I lost my husband at the age of 34. He was my life. Those that I called my friends believe that I killed him, little do they know how hard it is to watch your life go up in flames. HE WAS MY LIFE!!!!! HELP!!!!
2007-04-05 16:16:31 · 6 answers · asked by sandybug03 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Going through a grief stage with someone this close is always hard...I'm so sorry for your loss. Whether you were together for 1 yr. or 100 it is a hard thing to deal with. You can go to a counselor or a local health dept. and tell them why your there. As far as what your friends think...they are putting you through a horrible betrayal when you need them the most...stay away from them- don't explain yourself or even deal with them. You need to focus on your own self...remember your lives together and always honor him by doing what is right for you! I'm sure he would take care of you if he could...you would want him to, right?! I'm not sure you should be alone right now..maybe you could stay with family that will help stand by you?; or a REAL friend that can just be around?
Whatever you decide- please don't bottle up..talk,cry,laugh and value the time you had together and treasure that your love was true. Maybe that's why he was in your life- and maybe that's why you were in his.
Good luck and I hope your memories carry all your life.
2007-04-05 16:34:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rebecca A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a easy thing to do-but you have to keep on living-i lost my husband in my 20's and his family said the same thing about me-but as long as i knew the truth living was not a problem -you have to let those so call friends go-because if they were your true friends they would not think that way -you can go on take it one day at the time-with GODS help you can make-just believe that-God can do anything but fail if you believe in him-take small steps and as things will get a little easier -you will see that you can make it alone-you will never forget him but life go's on-you still have to live-thank GOD that he gave you a good man for the time you and he had together-you can make it-he will help
2007-04-06 00:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by brown sugar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is terrible, I read alot of posts in this site and this one has really bothered me. Why on earth would your "friends" say such harsh and terrible things? I would definitely seek help, from a counselor, a religious person, etc. I cannot imagine how terrible it would be to lose the biggest part of your life. I am looking at my other half now and cant imagine being alone.
I hope that you find some comfort in knowing that contrary to what your"friends" say, that it was not your fault your husband died.
Love him and remember him, someday you will be together again.
2007-04-05 23:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by jeremybradley2562 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to tell you to cope but I can tell you it gets better. My brother died in 2005 at the age of 28. He left behind his wife of 8 years and 2 children. It is very hard at first but you just have to remember all the good times you had with them and if you believe in God know that if he did to you guys will one day be one again. I think you need to find a new group of friends for support and wisdom. Also maybe a councler like Pathways to talk to so you can tell them all your emotions with out being judged.
2007-04-06 00:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_happy_couple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister was only 30 when her husband died... you have to move on, and figure out what your life is about
why do your FRIENDS think YOU killed him?
did you?
they arent your friends!
2007-04-05 23:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life never stops...Time never stops...We have to move on...
Its very simple to say so, but fresh memories dies hard. wounds takes time to be filled. But, i suggest TAKE LIFE AS IT COMES.
2007-04-05 23:32:41 · answer #6 · answered by srigopal Bang 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋