I think it would be, because one of the top arguments and reasons for divorce is finances. I think when a man gives his wife or girlfriend an allowance, knowing that it is hers to spend on whatever she wants, it sets up a good structure and will end many financial arguments. Women like to spend money on things that guys think are unecessary, too expensive, or wasteful. However, when she spends money set aside for her own fancies (allowance), it should not bug him in the slightest. Plus, giving women an allowance makes them act more submissive and sweet because if they are bad, the allowance can be decreased. This means more peace and less arguments. Everyone wins. What do you all think?
2007-04-05 14:50:06 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
OH Mr wannabee lesbo is back...btw you haven't ever had a good idea in that brainless head of yours, so why keep trying your just embarrassing yourself...an allowance is a good idea- take all the money and go= 1 4you , 1 4me, 1 4u, 1 4me
2007-04-05 14:53:10 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 10⤊ 3⤋
Well, you're working on a few assumptions here (like the husband is the only one working and managing the money), but you're speaking from a position that makes sense in other ways.
I think it can be good that both the husband and wife have money that they are allocated to spend on "non-essentials". My ex-husband and I used to do this. He liked to buy little "boy toys" that he collected, and I had my own things I liked buying, like DVDs.
If you're in a relationship, everything should be split both ways, and just because one person is earning the money shouldn't mean that they are the one to manage it, and they certainly shouldn't be able to just buy things here and there while their partner cannot. Both are contributing, whether it be by working out or by working at home and looking after the family. Allowances aren't essential if there is a healthy balance, but it can give people a sense of certainty about things, and makes it easier.
Neither the husband nor the wife should be in a situation that whenever they wish to buy something, they need to approach the other to get the money. On big things, they should obviously discuss before buying, but to be completely dependent on the other to get any money could easily lead to problems.
2007-04-05 15:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lineya 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a small one but the woman could begin to get greedy and ask for more and more.
The husband will have to make sure that his wife understands that there are limits and although she now has some money of her own everything she buys must be approved by him.
It would be a good disciplinary/ reward system.
She is good and obeys her husband no matter what, her allowance is raised, she is bad and does not obey her husband her allowence is lowered.
I do think the wife should be given some money for cleaning supplies only.
You're so smart baby!
XOXO
2007-04-06 04:32:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In today's world women make about the same amount of money as men. If one is going to have an allowance then both should...it's called a budget and it is not withheld for bad behavior.
Woman are not second class citizens and should not be dominated by a man. Marriage is an equal partnership, not a father daughter relationship.
2007-04-05 14:55:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Man, are you serious? Your whole question implies that the man is the only one earning any money. Also, us men are pretty dumb for buying unnecessary things. Have you seen the size of some guys TVs? Or the sports cars when a van might be more practical?
Also, "giving women an allowance makes them act more submissive and sweet"? That's not even subtly sexist, that's pretty direct...
Where exactly do you live to ask a question like that?
2007-04-05 14:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Brandon B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends on how the finances are handled. If your husband is the only one that works and you are a stay at home mom, by all means if your budget allows you should have a reasonable allowance. If you both work you should both pay in accordance to a percentage of what you make to the bills. Leaving you with your own decision about what to spend and what to not. But, keep in mind you should always make sure that your bills are paid and kids are taken care of first if you have any. You have a responsibility to your self, your family and society to make your dues. I am not one to spend in a wanton fashion but my wife does contribute and receive some money. Some one once told me that when it comes to your relationship you should not argue about money. If it is there it is there and if it is gone it is gone. There is nothing you can do about lost money so arguing about it does no good. If you find yourself constantly behind or arguing about it. You need to evaluate where your money is going and guys can spend money on un-necessary things as well. If you continue to argue you may need to seek financial counsel. I know it sounds stupid but its only your savings and future you are messing with by not managing your finances.
2007-04-05 15:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by matt_barfels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you were treated like a child, as an adult and you were given an allowance...women can make their own decisions.. deal with it. Women should never be submissive to their husbands.Oh and speaking of hormones men have way more "out of control" hormones. Oh and women spend money on frivilous things.. how about the mercedes my cousin bought when he could have gotten a used Honda Accord. Alright so men and women should just put limit on themselves for how much they spend! Men do not run the world.
2007-04-06 16:46:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lindsey G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is the only one that works and you are a stay at home mom, by all means if your budget allows you should have a reasonable allowance. If you both work you should both pay in accordance to a percentage of what you make to the bills. Leaving you with your own decision about what to spend and what to not. But, keep in mind you should always make sure that your bills are paid and kids are taken care of first if you have any. You have a responsibility to your self, your family and society to make your dues. I am not one to spend in a wanton fashion but my wife does contribute and receive some money. Some one once told me that when it comes to your relationship you should not argue about money. If it is there it is there and if it is gone it is gone. There is nothi
2014-11-04 07:47:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you want a slave, not a wife/girlfriend. Most women work at jobs...even if they don't, they work at home (if you think cleaning, cooking, laundry, child care, bill paying, grocery shopping, etc is not work...then TRY IT!!!). You give allowance to a child to teach them how to manage money. To do this to an adult EQUAL is insulting. The ONLY way I would see this working is if you give her the SAME AMOUNT you take to buy what you want and have fun with
2007-04-05 14:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ITS funny you said that because my grandad did just that. So after 50 years my granny had a nest egg near a million dollars. THAT bailed the whole family our of trouble. SHE bought three fixer upper houses to fix. SOLD them and ended up with over 2 mil. THAT she sent grand kids to college. Fixed up her old house and left moneys to live on and be divided, in her will. NOT all women spend every dime. Some are great business women.(oh btw she played the market too)
2007-04-05 14:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We share all the money. I don't need an allowance. I just don't spend money we don't have. To give a woman an allowance is to treat her like a child. Why would you want to do that? Seriously, she's not going to be submissive - she's going to be mad or hurt that you don't think of her as an equal. THAT will get you in a fight about finances.
2007-04-05 14:54:13 · answer #11 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋