WHY iS IT THIS WAY ????????? HOW DO YOU APPROACH THIS ????????????

Question

I believe it was Bacon who said that "those who say they are happy are missing the point". I know now that this is completely true, that one cannot know if they truly lived a good life until they've seen it, can look back and really see everything. I'm 18 and know this is true looking back on hs, knowing how much more fun, how much happier i could have been. Does anyone know how to approach things though if you don't truly know? I always thought I knew everything, and I now know I knew more than most, but just a few little things would have made a major difference. Anyone know how to approach this?? How do you truly know if you can look back one day and say you are proud and lived a good life, if you can't really know at the this moment in the present??

Looking back now that im a sr, 3 things would have made me blissfully happy if they did. very minor, but would've made me now sleep soundly, completely satisfied. UNBELIEVABLE, but the truth. instead, i feel i wasted a lot.

Answer 1

Do your best pal. Don’t hurt people unless they hurt you and don’t be selfish unless they are selfish to you, do to others as they do to you and no more, if you choose to take on the world, you will soon run out of life, and you may think your young at 18, Cary on worrying like this and believe, you wont fix your guilt or regret if your 118. Just do what you believe in your heart to be true to you, if your wrong, big deal! Fix it and move on. If you do something and you know its wrong, then that’s something completely different. Remember Hell is a place on earth too. Its guilt, caring and having feelings that forces you to look back on your mistakes, but don’t confuse this with punishment and pain, regret or that you should feel bad, but stand back and say to yourself, I have learnt, I will never do that again, and let that guide you into the future. Then, my friend, you can move on, without having to look back with regret.

You are very good to ask this question, it displays some nice qualities in you. Don’t beat yourself up4things you where not responsible for, even if you did those things, that provided you realize now, they where wrong! It’s a shame so many people don’t get that chance to reflect on their past mistakes so lightly.

Some people spend the rest of their lives locked up for one single mistake. They may never do it again, and they too have learnt; only they can do nothing. You can, so do it now, hold your head up proud. Be good, it’s the best you can be.

We all make mistakes pal. Shame more people don’t have the courage to admit it. I’m with you here. Edx

Answer 2

Whoa there. Regret is a waste. And so is this mentality "those who say they are happy are missing the point".

Happiness is up to you.

I OK back on high school and there are things that if i went back there now i would re-do. But you have to look at how those things that you regret helped you to grow. What did you learn from them.

Looking back, i would have played basketball and water polo. But i didn't. Instead i read books, i went out with friends. You need to learn to look at your past and see how those things you dont like helped really shape who you are.

SO you are a senior in high school. Then you still have college. You can play all sorts of sports (inter-mural,. club, or school) you can ask out girls (or boys) , you can make friends, you can do all the things you want.

Happiness is not about achievements. Its about being happy with who you are, knowing you try your best, knowing its never too late. And there is nothign wrong with being happy.

Answer 3

I have a healthy respect for reviewing the past and planning the future - to a point!
As long as you ruminate about yesterday or worry about tomorrow, you're squandering your attention on things that either cannnot be changed or may never happen.
Being 'truly happy' only happens in the moment.
Think about this: it is not the past that makes you feel happy in the NOW, but a 'summary of thoughts concerning the past'.
The more you focus on these thoughts, the more energy to draw from the 'here and now' - the only MOMENT in TIME that is totally under your control.
It's ok to look at the past and draw conclusions - to obsess about it defeats the purpose.

Answer 4

Does anyone know how to approach things though if you don't truly know? Faith is one of those things. Having Faith and believing in the positive capability of God to help is a cretin way of achieving your goals. At 18 you still have a long way to go but it sounds like to me your asking for wisdom as David did. Only God gives wisdom because he gave you life to receive wisdom.
Anyone knows how to approach this?? How do you truly know if you can look back one day and say you are proud and lived a good life, if you can't really know at the this moment in the present?? You will not know until Judgment day sir. That is for cretin that that day will you know if you lived a good life and you are allowed to be proud of that life and for sure you will know this because you will never die. However, There are stipulations to achieve this eternal Life.
(1Jo 5:13) These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
(Jam 4:14) Whereas ye know not what [shall be] on the morrow. For what [is] your life? It is even a vapor, which appears for a little time, and then vanishes away.
With out God in your life you will not be able to do Good and Godly things and without Jesus to get you to God then it will be impossible to Be with God or Be as God in his family. For these are the Children of God but once were men whom accepted The Lord as their savior and Master (teacher), and Friend. For they will not be Judged But are Saved!
For man’s time here is but short and what you do today will determine what will be done with you tomorrow.

Answer 5

if you cant look back, and see ways you could of improved, then you havent grown or matured, but its not about looking back, its about living now! doing the best you can with what you have, and that includes mentally,,,,,,,,, you always will be able to look back, from the wisdom you have now, and see how things might of been different, yet you were not different then, so things couldnt of been different,,,,,
you change, you grow, you learn,,,,, look to the present and the future,,,,, not the past,,,,,,,,
i am 53 years old, yes there are things i would of changed,,,,,,,as a child,, as a teen, in my 20's even yesterday,,, but i did the best i could do, at the time

Answer 6

I also have to disagree with Bacon... I thing living happly IS the point. You don't have to be happy about things that have happened, BUT be happy that you are smart enough no to have learned that (for you) It was the wrong way of doing things.

I have a point to consider. In buddism(if my memory is correct), it's stated: Life is suffering...and the point to life is to reach "samsarya" (probably miss spelled) and end suffering. If you don't, you die then reincarnate and try it again.
life after life of suffering.
If you can live happly in this life, By choosing to do so, and can equally be able to live happly in your next (hopefully).
then it is logically possably to live life after life of happyness.
close enough to heaven for me, who needs samsarya when you can live an infinate amount of happy lives (this is of corse assuming that buddism is correct). The only trick is working with the life you have now and insuring you enjoy it, and dealing with your next incarnation as it comes. Focas more on what you have done right rather then what you have done wrong...

Answer 7

The only thing a person can do is do their best. Live life so that you wouldn't mind seeing it on the evening news. Treat your fellow man with kindness and consideration. After all, they share the same types of problems you do that make life tough to live. Keep in mind, that but for the grace of God, there go I.

Answer 8

One should never look back with doubt. Doubt will always lead to regret. Deal with life in the "now". the only time you experience life is "NOW".

Answer 9

Wait till your 60 and look back. It all starts to look perfect.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 10

Don't let things pass you by or you will regret trying it later. Bad ideas, bad habits and bad things we all know when were doin it but we dont care till it hits us later.