Me & my ex bf just broke up- 1st thing he did before taking away my keys(I moved into his apt)is to sneak into my jewelry box and take earrings & necklace that he gave me for my b-day &Valentines. While he did ruin my birthday, i wanted to keep my necklace as a compensation for the suffering he caused. I got attached to earrings,& when i checked the store-they didn’t carry them anymore. I, on the other hand, am stuck with a 1K ticket to Brazil-he wanted me to go w/ him to see HIS family. All that considering, his bonus is more then my yearly salary. Obviously,I didn’t take any gifts that I gave him. They weren't as expensive, but considering salary difference, more harmful to my budget. He still says he loves me(,that’s exactly the love I need)& doesn't let me take my furniture back until a specified date. Question–am I a complete idiot for being mad at him for taking for taking my gifts,or is it customary? Is there anything legal I can do to get my furniture &my jewelry back?
2007-04-05 08:41:46 · 16 answers · asked by Verochka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are not an idiot, what he has done is appalling and tacky to the extreme. Good for you for getting rid of this loser. Go file a claim in the small claims court, and see where it goes. The more evidence you have, the better - perhaps you have some receipts or photos of the items in question. Get a court order to at least take your furniture back; I don't know whether or not you'll be able to get the gifts back with just your word against his - but there's no doubt that what he has done is theft. Geesh... good riddance. What a jerk.
2007-04-05 09:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave my ex many expensive gifts and he gave me some too (diamond earrings and diamond necklace) and we both kept what we were given. Posession is 9/10 of the law. If it was given to you as a gift then it is legally yours. The only way he could take them back is if there was a written agreement that if the two of you broke up that he would get them back. The items are legally yours. As for the ticket, I would sell it on e-bay or something and get your money back for that. Also, insist on getting your furniture back on your terms. Your ex is in the wrong...
2007-04-05 08:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by NikkiWy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have anything in writing about the gifts he gave you? and since it was your furniture, do you still have receipts or can you prove you paid for it? because this is STEALING! he robbed you. plain and simple. my ex did that to me all the time when we were together. Always destroying my property and giving it away. call the police!!! have them write up a report. DO NOT let them talk you out of writing a report. they will attempt to make you feel like you are blowing this out of porportion and convince you not to press charges. the jewelry was a gift he gave you. thus relenting it into your possession. making you the owner. he can't take it back!! ask the police for an escort to pick up your furniture. i had to do that once. they came, walked me to the apartment and walked me back out the gate with my personal belongings.
2007-04-05 08:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not customary to take gifts that have already been given back. Since the gift has already been given to you, it is technically yours. What your ex did is underhanded and low. There could possibly be a way to get back your jewelry but there is a more likely chance that he can weasle away with stealing it. You might want to contact a lawyer and be glad that your childish ex is gone.
2007-04-05 08:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by TicketToFame 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is a dog act he gave you them gifts when you too were in love and any normal person well i know i would want you too keep them as a reminder of the good times we had together . if you have reciepts for the funiture by all means you can seek legal advise as far as the jewellery goes i dont know but anything you purchased you can take him too court over because by him not returning your belongings that is classed as theft and if he still loved you he would now have taken the jewelery back
2007-04-05 08:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by will982 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always take him to court. But I would do exackly what he did, I would also take the jewelery back. Especially if they were expensive. I think hes doing the right thing except for keeping your furniture. But you can take him to court and since the jewelery was a gift then I bet you can get them back. I watch a lot of court tv.
2007-04-05 08:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by FutureMrsBeck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is just really tacky of him to take anythig back. The only item he should ever be entitled to get back from you would be an engagement ring.
He sounds very selfish.
What you brought in, you should take out with you and any gift of any sort given to you is technically yours.
He sounds like a real jerk. You deserve better..
Good luck
2007-04-05 08:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by karr1213 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once given as a gift the giver cannot take the gift back you are entitled to it. Take him to court get your jewelry and furniture back and move on to bigger and better things,.
2007-04-09 08:02:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when someone gives you a gift, it belongs to you, and the gift giver has no right to them. your boyfriend is a creep, eh?
you can probably talk to legal counsel about the furniture. do you have a father or brothers? perhaps they could get a truck, go over there and collect your furniture for you.
you're not an idiot. he is.
2007-04-05 08:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just hang in there and wait to hear from her. Obviously you share a good relationships but she has issues to deal with. Dont make any assumptions yet even thought its easy to draw your own conclusions but thinking too much about it will make you confused and you havent done anything wrong to feel worried. Just believe that your relationship is strong and will work out for the best.
2016-03-31 23:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋