ok my husband and i are expecting a baby we havent bought anytjhing for the baby cause we dont know what it is yet but i fell that most of his paycheck goes to him and ofcourse his truck he wants to spend way to much money on his damn truck he dont give me money anymore all he talks about is buying new stuff for him and his truck i babysit a little and he wants me to put all my monye on a computer paymnet that we have. i dont know how to tell him that he is not bieng fair with the money and that when we find out what it is he is going to foucus more on buying stuff for the baby and not his truck? HELP
2007-04-05 08:29:08 · 21 answers · asked by Ariadna B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i forgott to mention we still leave with his parents and we will be moving soon to a small *** camper his mom got for us !!!!
2007-04-05 09:03:12 · update #1
Make a list of all the stuff the family will be requiring along with prices!! If he has half a clue he will start preparing now!
2007-04-05 08:34:10 · answer #1 · answered by Stitch 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with your husband and have a chat about what you need for yourself and what your baby will need (crib, bassinet,diapers,car seat, clothes etc). You have to make him understand that although he loves his truck, he needs to look after the people he loves first. It shouldn't matter who is making the most money, necessary bills should be first, then the rest of the money should be discussed and spent accordingly.
Marriage is about compromise and working together as a team. There is no I, in team, make sure he knows that his priorities are all screwed up and you and the baby deserve better.
2007-04-05 08:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by trojan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why have you put yourself in a financial position that renders you completely insignificant when it comes to how your money is spent? If he has a difficult time spending wisely you should take over the finances! No matter what, you should AT LEAST have access to your money. He should not be "giving" you anything. You have a right to YOUR money as well. I'm not sure how you have your banking set up but get access to your account and fast. Having no control over your money no matter how good your marriage is is just silly. You should have just as much say as he does when it comes to finances!
2007-04-05 08:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound to me he still is a baby should of thought about that one before he got you pg huh a man loves his toys well lets just hope when the time get closer he will wake up and say hey the baby needs a place to sleep then if he doesn't get the crib by then then tell him he's sleeping on the couch and the baby is in bed with you. that will wake him up.
2007-04-05 08:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all an obvious question: If he is so obsessed with his truck, and so selfish with money, what on God's green earth made you think that you would want to have a child with him? There are many traits needed to be a good father but is his behavior consistent with being a good father?
To answer your question, you just have to calmly talk to him and hope that he understands your point.
2007-04-05 08:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by eyedoc999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is this husband of yours?
You need to tell him to grow up and realize you have a child on the way and you need to prepare for that. You don't need to know what sex the child is to buy a bed, car seat, tons of diapers you will need, shirts, bottles, and the other "little" necessities. He needs to grow up and realize his truck is not his baby, but the human being growing inside of you is his baby and should come first...you definitely need to start saving money too.
Wish I knew what to say to you to help you make him see the light...I don't...good luck.
be cool...
2007-04-05 08:37:50 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you guys should go to some sort of a financial councelling or financial management thing.
He is a guy, and a lot of them are scared crapless when they know that a baby with someone they love is going to come into this world and they are going to have to grow up and take care of another life when they can barely handle themselves. Maybe his spending all of his money is his way of coping with his fears.
Nonetheless, you guys have to meet eachother halfway so you can take care of your baby and not go into ridiculous amounts of debt or get into serious fights.
I hope this helps.
2007-04-05 08:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by Jolie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being walked on. Stop letting him make all of the decisions. Stand up to him and make him take responsibility for his child. You can buy things for the baby in neutral colors like yellows and greens.
2007-04-05 08:40:48 · answer #8 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are his wife!
the key is communication!!
don't just write about what's wrong to us, tell it to him.
tell him that you're really excited about the baby and you're nervous that he isn't excited as you are.
tell him it seems like he's spending so much energy on his truck and not enough on you and your new baby.
then tell him you'd like it if he can be a part of the decision making process, like picking out the crib and sheets and bedspread and all of that.
tell him that each of you need to make cutbacks on what you want (like the truck) and more things that you need (to help the baby)
after all, you told us...now all you have to do is tell him! =]
2007-04-05 08:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kayla Arielle M. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I hear you!! Tell him that it's time for him to grow up cause there is a baby on the way. Tell him that he needs to give you money for the baby's things and to keep it coming cause baby's need things all the time.
2007-04-05 08:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by Doll 101 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋