I have my friend she's 21 years and she is 6 weeks pregnant , she dont know how to come to her parents to tell them. she want to keep the baby and her boyfriend want her to keep the baby too. the main problem is her parents and what other people will think about her. she is so worried about that. can y'all give me some advice . I want to help her get trough this cauz it not good for the baby and herself. plizz give some advice.
2007-04-05 09:01:44 · 14 answers · asked by louishebnajoseph 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
She's 21. Her parents might have an opinion, but it shouldn't count for much. If her and the father of the baby want to have the baby, then nothing should stop them. Especially what people outside the family have to say. Once she has the baby, her new family will consist of 3 people, and all the opinions of everyone else fade into the background.
2007-04-05 09:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me start off by saying, she is already 21 years old so shes an adult to live her life the way she wants. Im sure her parents will not be so harsh on her. It depends on the parents of course. Even if they are, they will come around and get over it and be happy! I dont see why anyone would think anything bad of her, she is 21 and pregnant......that is perfectly FINE! Women get pregnant all around the world everyday, different ages! Make sure you remind her that pregnancy is a beatiful thing and the sooner she tells everyone, the better it will be!!! Theres nothing to be ashamed or scared of, a baby is a present from god! Goodluck ;-)
2007-04-05 16:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by curious789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 21 years old and 21 weeks pregnant with my first child. i am not married and wasn't sure how my family would react either. Let her know that no matter what any one else thinks or says it is her decision. if she feels that she is ready and that this is want she wants, then the rest of her loved ones are going to have to accept that. My mother was against me keeping it at first, but i told that this baby was coming and its going to be her grandchild and rather she accepted it or not was not going to change the fact that i am pregnant and i am having this baby. It took her a few days but now all she does is brag about the baby or as she calls it "the great grand pudding" lol. tell her that things aren't always easy but if this really means that much to her that she is an adult and has to stand up for her self and her child. i wish her the best of luck
2007-04-05 16:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Condie's Mommy ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll try to help b/c I'm in the SAME situation.
Just let her know you are there for her. Your support alone will mean sooo much.
Let her know she has to live her life. Her parents and everyone is living theirs. You can't please everybody. If she tries to that she will never be happy!
Her parents may be upset but once they see the beautiful child...it will all pass. Everything happens for a reason (although we don't really want to hear that when we are going through trials).
I'm 21 as well, and I'm staying on my own. It's still difficult to tell my parents.
But let her know at the end of the day, it will be her, her boyfriend, and her baby. Don't worry about what other's think.
We ALL have secrets. There are some things we will NEVER know about other people. Just tell her to keep her head up. Try not to stress since she is pregnant. And enjoy her pregnancy. If this is her first child.....tell her to enjoy her pregnancy!!!
Keep us posted!
2007-04-05 16:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is 21 years old and having sex, then she should be mature enought to tell her parents that she is pregnant, and they want to keep the baby. Then both her and the baby's father better have jobs, because kids are expensive.
2007-04-05 16:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she's 21 and an adult. She can make her decisions. Just stand by her and support her decision. I bet telling her parents won't be as bad as she thinks. Most parents adjust fairly well after the initial shock. If they don't, just help her through it. Take her to Wic and help her get into social programs that will help her and her child. support the boyfriend too. He sounds like he's trying to stand up to his responsibility. Good luck to your friend
2007-04-05 16:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by lisaloxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only opinion of yourself that truly matters is the one you hold. Tell her that. It's the best advice I can give. She's an adult, and her and her bf can do as they please. It's not like she's 13, but her parents may make her feel as though she is. It's something she will have to overcome, it's part of growing up.
2007-04-05 16:09:42 · answer #7 · answered by Dizzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is never easy and is usually very stressful. I suggest bf and her sit down with her parents and give them the news. The parents are probably going to be upset, but then they will gladly accept God's gift. Good luck.
2007-04-05 16:07:26 · answer #8 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not like shes 15. As long as her and her man are prepared and willing to go through with it, it doesn't matter what anyone else has to say or think about it. Hope they work. The only way to do is to be straight forward.
2007-04-05 16:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by short 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all she is old enough to make her own decisions your being a good friend to her throgh this time in her life if she is financially stable to go and have this baby than i would say to her who cares what other ppl think its her ilfe with a new family
2007-04-05 16:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋