Help me please I am scared!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Please Read I need help!!!!!!!!!!!?
recently revieced a negative performance review, my work situation sucks, where as I was supposed to have one boss I have two. One never deals with me the other interacts with me on a daily basis. I am in older office everyone is 30-50s and I am in my 20s. The one women is my supervisor hates me and I hate her, she contastly micromanges me makes no effort to communicate with me and cuts me out of all the perks of the job like expensive dinners with clients. Other people in the office I have befriended because they hate this women. The women is 2nd in command to my other boss and also does the lions share of his work for the unit. I know I am not long for the job started sending out resume looking at graduate school. I want to leave on my own terms not theres, is a call to HR worth while to document what has happened? I know I am being railroaded, however the job is a trainee postion .

Answer 1

I don't think you should contact HR. You didn't mention anything specific in your posting that would be a violation on your bosses part so what would you complain to HR about? I've been a manager for several years and honestly, the employees who aren't doing well blame everyone but themselves. It's always a boss who doesn't like them or a co-worker who is getting preferential treatment. It would be to your benefit to listen to what was said in your performance evaluation and try to improve yourself. Having an attitude wont help the situation. You can certainly look for another job in the meanwhile, nothing wrong with that. If you go to HR and it gets back to your boss there's only going to be that much more tension. Unless your boss does something against policy, you'll just appear to be a whiner.

To the person above me, Short, it's no wonder you were laid-off, you can't spell or punctuate. You're a good example of what I was mentioning above, problem employees who don't think they are the one with the problem, they blame everyone else.

Answer 2

You are your own problem here, not this woman. If your job involves written communications of any sort, you should take a business writing class. That may explain the poor review.

If this woman is the second in command and is doing the lion's share of the support work, she should receive the perks (BTW, those "expensive" dinners with clients get really old after a while, trust me.)

If you were in HR, would you support a trainee with a poor performance review over an experienced and mature supervisor with some seniority at the company? Don't waste yoru time or make your situation worse than it is. Learn from this experience, find a new job, and do better the next time.

Answer 3

based upon my son's experience in a similar situation; the less you complain to anyone within the company you work for, the better. The more you complain the more likely you will wind up getting fired.

Bite the bullet, do your job to the best of your ability and keep sending out your resume. You will find a better job and be out from under the woman you hate.


Remember to that people like her are to be pitied. Most likely she has some personal issues that she tries to compensate for by acting in the manor that she does....

Answer 4

Keep your chin up and keep your pride. Try to stay away from all the office gossip. Try not to take it personally (easier said than done). Don't lower yourself to anyone else's standard. And, start looking elsewhere for work. I wouldn't go to HR ....
If you are "befriending people because they hate this woman" then you are making friends for the wrong reason, and perhaps you are a bit of a troublemaker yourself (??) Some people thrive on drama - don't become one. Good luck, and remember, there will people you don't like (and don't like you) everywhere you go - it has taken me lots of years to learn this. That is life.

Answer 5

I don't see anything here that HR would want to get involved in. They try to avoid conflict as much as you want to.

Just make haste to line up a new job and use a friend in the office (if there is one) as your reference, or tell the places you are applying that you would prefer that your current employer not know about your searching for other jobs right now. Most will simply contact your older references.

Answer 6

I think at this point you don't have much to lose by having a chat with the HR person. If they're losing staff because of someone on their team they would probably like to know about it.

It sucks but there's a lot of micromanagers out their and you'll probably meet many more throughout your career. Do the best job you can and soon you'll get the perks and expensive dinners.

Answer 7

If you go to HR chance are they will document it but it could cause you some problems later. Sometimes older women of authority like to be mean to young ladies our age. What goes around comes around. I left a job once because the store manager was like Satan. This lady gave you no breaks and she degraded everyone. several people went to the District Manager and she even belittled him. Finally after I quit I heard that the new DM ran her out of the company. Good Luck

Answer 8

Get a second part time job that can offer a second opinion off your ability to work also you may want to work on your people points with your boss don't worry about a bad review it might be you need to put in your brownie points.

Your brownie points are low score some

Answer 9

Babe, Either You truly working at that company or You're completely nuts!
You must have dignity and if this people can't simply respect You, What are Your opportunities for a real later growth?
Hopefully You don't need that job that bad, and You may get something similar really soon!
Good luck! Bear hugs! ;-)

Answer 10

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