what does it mean when a female friend who you thought had a thing for you suddenly fades away from your life. just a few weeks the connection was popping (midnight phone calls, personal favors here and there) and all of a sudden she just disappears. she isn't doing the same things she was doing before. all she does is saying hi and moving on. what am i to make of this? is she being protective of herself? was i a little pushy when i frequently asked her out? i mean i was just trying to get involved in her life. what am i doing wrong here??what should i do?
2007-04-05 09:33:10 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You frequently asked her out?
Isn't that a hint enough?
I'd say you creeped her out. The best thing to do now is to give her some distance. Hopefully things will be back to normal soon :) Good luck.
2007-04-05 09:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by OffLiCute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience... let her go. Her avoidance is only going to drive you crazy if you let it fester. There are a number of reasons why she is doing this. Maybe you were too pushy, maybe not. Maybe she found someone else. Perhaps she flet things may be going to fast or perhaps she is just a "player". Don't beat yourself up over this. Chances are very high that you are not at fault here. I was dating a woman like that exactly for about 2 1/2 months. This was about 8 years ago. things were going great, but very slowly. It took me two months just to be able to hold her hand the first time. It was the next week we went out, had what appeared to be a great time. The next week, nothing, no phone calls, no communication at church, nothing. It turned out she was not over someone else before me. She didn't go back to him, but she wasn't ready for a relationship. Never even kissed her during those 10 weeks of going out. Frankly, I was very happy (in retrospect) that things didn't work out. A few years later, i found someone else who was and is great, loving and very affectionate. I ended up marring this new person last july. things will turn around for you, but right now, you really don't need the trouble that this woman is causing you. Good luck! JUST RELAX!!!!!!
2007-04-05 16:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm019 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww...sorry to know that... I dont feel sorry for you. That question could be answered by you and you only. I actually went thru that. I comfronted him about the situation and told him how I felt about the changes going on between us. He appologized and explain the reasons for his behavior. We are still good friends. It is not something pretty to go through; I know. Sometimes, things change and people change faster than time. No need to worry, if she is your true friend, she will tell you the reason behind her actions. Take it easy on yourself, and try to focus on anything useful and fun. That'll keep your mind busy.....
2007-04-05 16:43:40 · answer #3 · answered by Lila86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you try asking her? Maybe she found someone new. Maybe she's just not that into you, but you were convenient for awhile. That's what it sounds like to me. Stop obsessing over it. Accept yourself for the great person you are, and don't let her judgment affect you. You sound a little needy.
2007-04-05 16:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start looking for someone else and leave her alone. No one likes a stalker (not that you are one yet).
It's probably nothing more than her realizing that you two are not right for each other. If you push it, it will only make her realize that she was right. Back off and move on.
2007-04-05 16:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she met somebody else, or maybe you scared her by coming on too strong...the only way you will find out is if you aske her...don't be pushy just ask her what is going on and if you did anything wrong..girls are easier to talk to about this kind of thing so you should be fine..
2007-04-05 16:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's hard to tell - but wait it out a bit - if you were frequently asking her out then maybe you did 'scare' her a bit - but if she doesn't turn around in say a week or two (after you've acted indiferent to her - by the way - women love the hunt...) then I'd say she's lost interest and move on! wasn't 'meant to be'.... ce' la vie!
2007-04-05 16:37:55 · answer #7 · answered by thenakats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try asking her why she changed all of a sudden, ask her if you did something wrong...but if you are dead sure you didnt do anything wronng then maybe something is bothering her...probably some other guy...a hungup...or its possible that during that time i.e. the few weeks she just felt like showering you with attention but then afterwards she changed her mind...thats possible.
2007-04-05 16:39:51 · answer #8 · answered by rada 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something there that you can't see . Give her space if she wants to see you she will let you know . If not then the time you spend alone will give you a chance to see what you want in life .
2007-04-05 16:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by knightrunner13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's giving you the brush-off. Take the hint and move on to a girl who is actually into you!
2007-04-05 16:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋