When we first meet, you go out of your way to be nice and polite and do and say everything that you know will impress me. But once you have me, you become somebody completely different, and I end up brokenhearted and depressed because you disrespect me and trample on my feelings.
Why can't you just be yourself from the start, so I don't get my hopes up that I've FINALLY met a decent guy, only to be bitterly disappointed again? : (
2007-04-05 10:11:14 · 26 answers · asked by spun_up_06 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I would never do that. come and see me.
2007-04-05 10:14:42 · answer #1 · answered by sydb1967 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not just men...I've gotten the same treatment from women, and it has helped me learn a couple of things. First, everyone's an a*s, male or female. Second, I make sure to be honest about every aspect of my life with a potential girlfriend. I expose the ugly truth right from the git-go, because it will save me the problem later. The problem being..."you weren't like that when we met." I will not hear that, because I let her know what I really am, what my bad habits are. I will be loved for ME. Not some made up guy. Besides it's too hard to live a lie, I don't have the inkling to try and remember lies I've concocted so I can keep my story straight. I'm sure there has to be someone else out there like this, as I have seen some happy couples. You just have to take your time with people, don't jump into anything too fast. It sucks when you fall in love with someone, and then find out later you don't even like them! You deserve a good partner, and you will get him...be positive, be patient!!
2007-04-05 23:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have to meet halfway when the chips go down.
Romance simply CANNOT stay that high. Romance blinds lovers to the truth about each other's personality quirks. Working on solving issues between you involves trust. To find a keeper, you have to COMMIT to each other and trust each other, warts and all. I feel you.
My first wife left after five months to go back and live with....her mother. Couldn't stand being 2000 miles away even though she married a Sailor!
My other ex had just gotten divorced from a guy a lot like me. Her commitment was to the Philippines.... and to making as much money as humanly possible to send to people who didn't even send a Christmas card. Again, why hook up with a Sailor? I love America more than anywhere else.
Can't believe I had kids with her. I raised our kids alone for a year and sacrificed my next stripe while she was getting an Air Force commission with the nursing degree I let her get before trying to get my bachelor's. She turned around and filed for divorce. I filed full custody for the kids. One day later, child and spousal abuse charges, which were laughed out of court. She resigned her commission to make sure I would not be receiving money from her and raising the kids, knowing I had an upper hand in court if she stayed. A nightmare. I got my AA degree three days before I retired from service and nine days after the divorce was final.
So, it's three years later. The next woman I deem worthy of my attentions is out there somewhere. I won't actively pursue her. I'm going to be me and let her show up at all the different things I like to do so we have common ground. And I will care to commit when the door comes open.
Good luck on your finding a man who actually cares about you.
2007-04-05 17:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably the same thing that they wonder "why we give them sex all the time when we first get together and then slack off". I don't guess that they can figure that it might be the way that they treat us might be the cause of that. Like I want to be with someone who is disrespectful to my feelings. Sometimes I think after people date awhile they lose interest in the other person.
Sometimes, a little time apart from each other help couples realize how much they mean to each other. It did in my relationship.
2007-04-09 12:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by K~E~G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since we're making broad gereralizations here, I'd say when women stop trying to act like the "divas" that everyone claims to hate but somehow are still so popular. Then stop making every mundane event into a significant drama. Finally, stop thinking that men don't have feelings too...
seriously though. Good luck. At least you look attractive and should have no trouble finding a new guy.
2007-04-05 17:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i cannot answer for the "everyman", only this man. i am what i am because i've always lived in the presence of great women. i love and cherish ALL women. i do not try to impress you, as i know i am unimpressive. i am so reserved in my actions around women because i never want to offend or insult any of you - ever. i realize that those before me have made a huge mess in the hearts of many women, and i will be paying for their cruelty for a long time. but i accept that, i want to show you all that some of us still DO worship you for the goddesses you are. i doubt this changes the way you feel, but i am truely sorry for the pain some ungrateful jerk(s) have caused you. i will more than likely never meet you, so i have no reason to feed you a line. i REALLY DO love you ladies!
2007-04-05 17:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rooster 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It's basically a game with guys. They chase us until they catch us. They pretend they are the man for you and spoil you in the beginning. Then once they feel they got you, they show their true colors and act like they don't have to treat us like queens anymore.
It pretty much sucks. Try not to develop deep feelings so quickly and you won't be as brokenhearted.
2007-04-05 17:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry that you have had so many experiences but that is an assumption. You are blaming all men for that. neither gender is perfect. I know that I am nowhere near perfect but I try. my only guess for the reason of their behavior is that they feel you might understand their stress and problems by that point, not complain that they are not the "perfect" man. That is just my opinion.
2007-04-05 17:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because we do that to impress you and after a while you don't feel like having sex as much anymore we don't feel the need to impress you anymore and just be ourselves.
2007-04-05 17:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
hey spun up you sound like a total loser ___no offense.you can not blame it on all the guys,because you meet a few lemons.you need to loosen up a bit.stop looking for some guy to put a ring on your finger,then maybe you'll find a guy who will probably stick around for more than an hour.don't be so easy.....then expect a guy to stick around to know your name.i am so sorry it doesn't work that way.you need a new plan of attack...try reading the book called"try to learn to say no,instaed of always saying yes before they know your name" by deep hoe"------just kidding....
2007-04-05 17:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
In defense of men, I know of several that have that exact complaint against women.
2007-04-05 19:23:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋