It hurt my feelings and I cried on the inside. I feel like not going back but I need the job.
2007-04-05 11:58:21 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
You cried on the inside? What a wuss. Be a MAN!
2007-04-05 12:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Always Right 7 · 1⤊ 9⤋
The next time you hear people saying something about you behind your back, you can approach them while they're doing it and say, "I'd appreciate it if you have something to say about me, you say it to me directly rather than to each other. If I had something to say about you, I wouldn't say it behind your back." See how they react. If you're not comfortable with confronting anyone, just ignore it. I know that can be very hard. But, concentrate on doing a good job at work and the right people will respect you for it. The most important thing is that you respect yourself.
I don't think "punishing" someone will help because then they'll come back after you and it becomes like a war - never ending. If the two girls continue to do this and you believe they are ruining your reputation, you can tell your boss.
I've been where you are and know what it's like. A friend recently told me someone at her work said something very unkind about me behind my back. I barely know the woman. While it upsets me, I know that the things she said about me were untrue and the people I care about know they're not true. Therefore, I'm not letting it bother me too much.
Good luck and peace be with you.
God bless.
2007-04-05 19:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Smile and act like you didn't hear it. Who cares what they say they are nobody. You are there to do a job not make friends. Go back to your job by all means do not give these snobs the power to do that. You can punish them by being successful at your work and leaving them alone. Sounds like those two deserve each other and you are way better without people like that around you. Yes it does hurt and make you cry but just look happy and hold your head up little sister.
2007-04-05 19:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
There's an old saying: "The opposite of love is not hate. It's indifference!" Believe me it's true! So, as many of your respondents have said before me, ignore them completely! They only exist in your mind. Put them OUT of your mind in that you IGNORE THEM! They can't hurt someone they can't touch, so be indifferent to them. Of course, when you do have to work closely with them, do as some of your other repondents have said, "Kill 'em with kindness". Make sure their seats are the most comfortable ones. Make sure their coffee is fresh, or their cokes are cold, and that they have napkins to put their drinks on. And, always SMILE. Not big, but pleasantly, so they can see it. Funny thing is, you yourself will feel so great with your success, you'll soon wonder why you thought of leaving your job. You'll love the misery you're bestowing them. Get 'em, Tiger!! (That's another old phrase I heard often in years past.) God Bless you.
2007-04-05 19:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you can revert to jr. high and sink to their level, or you can rise above it and ignore them. In any workplace, just as in life, not everyone is going to love you all the time. If they are that mean and nasty, why is their opinion so meaningful to you that it brings you to tears?
Think about whether or not there might be a grain of truth in their criticism (be honest.) If there is, than use this as an opportunity to learn and grow. If there truly is not, then rely on your self-knowledge, know it isn't true, disregard it, and move on.
2007-04-05 19:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That happen to me 7 woman i walked in the offices talking about me i went in the bathroom and cried and prayed to God. I was a mess stop wearing make-up too. Hang in there you will get the last laugh. I remember the promotion i got too. You are working with jealous girls. Keep doing the best you can do. Be your own woman. You are there to work and be the best you can be. Do not go out to "Happy Hours", etc. Do your work and go home. Ignore them. Keep your head up and keep the make-up on and dress the best for the job you are there for. God bless you and them too.
2007-04-05 19:07:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you feel that they meant harm in thier statements you can actaully complian to your boss about it. by you not wanting to go to work that is creating a hostile work enviroment and your rights as a employee are to have a safe and comfortable work place at minimum. If it were me i would complain.. if it persists, those people will probably be out of a job
2007-04-05 19:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Get Money 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You don't PUNISH them....you totally ignore the fact they have so much time on their hands to talk about you. Leave it alone, and be a bigger person than they are. Just smile, and fake it. Kill them with kindness...that is what I would do.
2007-04-05 19:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Be extra nice to them to make them feel like the horribly mean b*tches they are. If they don't feel bad, then they obvioulsy have no hearts, therefore resort to small little tricks to drive them crazy. Steal their lunch and throw it in the garbage, unplug something on their computer so they can't figure it out, etc. Let your imagination run wild. And, at the same time, just do your job and do it beyond the minimum of what is required of you and soon enough you'll see yourself move ahead while the stay right where they're at!
2007-04-05 19:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by superstar_81882 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
IGNORE THEM! Don't even for a minute let them know you care. To show that you do will only encourage them to do even more. Leave it alone. You should be above that. Don't waste your energy trying to "punish" anyone.
2007-04-05 19:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by clarity 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you are over 21, let it go.
Mean people suck. They are all over the place. There is no need for sabotage or other immature acts, as it may backfire, and you could lose your job.
Let it go. Karma really works. They will get theirs. The boss will hear them talking about him/her, and it will all be over.
2007-04-05 19:07:10 · answer #11 · answered by rouschkateer 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋