I am very worried about my bi-polar friend. She's been hospitalized twice in the last 5 months. She doesn't have family that can help her out. She can't hold down a job because she's agoraphobic (afraid to leave her home). I got her to on Social Security Disability so she wouldn't lose the home she bought before she "lost her mind". I have control of her bank account and have all her bills and mortgage statement sent to me, so that I can make sure they get paid. The problem is, after her mortgage and common charges are paid, there is hardly anything left for utilites, food and other living expenses. I tried to get her to apply for welfare and food stamps, but she was declined because she owns property and because of the amount of money she gets from Social Security. Sometimes, I add money into her account to cover her bills - but I really can't afford to keep doing this. She still needs more money. What can I do? I've called churches, but they said "we do not give hand outs!" Ideas?
2007-04-05
10:59:19
·
6 answers
·
asked by
f w
4
in
Family & Relationships
➔ Friends
Not enough room to give all the details above. The problem with her, is most of the time, she just can't function. Once in a while, she has a good day and seems like a normal person, but it's really rare. I do have her hooked up with a local mental facility that she goes to once a month to get her medication, and I got her on Medicaid, but I don't know what to do with her other living expenses. She REFUSES to sell her home! She goes into a rage when I bring it up and starts crying because she says it's the only place she feels safe. So, until she recovers (or IF she recovers) I think it's for the best to keep her in the home she loves so much. She lives in CONNECTICUT. I hooked her up with a charity there called Person to person for cloths and food - but because she's single, the amount of food they give her isn't enough to last the entire month. I hooked her up with help for heat - but that's only for the winter - what can I do with her utilities for the rest of the year?
2007-04-05
10:59:40 ·
update #1
The reason I am doing this is because she has no family and can't do all this by herself. If I didn't do all this - she's be homeless. I have exhaused every source of help that is out there in Connecticut that I can think of - is there anyone out there that can help me think of ways to get her money to cover utilities, toilet paper, tampons, toothpaste, shampoo and food? Again, the food bank doesn't supply enough food for the entire month, and they don't provide toilet paper, shampoo and other basic hygene products. PLEASE - I need ideas, suggestions.
I'm not a relative so I can't go to the courts - and I've tried to talk with her social worker at the mental health crisis center - but the won't talk with me for confidentiality reasons. I'm all out of ideas! I don't have "power or atty" - she just handed over her bank account to me because she "can't deal with it". Her other friends aren't financially able to help - and I can't afford to subsidize her leftover expenses. HELP!
2007-04-05
11:00:33 ·
update #2
Guys, please be nice. This woman is NOT a dead beat. She's very sick. She's struggled with her illness for a long time and was an executive assistant for 17 years. She used to work 12-16 hours a day for years in an extremely high pressured envoinment before she had her breakdown. I think the long hours she used to work, plus losing her jobs at corporations that had financial problems is partly to blame with her breakdown. That's how she was able to buy a home - back when she was working. But all her all of her savings and 401K went as a down payment on her home - so there are no savings left - its completely dried up. Remember - some people with her illness/disabilty NEVER work - she did for almost 2 decades. Cut her some slack. This could happen to anyone, even you and would you want people to be unsympathtic to you if you got sick and couldn't work anymore? Be humane please.
2007-04-05
11:00:52 ·
update #3