I was with my boyfriend for 14 years, we have 2 kids. 2 and a half years ago we broke up. He met someone else, and I dated. A year ago he came to me and said he wanted me back, That he loved me and missed me. He wanted his family back. I still loved him. He broke up with the other woman, and we started dating again. Things were going great. We never fought, we love the same things. We even talked about getting married. On New Years Eve after going out and having a wonderful time, he said to me I want to date other woman, I am just not into you anymore. I was shocked. Now he treats me like I meant nothing to him. He even went back to the woman he was dating. He promised me that he would never leave me and the kids, that we fit together. I belived every word he said, I feel like a total fool. Now I am left alone again, he did not spend more than 1 month alone before he went back to that woman. He always has to have someone. He pays child support. But I am still bitter. Would you be?
2007-04-05 16:10:42 · 13 answers · asked by Teslajuliet 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is natural to be bitter. But do not let him steal your hold on life. Be bitter, cry, be mad at him, get it and him out of your system and move one. Consider it that life has taught you another lesson. I emphatize. Say to yourself, "This too shall pass." I know.
2007-04-05 16:19:03 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A fool, no, not at all. You have two children with this man and hoped and believed he had finally seen the light. But, now you know this is a man who will move from woman to another when he feels restless or gets bored. In another month he could be calling again because you and the kids represent the only people who are really stable in his life... and so don't be surprised to hear from him again, singing his same old song. But you know now that he will be incapable of living up to his sweet promises, so do try to stand tall now and go forward. You can do this because now you are wiser, and you have children to build a life with and protect from a very shallow father. Good luck to you.
2007-04-05 23:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We're in the same situation. Had two kids with my guy and he is one of those that can't stand being alone. But his flings with women don't last long either because he doesn't know how to function in a real relationship. I was a fool like you and took him back after he walked away from me. That was a shame on me. Chalk it up to one of life's lessons. These guys are immature losers and don't deserve good women like us. I was bitter for a long time still am kind of but I don't let it get the best of me. I firmly believe in what goes around comes around. My ex doesn't have squat. He has just filed for bankruptcy and works crappy jobs to afford child support. I don't laugh in his face at what a pathetic life he has but I know he would never be blessed because of what he did to me and our children.
Try to focus on yourself and day by day build a life that is not focused on him. Stop thinking about what he is doing and who he is doing it with. Focus on your kids and open yourself up to real love.
2007-04-05 23:45:39 · answer #3 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but it sounds that he went back to you when he was on the rebound with this other woman. In other words, he used you to help his wounded ego when he and this other woman broke up. This is why I always say to people who ask if they should take a cheating ex back to really take time to see if they are sincere about getting back together. He was not sincere and only used you as a way to forget about her. Now as you can see, he never meant what he said, and he now has gone back to her. I really feel for you, for what he did is so selfish and heartless, I can understand your pain. All I can say to you is for you to be glad you are now rid of him as he surly was not the one for you. Just know, you deserve someong who will love and cherish you, not hurt you. Best of luck to you!
2007-04-05 23:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have allowed this guy to play you like a harp for 14 years. Two kids and no commitment whatsoever. Yes, you are a fool. Not for believing every word he said, but for letting him play you for a sucker for 14 years of your life.
2007-04-05 23:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes very very selfish and all I can say is those poor kids! Dad comes and goes and that will affect their relationships for most of there lives. You need to find a guy who loves you for you and won't treat you like a doormat.
2007-04-05 23:43:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is be glad you didn't spend another 14 years with him before he came to this great realization.
You would be doing yourself and your children a great favor by going into counseling to help figure out what you do now.
He's a coward and a weak man....that's sad.
2007-04-05 23:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be too but I would never ever fall for that mans words again. Hope you feel the same.
2007-04-05 23:54:24 · answer #8 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we lived to learn and we are bound to make mistakes in life. we all have fallen for that in some time in our life. you're not alone, keep your chin up and move on. the next time he come to you with that line again. Tell him to go back where he just came from....
2007-04-05 23:21:40 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have been; but it's April now....don't let yourself waste your precious time on this Earth spending energy being bitter about it. You did nothing wrong....He has the issues....
2007-04-05 23:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋