masturbation vs. sex with husband?????

Question

i started masturbating 15 years ago due to not having orgasims when hubby and i have sex. i enjoy sex but i would rather masturbate because i dont feel that is a waist of time like sex is for me with hubby. the thing is, i do it all the time now and i prefer it over real sex. can or is this a problem?????

Answer 1

Most women do not have orgasms through sexual intercourse. Orgasms are much easier achieved through stimulation of your clitoris. Why not buy a vibrator, and ask your hubby to use it on you? Then you can have sex with him after you climax. Or show him where it is exactly you need to be stimulated to have an orgasm. Let him give you one using his fingers or tongue(much more fun). There's nothing wrong with wanting to climax, but I feel bad for your husband if you completely abandon him sexually. It may make him feel rejected, and often that leads to the husband to find another woman.

Answer 2

Everybody's different. Some people have higher sex drives than others. To be honest, I think female sex drives are under-rated. In real life people often pretend they're low for social taboo reasons etc, but then come onto the internet where we're all anonymous and so many females admit to masturbating often, probably not quite as much as you, but still very often like every day or almost every day or more. You're a teenager, I think it's normal, you could have more testosterone, and it might slow down when you're older. It'll probably be good when you get a partner too. Have fun!

Answer 3

After reading this and the answers I see this as a two sided deal.
First off, are you saying you have never had an orgasm with your husbands participation regardless of method or just intercourse?
The reason being, he should be pleasing you as well if he's in their for his own pleasure! But most women can't orgasm during intercourse so he has to be willing to try some other tricks!
The other side of the coin is are you making this an "experience" each time or is it just a jump on jump off quickie kind of thing? Most of those relationships end up in disaster! Sex is part of marriage and has to be dealt with accordingly. Try starting out with the bubble bath, trading massages, lots of foreplay, and then the ultimate! Make it romantic! I take my wife on weekend getaways, or we do the bubble bath thing, something to spice it all up and make it all worth while!

Answer 4

Here's a few thoughts. Try masturbating in front of your husband. You might both enjoy this. It's a real power trip and will probably get you both off. Second, try introducing toys into your sex life. A little spice can't hurt and can only help.

You are cheating your husband out of your marriage and you will drive him away by excluding him from an important aspect of your union.

Answer 5

Just dont leave hubby out let him watch you and when you are done with you take care of him. or have sex with him first then masturbate. it is not a problem a lot of women dont have orgasms during sex.

Answer 6

It sounds like a problem for your hubby

Answer 7

That´s because your hubby doesn´t satisfy you enough. As you well say doing it by yourself you don´t waste time, it´s perfectly healthy ....more effective and practical that´s the best choice to have an orgasm.

Answer 8

get a vibrator called a "bullet" and use it during sex. It will be great, just be honest w/ your hubby.

Answer 9

I don't know if you have done this or not, but have you talked to your Husband about what he can do to get you off. If he's not getting you off when you have sex, then I can understand why you do it yourself. Show him what you need.

Answer 10

THIS IS WHAT I DO ,I LOVE TO USE MY VIBRATER ,4 SURE ORGANSOM,SO I USE IT WHILE WE HAVE SEX,I GET OFF WITH TOY AND THEN WHEN IM REALLY TURNED ON WE HAVE SEX...