never satisfied my wife?

Question

i can't satisfied my wife , every time i make love with my wife , i can't satisfied my wife because from start to the end it take about 15min only . i cannot stand longer .... can somebody help me .I scared my relation with my wife later got problem between us .... i feel very shame ... thank you

Answer 1

Maybe u are having certain issues tat may relate to the premature ejaculation or having the tendency to "come" first before actually arouse ur wife.
But most of these cases can be dealt with by first condition ur mind and most importantly, control of wat u feel.
People who are often too anxious or nervous about their own performance or too rush in making love may experience earlier orgasm without any satisfaction of enjoying the whole process.
You must first relax urself and reli try to calm ur mind even if ur wife is physically arousing u. Wat i mean relaxing is just keep cool and calm. In this state, u will be able to concentrate more and less likely to "come" first.
Secondly, you could try to distract ur mind by thinking of other less arousing stuff other that looking at ur wife during the intercourse. You could try looking at other direction, thinking of other small things other than making love then u will less likely to come first.
Thirdly, it doesn't mean u have to really go into the MAIN GATE first. You could try to stimulate her first by whispering softly to her. Tell her how sexy she is, how pretty and lovely and how u love her very much...those sweet little words...then at the same time caress her body by moving ur hand and palm or ur body against her skin softly. Women likes to be treated like a lady.
Then fourthly, oral stimulation will be suffice to get her more excited without actually making u to "come earlier".
Most importantly don't be too anxious or nervous since these kind of stress tends to allow our biological body to ejaculate earlier. Just stay calm and cool ^^

Answer 2

I agree with Shelly. My husband also facing the same problems. But he tries to satisfy me first with a long foreplay and after that only we do it.
In my country there's a traditional herbs for men to last longer and women to feel more sensitive and more arosed during sex.
It is better than viagara and ecstasy who is made of chemical and drugs.
Try exercising and have a healthy life style. Avoid cold drinks, cold food, fruits with lots of water like watermelon and cucumber. Try hot and spicy food. Mutton soup also helps alot.
And most importantly, try to make your wife happy. Care for her feelings. Her emotion, what she likes, what she doesn't like. Try to be the best man for her. Buy some flowers, candlelight dinner etc.. etc...
Woman like stuff like that.
All the best.
:)

Answer 3

I'm sorry you feel this way. Is this something that has always occurred? IF so, she knew what she was getting into it before she married you, and she choose to marry you anyways, so she can deal with it. (that's real love)
If this is a problem that has just came about, then she will deal with it, if she really loves you. At least there was a time when it was good to her.
Real love isn't about the sex man. If she cant deal with it, then maybe you should re-evaluate who you married.

Answer 4

Spend time during the day warming her up emotionally. Give her extra attention, kisses, touches...that sort of thing. Then, when its time for sex, touch her with your hands, mouth and body before actually penetrating her. Once she is very aroused you can make her orgasm or you can penetrate..or both :) Also, you can begin to have sex and stop when you are too close to orgasm. Pull out and continue touching or simply stop moving and touch until you aren't too near the brink.

Remember, women can have more than one orgasm per session. We also tend to be better lovers when we have had ours first. So, make her come and then go with the flow.

Answer 5

In may case's ,like myself .
I like a fast man ,if it takes longer then 15 minutes you loose me .
so I'm pretty sure your wife is not complaining ,and you worrying to much .
one word of advice ,make sure you satisfy her first ,even fore playing or oral ,and then the time its all yours .
don't feel shame ,15 minute's it's a very good time .

Answer 6

my husband has the same problem so your not alone, If you care about her. hang out with her do things that make both of you happy. go eat out once in a while. go see a movie. put soft music, we women are fools for romance. put some candles, fix an easy dinner,take a shower or bath with her, you bathe her she you, try some foreplay it won't kill you. tell her how nice you think she looks. if she has on perfume you like compliment it. if in intimacy you like the way she kisses hugs holds you,caresses you. tell her. play with her, tease her sex is not just intercourse, it's much more... try some of these things I've mentioned. wish you well

Answer 7

Make sure she gets hers first before you even start on you, however if you feel that sex is the root of a problem between the two of you, u might need to look a little deeper.

Answer 8

Does she complain about this? Talk to her and see how she feels. This may not bother her as much as it bothers you. Try more foreplay with her and that may help. Change positions giving yourself a break and the more you have sex the longer you will be able to hold out. Things will be fine.

Answer 9

You know,every girl is different-therefore they each have a different way they need to be touched.
Some like it rough and fast,while others need slow and sensual.
Also remember that women tend to think to much-ie:they think about dishes and laundry and the biggest thing:"does he find me attractive"?....
Just try to set the mood(mention something like: "look at that a*s" or "you are the hottest" on your way to work or whatever.
Then try something like kissing on her neck and running your fingers down her body very softly,followed by kissing down to her sensitive spot.
Ask her if she likes it....Take time with kissing and oral.
Then move to a position that stimulates her like girl on top.
Maybe she takes awhile to orgasm-but when she does she totally deserves it....
Good luck

Answer 10

Start with oral sex and/or manual stimulation for her. If you satisfy her before penentration, she won't care if you're a "minute-man". If you're looking for details on techniques, there are a number of great books on sexuality on the market, many on-line. (Stay away from pornography if you're looking to honestly learn techniques.)