If you could have your first threesome over again, what would you change?

Question

I understand that threesomes are not for everyone and I'm not imposing a view of acceptance on anyone so I would ask that if you are opposed to threesomes and have not had one, please just click the back button.

It's possible I suppose that you might say you'd choose not to have a threesome, but that's not really the purpose of the question. If it was a bad experience, what made it bad? Could it have been good if something about it was different? Would you choose a different person than you did?

If it was good, why? What would have made it better? Did it live up to your expectations? Was it spontaneous?

I'm writing this out so you know that this is a sincere question and I'm looking for genuinely thought about reflection.

So just exactly how was that first threesome and what would you change about it if you had it to do over again???

Answer 1

You're absolutely right in stating that 'group' or 'shared sex' is not for everybody. It takes a grounded self-image, patience, tolerance, understanding, self-respect, stamina, inteligence, and the desire to please and be pleased.

Wanting to change something you've already done, even if it is just in your mind, seems a bit whimsical to me, so I simply don't do it .

Our first experience (my wife and I) was with another woman and could not have been more exciting, sensual, hot and well planned. When we decided to embark on this sexual journey we laid out the ground rules to avoid any friction. We have kept to those rules since, and have not had a single negative incident. Wnen you go into this realm with a plan and not just to satisfy your curiosity, it can be rewarding sexualy, emotionally, socially, and can do wonder for your relationship. If not, it can destroy not only the relationship but your whole outlook on sex in general.

I had to be riciprocal (that was one of the ground rules) and chose a partner for my wife to try first and then integrate into our relationship. That worked out just fine because of the constant and honest communication between my wife and I at first and then her 'friend with benefits later. We have been enjoying this lifestyle, without it being considered promuscuity, for 13 years of our 20 year marriage.

I would like to give more information, but as you understand, this medium is not the best for this type of exposition.

Answer 2

My first threesome was a little overwhelming. I'd go back and choose different people

Answer 3

I would definitely do it again, but I would like to have been less drunk. And I was really into the girl, but not so much her boyfriend, which kinda made me feel gross after, so next time I would make sure that I was really attracted to both of them.

Answer 4

If I could go back I wouldn't do it in the first place. It was with two guy friends (one was married and the other had a girlfriend) and I've regretted it ever since. I was drunk and it was a stupid, stupid mistake.

Answer 5

i didnt really get to join in! i watched a guy do my gf. at one point he was giving her oral so i went to her head and got some oral from her for a couple of minutes. then i sat back in the chair to watch again. well after she gave him oral for a while they then went on to intercourse. well i had planned on joining in at some point but the guy only lasted like 4 minutes! so i wish i could have been more in the experience than just watching.(although watching it was really hot!)

but oh man i wish i could have another kind of 3some. One guy in front of me and another guy behind me ; )

Answer 6

Three mutual friends works better than joining a couple

Answer 7

I wouldn't change a thing and if I had the chance to do it over again, I would do it the same way again & again & again.

Answer 8

I would have set asside more time, taken a long weekend or something.

Answer 9

i would do your mom

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