i've been with my boyfriend for 5months. He's been really close friends with her for over a year already. even though he told me the dream didnt mean nothing to him, but mostly likely he told me so we wouldnt get into an argument or something.i still have my doubts. because i've heard that dreams are events that you desire, or just a thoughs u had. either way still worries me.
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2007-04-05 09:25:48 · 54 answers · asked by Princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A dream like this is usually indicative of his discomfort with entering this new relationship and doing so with such strong feelings for you. Often before a serious exposing of your true self to another that you are building a long-term relationship with. It is nothing to be concerned over, if anything it means that his feelings for you and need to be with you is strengthening to a point that frightens him a little. Be understanding and explain how much you respect his honesty with you and that in itself lets you know that you can trust him to be trustworthy! It was a big risk for him to share that with you and i am sure he came to you with this because it bothers him and he was looking for you to be understanding and encouraging about the growth of your love relationship and your friendship! Otherwise he would have just kept that one to himself.
2007-04-05 09:38:00 · answer #1 · answered by lovegodlots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it does mean he wants her. Boys are not capable of having a platonic relationships unless if they are gay. They are ONLY friends with a girl b/c they like her. Usually they are "friends" b/c the girl doesn't want the guy, but the guy keeps hoping she will see something in him someday so he sticks around.
He would drop you in a minute if he had a chance with her. Here's the worst thing about. Since he's been friends with her for a year he has now put her on a pedastal and compares every girl he meets, even you, to her. The reason for this is because he has now gotten to know her as a person...not a sexual object.
Ask yourself this. Does he ever break plans with you because she "needs" him as a friend or leave early from hanging out with you to because she's calls unexpectly to hang at the mall or something like? Does he take calls from her no matter how intimate you too are getting or even if you're just spending time together?
If you answered yes to any of these questions...you should dump him. He will never be yours as long as she's in the picture.
Good Luck.
2007-04-05 09:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Dreams are not always in the form of things that we desire. It would be a mistake to end things with your boyfriend over a dream. He said it meant nothing, so just believe him, trust is the biggest part of a relationship. As long as he has never given you a reason not to trust him, just give him the benifit of the doubt. Believe me, it will be much better if you just let it go, don't turn it into an argument.
2007-04-05 09:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by Squeakers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I understand....when one has a sex dream...depending on the depth of the dream...it usually means the person is trying to live out his repressed fantasies. Remember...this does not mean that he wants to have sex with this girl.
Talking about the dream and the details of the dream is ok, but, if he mentions certain person ..then....hmmm, and especially since your relationship is in a volatile stage,,,what I mean is that the relationship is still very new. I would let it go for now...."but"...if he brings up another sex dream and talks about the person that you two have in common,,,then yes, I would say something. He maybe insinuating something and if so, I would question his implication.
2007-04-05 09:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didn't tell you so you wouldn't get into an argument, come on that doesn't make any sense. Why would you get into an argument about something you have no clue about?
Dreams don't mean as much as you think, it's just the subconscious working overtime. In fact, most men don't even remember their dreams...think on that one.
You can't hold him accountable or to blame for what he is dreaming, only what he does. It's your choice if you want to make something out of nothing.
2007-04-05 09:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me clear this up for you...YES! He wants to have sex with every good looking female that he sees. It's a genetic urge that the male of almost species has. Now what separate us from them is that we are supposed to have conquered our urges. We are "civilized" and we can't just go around having sex with everyone that we find attractive. That said...keep in mind that those urges are still there and if an attractive female is put into the position of being a "best friend" then that could end up bad for everyone....to much temptation!
2016-05-18 00:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to the activation-synthesis theory of dreams, the dream probably has no meaning at all.
Although dreams are influenced by our thoughts throughout the course of the day, this does not mean they are special messages to us that we should carefully consider.
Here's one perspective:
"Activation Synthesis Theory is a neurobiological theory of dreams, put forward by James Allan Hobson and Robert McCarley in 1977, which states that dreams are a random event caused by firing of neurons in the brain. This random firing sends signals to the body's motor systems, but because of a paralysis that occurs during REM sleep, the brain is faced with a paradox. It synthesizes a narrative by drawing on memory systems in an attempt to make sense of what it has experienced."
from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Activation_synthesis_theory
2007-04-07 06:58:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dream just indicates that he may have a latent attraction to his friend. But the fact that he told you up front about the dream tells me that he really doesn't want her. If he did, he probably wouldn't have felt a bit guilty and not mentioned it.
However, these things can change. Just keep an eye on things and make sure his relationship with her doesn't change.
2007-04-05 09:32:04 · answer #8 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he told you shows that it doesn't mean anything to him. You were not going to find out about his dream if he didn't tell you about it. He was being open and honest and shouldn't be punished for it.
I had a dream that I could fly and I was a superhero...and that I was a guy, at least in part of the dream. I have no plans on being a superhero or flying...and I'm pretty sure I'm not a guy, and i have no plans on becoming one.
2007-04-05 09:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dreams about being eaten by werewolves, it doesn't mean I secretly want to be killed! Dreams are what happens when the mind gets turned off and goes out of control. The thing that makes us human is our power to control our emotions and live rationally. If he stays with you, respects you, treats you right, and even goes so far as to share his dreams with you, I don't think he's going to run away any time soon. Stop trying to be a thought cop, try to respect him back.
2007-04-05 09:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋