HI, lately my mom has been dressing awful and not doing her hair at all. This really embarasses me and i love her but dont want to be seen with her. She has her hair all over the place and wears the same outfit for three days at a time!!!!! I would love it if you could give me some advice on how to make her dress/look better and for her to start doing her hair.
She is 53 if that helps.
2007-04-05 14:40:23 · 14 answers · asked by LOL 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
It sounds like there are at least 2 issues at work here. One is your sense of self and boundaries. What others think of your mother should not affect how much love you have for her. You should expect people to understand that you and your mother are two separate people, and that each of you should be able to make up your own minds. Don't care what others think or how it reflects on you. I hope you love your mother more than to care how the things that others think about her will impact you. Yet, your feelings are valid and I think you should talk them over with someone and just untangle how you feel.
The other issue I see is how your mother feels about herself. There are a number of possibilities about what is going on here. She could be acting out in a passive-aggressive manner because she feels rejected by you, but I tend to doubt it. There could be medical and/or mental health issues at work here. She could simply not be feeling like herself. She could be suffering depression. She could be in the early stages of Alzheimer's. Some medical examination and/or a psychiatric evaluation would be a good first step to help understand what is happening.
Outside of addressing the above, I think a lot of the other suggestions are good, such as giving her a gift certificate to a salon so she can get pampered, or buying her some nice clothes. Just let her know you love her and I would be careful to not nag, drop little cutting hints, etc., as these could drive a wedge and cause her to be less likely to want to look nice.
2007-04-05 16:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is not feeling good about herself. Maybe for mothers day you could get her a gift card to a salon for a new hair cut. If she has place that she likes to go you could go in and talk to her stylist and tell her that you think that your mom needs a lift and you want to send her in for a new do! Most stylist will think that is sooooooo cool, and will go out of their way to do something special for her. Tell them how much you have to spend and find out what they will do for that ammount of money.
She may just be in a funk sometimes at her age that happens. She need to feel pretty again. If your dad is arround or she has a boyfriend you might talk to him too.
2007-04-05 15:01:46 · answer #2 · answered by suequek 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A while back, my gf and I were out drinking with some friends. While out, we met some people working from out of town. We all went back to my place and continued the party. The next morning, after everyone had left, my gf determined that some cash and jewelery were missing. She figured that one of the guys we let you our master bedroom bathroom must have snagged the missing items. We filed charges and had the guy arrested. He was released on bond and a court date was set. Just before the court date, I was in the bathroom and was moving some stuff around in the cabinet when i discovered a little bundle wrapped in a scarf. It was the missing money and jewelery that she had stashed the night of the party and forgot because she was plastered! It wound up costing me 2500 to keep the guy from pressing his own charges. Not to mention the sheer embarrassment of having to come face to face with the guy. Moral of the story.... Never trust a drunk person!
2016-05-18 01:42:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she going through anything? Sometimes when people are depressed they start to let themselves go because they lack motivation. maybe you could tactfully suggest a hairstyle or a new shirt that you think may look good on her. Maybe even surprise her with something. Then tell you want to take her somewhere special and ask her to wear it or dress up
2007-04-05 14:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by june-bug54 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is a new thing, she might be feeling depressed or over-stressed about something to the point where she doesn't have the energy to care about her appearance. So maybe the first step is to see if you can get her to talk about why she's suddenly given up on her appearance, is she feeling OK, etc.
2007-04-05 14:48:11 · answer #5 · answered by sdc_99 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a makeover.
Buy her some clothes for her birthday.
Tell her to fix her hair.
She's your mom, dont be afraid to talk to her.
2007-04-05 14:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Hawaiian Surfer Girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you tried taling to her about it?...if that didn't work...maybe suggest some hair styles to her...or if u love her enough buy her some clothes..so she can have some what of a variety...but embarassing moms are apart of lifew...theres not much u can do
2007-04-05 14:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's sudden, it sounds like depression. The dressing is a symptom.
2007-04-05 14:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by Meg W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd be more concerned with her emotional and mental health. at her age, she might be going through menopause, which can cause hormonal imbalances, triggering depression, etc. if you're not comfortable talking with her about it, discuss your concerns with an aunt or other close female relative/friend who can approach her. put your embarrassment aside and show her that you love her unconditionally. that'll help so much.
2007-04-05 14:46:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy her some nice jewelry and bring her to the salon. go shopping with her and help her get clothes. byee
2007-04-05 14:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tess S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋