like 5 hours on the phone and my mom wanted to kill me. remember when we talked like that last year? yeah, we could just talk forever. actually, it isnt really like that this year, is it?" something really casual like that. i really hope you figure it out and get to talk to him and be good friends again.
2007-04-05 16:34:22 · answer #1 · answered by Rose♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself when you called him a boy. He is a boy and as such he has much to learn and grow. He could have a new girlfriend, he could be angry you didn't have sex with him, or something else like rumors could have made him change how he feels about you. The best thing to do is confront him and just ask him what happened. Don't be maudlin when you ask him; just be calm and ask him straight out. Remeber that he is young so probaly stupid and he is male so he's insecure. He might not answer you but if he doesn't then it is a sign that he is not worth your trouble. IT is a shame when friends move on but sadly that is a part of life because we are constantly changing. I wish you the best and hope he is mature enough to talk with you but if he isn't I am sure there are other fish in the sea. Don't be hard on yourself wondering why this happened. Just chalk it up to his becoming a sphincter and hang out with your other friends... better yet, make more... more importantly, hang out with yourself and make sure that your life is in order like grades and stuff. You can never be truly happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself. Go start a new hobby you always wanted to do like learn sign-language or how to make balloon animals. Both are really fun to do.
2007-04-05 16:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard to tell. he may have had more than just friends type feelings for you or he may not have and didn't want others to get the wrong impression about the two of you being together. or maybe he is just going through something and don't want to be around anyone. i would say that it probably has nothing to do with you. give him a little time and then try talking to him and ask him why he's acting so differently towards you. just hang in there and if you have other friends try being around them more.
2007-04-05 16:33:23 · answer #3 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens a lot when two friends (guy and girl) become really close and go to, for example, homecoming together. He might think that you want to be more than friends. If you do, then just tell him so it won't be so awkward. He is probably just shy and doesn't know what to do. If he thinks being more than friends would be weird than just forget it happened and go on just friends.
2007-04-05 16:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by ChocoLuv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk with him alone out of school and ask him. The phone works well for these occasions. School kids love rumors and like to start them. He might of heard something about you, someone you dated or about a family member of yours. Unfortunately in the adult world Rumors still run rampant.
I have learned to be humble and not let a rumor ruin the individual I care about or like. In fact, I will never discuss one with someone. I see the individual as she or he is at the moment and for tomorrow. "Everyone has a past and a rumor is the pasts last ditch effort to keep up with the present." -Richard Drapo
P.S.
He also might be looking ahead and knows this isn't going to last forever....this thought is a big killer of relationships as when I was in school it killed alot of mine. The same as not having wheels (car).....but who needs these if you really want to be friends? Right?
Good luck
RD
2007-04-05 16:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by Richard D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't hate you. He is probably just confused about his feelings towards you and it is easier to physically distance himself from you while he is trying to figure it out. You need talk to him. Don't ask him why he doesn't like or why he hates you. Just sit him down and ask him if he likes you as a friend or if he has more feelings for you. He might think of you just as a friend and is separating himself from you while you get over your crush, or he does like you and doesn't know how to tell you.
2007-04-05 16:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He must have gotten tired of just being your friend. Here is a hint for you, guys are only your friend because they want to be your boyfriend. My guess is you treated him as a friend on your date to homecoming. Problem was you went as friends and he went as a date. Next time you "think" you have a friend that is a guy, don't make the mistake of thinking he wants to be just friends. You screwed up...
Live and learn.
2007-04-05 16:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he probably wants to be just friends with you.. when you went to homecoming with him and gave him chocolate, he thought you wanted to be more than friends with him and he doesnt want that
2007-04-05 16:31:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its either hes scared to show his feeelings about you. or hes a jerk. some boys are nervous and try to stay away from what they really want.
2007-04-05 16:30:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was really close to a girl like you were with him, then the samething happened. idk why but it happens. me and her were so close then she slowly started to fade away for no reason. some people do unexplainable things. try and talking to him about it. good luck to you.
2007-04-05 16:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by Mushroomhead Fan 24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋