My daughter came home too late last night. She stayed out until 5:00am and had to go to school in 2 hours. My daughter is 10 years old and she hates being grounded, but spanking is more affective. She wasn't driving or anything (cause shez 10) but her brother came home too late with her and he said that he asked her if it was past curfue and she said no. So it is basically her fault. My son is grounded but what should I do? Should I warm her buns? Or she can take the easy way out?
2007-04-05 14:34:29 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
why you let a 10 yo girl go out. sorry but maybe you need a spanking. something is really wrong in your home, think about that. i think a parent who is acting like that is not supposed to use spanking on his own childen.
2007-04-08 22:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is old enough to accuse you of physical abuse to the police and I wouldn't put it past her if she is staying late at night. But why does your ten year old have a curfew to begin with? Does this mean she can do whatever she wants as long as she is home at a certain time? You should definitely NOT do that. You are giving her freedoms beyond her years and all kinds of opportunity to get in trouble. You need to only let her out of your sight when other adults can watch her, like a sleepover or a birthday party, or a school assignment and you need to know th parents of her friends too. If something terrible happens to your daughter you will regret it forever. That goes for your son too.
Please don't hit her, she will feel humiliated and will hate you. She will hate you enough to get away from you every chance she gets.
You need to be involved with the other parents, with her teachers and maybe even take her to therapy. Most health insurance companies will cover some sessions. You owe it to her to try and not give her the burdens of a life she can;t handle.
2007-04-05 21:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by M J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why in the world would she be out until 5 am at the age of 10? That is like 4th grade; are her friends like twice her age? That is absolutely rediculous. My mother would be furious if I came come at 5 am and I am 15 (even if it wasn't a school night) You defintely need to ground her, she needs to be taught a lesson. I would go for the spanking and the grounding.
2007-04-05 21:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by summerglowx3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Where was she that she was out @ 5 am or do you even know? And if you did know then why the hellll did you not go get her? Were you passed out on the couch or so messed up on drugs that you have lost concept of reality?
Do you not find it at all abnormal? Why have you lost such obvious control of a 10 yr old? How old is her brother? 5? What time is curfew that they went over it so much? 12 am?!? When I was a kid I had to go home as soon as the street lights came on! SERIOUSLY, you should be reported! How are your children to become responsible adults when your such a lazy parent?!? Please don't breed anymore. Society is bad enough w/out child delinquents! Get off the crack and computor and raise your kids!
Lisa
2007-04-05 21:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by LUCY 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, I'm 13 1/2, and I can't even go out without my mom. EVER. What you need to do, and what my mom does, is take away a privilege, such as no cell phone, TV, etc. Also, change/make a curfew for your daughter. Otherwise, by the time she's 14, she'll be staying out all night drinking, having sex, and getting arrested. I think a good curfew for her is 8pm; then she has some time to do homework, shower, and eat a snack.
2007-04-05 21:46:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think 10 is a bit old for a spanking. Go into her bedroom and take anything out that plugs into a socket or runs on batteries and demand she come home from school once it is over no stops in between. It is time to put your foot down and show her you are the parent!
2007-04-05 21:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Billie A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
5:00??? Not only did she stay out too late, but she Lied! That is serious. I would ground her from a sleepover, or something, becuase spanking will only hurt for a little while, and probobly won't leave a lasting impression. If you spank her, she's likely to think "no pain, no gain" but if you ground her from a friends party or get toghter, that's likely to hurt her more.
2007-04-05 21:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your the parent aren't you! If you wanna spank her then spank her! She deserves more than one spanking! If I was cought out that late, my mom would spank me every night for two weeks. Why should she be off the hook with just a little groundation? I say you did what my mom did to me when I came home to late! Get out a hairbrush and tell her that your in charge now. Bend her over your lap and spank her 50 times to show that you mean buisness. As for the brother, it's also his fault he had he out that late. Wash his mouth out with soap, and ground him. Anyway, spank her 50 times, and she certainy WILL not do it again!
2007-04-06 16:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't spank her because it would hurt a child. If she hates being grounded then ground her. Take away something like Tv or the computer or something. I think spanking is cruel to children.
2007-04-05 21:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by Thinkpink 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
5:00AM wow, good thing she isn't my child. There is no excuse for this. I would ground her for the next year. How about grounding yourself as well for not calling the cops and finding her. What if she had been abducted? Both of you grounded spending quality time is what is needed.
2007-04-05 21:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Jodi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋