Would you forgive your husband that has cheated on you several times now?

Question

Mostly with prostitutes and sluts...i have 3 children...

not only has he cheated but he has a drug problem...i need help and advice as well as strength to leave him, i don't know what to do i guess i am afraid to leave him...

Answer 1

Honey..no. He does not respect you or your children. You have to leave him before he gives you something that you'll have forever. Think about it like this..where will you get the strength to leave him? When he gives you HIV and you're so mad that you can't see straight? When you realize that you will not be a healthy strong woman to take care of your children? Leave him if he doesn't get help. Get tested!!

Answer 2

After 10 years? I think this man is totally disrespectful. Maybe your children are saying this because even if they know your hurt, they want to keep their family together even if they are already adults. Maybe it will just make them happier that even if their parents don't really get along anymore, they still accept to stay together to hold the family together. But even if you love your children, you have to do what is best for YOU. Personally I would never forgive if someone did this to me because I'd just feel like a 'second option'. And it also isn't correct to me that everything is fine if he comes home because in the time he is away he could have just gone off with other women. I don't know which country you live in but maybe you could find a small job and travel to another country for a month or so and get the divorce papers there? Or maybe you have relatives/friends in that country that could help you out? Some families also happily have a foreign person in their home although this is risky. But if there is no way to do this, this is what you could do: Take off your rings, and just do as if you were divorced. Don't sleep in the same bed as your husband, cook for yourself, don't go out with him. Who cares about what the gorvernment allows? It's your emotions that count. Hope it turns out well for you!

Answer 3

You said that your husband has cheated on you several times now and that you forgave him and i assumed that you did forgive him because you stayed with him-he will not stop cheating on you and that is because you let him do the same thing to you over,and over again -you should be afraid because you don't know what those Lady's may have and he can bring it home to you and the kids-is it worth that-you have 3 children to look after and they come first-think about them and what if they caught something that he bring home-nothing is worth your kids health are yours

Answer 4

NO!! The man is a scumbag. You should go to a clinic and get checked out for any possible disease he may have brought home with him.

There is nothing in the mommy handbook that says you have to put up with being cheated on and having your health and possibly life put in danger because the father can't keep his pecker in his pants!

Besides, do you think you are setting a good example for the kids? Do you think he is a good exmple for the kids on what a husband and father should do?

You are a bad parent and a fool if you stay with this man any longer.

The thing is you have to know this.... Why the hell are you even asking? Get away from this loser and move on to a better life without the constant fear of AIDS, Syph, Herpes, Warts etc.

Answer 5

First of all he has put your life at risk by having done this with STD's and such. Secondly if he ever really loved and respected you he would not have done this. So do youmlike beinf treated like a doormat?. Come on if you give this guy another break he is just going to think hey she don't care if I cheat she took me back. Really if not for yourself it's time you give this jerk a wake-up call so maybe if in his next relationship he realizes women are not something you treat like crap! Yes I'm trying to tell you it's time to divorce this loser and take him to the cleaner's!!!!!

God Bless and Good Luck.

Answer 6

You cant be serious.
I would definitely not forgive him.
His stuff would be out the door.
I'd have tests run on myself.
I'd speak with a good attny.
And request e/thing I was able to get!

Answer 7

you should get away from him and the situation you are currently in. Noy only is he putting himself and you in danger but your kids as well. It sounds to me like he doesn't have a conscience.Your husband has a real problem. there is no telling what kind of diseases these "women" he has been sleeping with have. He obviously has no respect for you, your children, or your marriage. I think that for the time being you should separate from him and try to convince him to get help. Maybe down the line you can get back together and try to make the marriage work. But for now RUN NOW AND FAST.

Answer 8

I can forgive, But to continue to live a lie is not something I am willing to do. No matter how many babies or children that we have, because HIV, STD, can change your life and sentence you to terminal illness and or death, then who would collect ? It is just not worth the devastation. Alimony ,
child support, 50/50 Benefit package sounds very appealing
With life Ins that names you as the benefactor.

Answer 9

Aren't you scared of aids, that would be enough to scare me off. I would seek counselling and take a good look at myself in which I have done. Today I am no longer tortured, still a bit angry but no fighting with anyone to give my power away.

Answer 10

Over my dead,decapitated body!! People like that do not deserve anybody because all they cause is pain in other peoples' life. Nobody deserves to be cheated on!!!