How can I stop worrying about this problem?

Question

In October of last year, something REALLY bad happened to me. I can't give specifics, but I posted something I shouldn't have on a website something like Myspace and angered alot of people at the high school I will be attending next year. I worry on and off about it, thinking up worse and worse scenarios each time. The people in question PROBABLY know my first and last name (I don't remember if my last name was on the website or not) and know what school I'm coming from. My friends have tried to calm me down, but it only works for a short period of time. It's really starting to effect my schoolwork and overall happiness, and even though the sense of logic in me tells me that juniors in high school wouldn't go to extreme lengths to ruin the life of a freshman for something that happened at least a year ago, my wild imagination always finds a way to make everything seem worse. So, how can I stop worrying? I'm really desperate.

Answer 1

You've worn a rut in your brain thinking about this obsessively. The truth is that you cannot change the past, and as the previous poster said, probably no one remembers.

When you start thinking about it, force yourself to think about something else - pick up a book, watch a movie or whatever.

If anyone actually does say anything about it, just admit it, adn act kind of unconcerned, like "You're right, that was a dumb thing to do/say (jerk thing to do). I can't believe I was soooo dumb. What kind of idiot does that? Oh, well, I feel like a jerk, but you can't change the past." Shrug and walk off or change the subject..

Chances are, if you don't make a big thing of it, no one else will either. If you act scared and vulnerable, you become prey. You don't want to be prey.

Answer 2

Details of what happened do not matter to me. Nor does the logical reason. What you are trying to achieve is to not think about the situation. That can be done rather easily. But do keep in mind that it will not effect the situation, just how you feel/think or in this case don't think about it.

Lucky for you, you've got a wild imagination, and we are going to ask it to help you with this solution. Using your useful imagination, I'd like you to pretend that you have a small old black and white television on the opposite side of the room from you. Unfortunately the sound doesn't work on this TV. I'd like you to allow your playful imagination play out the events that had you worried on that little b/w screen as if it were a silent movie at twice the normal speed. (When you do this, you should not have any negative feelings come up. If you do, try moving it to the opposite end of a football stadium and turning the TV upside down.) Once the "movie" plays out, put it on rewind and watch all the events flow backwards. Play out all the random "imagination running wild" thoughts and scenarios forward and back at a fast pace. Let your useful imagination also add some fun favorite music as a soundtrack. The key is to have fun with it, because you are in control of how you have to experience thoughts inside yourself, so make it enjoyable. By the end of this exercise you should be able to think of any portion of your situation and not feel worried or have any negative emotion attached to it.

Also, you can do this before or after the above exercise. Take a piece of paper and in detail write out what it is you are worried about (a little uncomfortable, but will help.) When you are done, fold the paper up and seal it in an envelope. Put it in a safe place and give yourself permission not to worry about it anymore, because it can't be lost now that you have it written down in a safe place. So there is no need for you mind to keep reminding yourself about it.

Hope these help ease your mind.

Answer 3

I don't think you have anything to worry about. It was a year ago and by now the people at that school have gone through many other "hot topics" and long forgotten what you posted. If you can't stop the worrying how about posting an apology or something more positive. Just a thought. Forgive yourself and look forward to starting a new chapter in your life in high school. Learn from this mistake and from now on think a bit before posting negative stuff about others. You never know who you are going to have to face in life.One day the person you diss may end up being your boss. Good luck to you.

Answer 4

there is not any longer some thing incorrect about stressful about the following day. that's referred to as making plans and foresight. you are able to take care of you stressful, even with the reality that. a million. change the belongings you won't be able to settle for. 2. settle for the belongings you won't be able to change. 3. do not imagine about the themes. imagine about the thoughts to the themes. 4. don't be afraid to make blunders. that's how we study. there is continually 2 recommendations at searching at issues. a issue in a unmarried attitude will be an hazard in yet another.

Answer 5

You are just going to have to wait and see what happens. I don't know what you posted so I don't know how bad it is and yes sometime kids do not forget, am not trying to scare you I just want you to be ready just in-case someone says something. I wouldn't worry about it, because you are not going to have to deal with it unless it happens, and who knows, it may have blown over.

Answer 6

It would help if I knew what you did.