im 14 now but when i was 12 i met my ex boyfriend daniel who was 28.He was abusive and he lied and cheated on me.He claimed that he was in love with me and wanted to marry me and have kids with me.The problem is now that we've broken up im very depressed but im too scared to tell my parents.because im scared of what they might think.
2007-04-05 08:27:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The positive thing about your problem is that you have broken up with a man who took advantage of you as a child...My question to you is why are you depressed? You now have a chance for new beginnings in your life....At this point in your life you need to take some time to learn to love yourself. At 14 you're just beginning to explore who you are as a person. Concentrate on loving yourself for who you are. I dont blame you for being afraid to tell your parents because they would probably have this man arrested for statutory rape. Your life is just beginning put the past behind you.
2007-04-05 08:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Joy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I'm telling you that telling your parents will most likely lead to charges. Second you need some kind of self esteem going for your self. To date a man of 28 and you where that young what is wrong with your self esteem? Do you not realize a man like that is a paedophile. Being depressed over an abusive man isn't worth the time of day. Tell your parents your depressed and have some issues with your self esteem and get help. In the mean time stay away from dating cause you will end up with an abusive man every time. You need to realize you mean something to you. That your worth more then abuse and you are a unique persons.
2007-04-05 08:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't really need to tell your parents. You need to get over him. He obviously only wanted you because you were young and he thought that he could control you. Really, he could get in some serious trouble for going out with someone so young anyway. Just realize that the relationship wasn't meant to be and that you have lot's of time to meet guys who will really like you. If you can admit that he cheated on you and that he was abusive then why do you even care about him anymore? You're better off with out him. You always feel bad after breaking up but when you do it while you are only 14 it will really hurt. I don't know whether this question is real or not because that big of a age difference is almost impossible but if it is then you should just follow the advice that I gave.
2007-04-05 08:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have thought he was in love with you. He may have thought that being attracted to you and being stimulated by you was being in love. He may have simply wanted sex. We will never know.
But what we do know for sure is that the relationship he had with you was illegal. You were vulnerable because of your age and your inability to discuss the relationship openly. That fact alone is perhaps the most dangerous aspect of illegal relationships involving minors.
I don't know the situation with your parents. If they are receptive and if they can get past their disappointment to show you the love and support that you need, then yes, tell them.
However, if they are not good listeners, if they cannot support you and get you the help you need, then perhaps it is best to go to some other adult first.
If you have a school counselor, an aunt, grandmother or some other adult that you trust, talk to them and tell them how you feel. Maybe they can help you get the counseling you need and help you tell your parents what happened.
If there is no one outside your home you feel comfortable with, then simply tell your parents you're depressed and need help (and tell them you simply want the help and assure them you will divulge more details when you're feeling better).
Show them you trust them. Allow them to help you - if they love you they will help and support you easily. Let them prove otherwise.
2007-04-05 08:50:44 · answer #4 · answered by OSA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear
Don't be afraid of what your parents might think no matter what a mothers love is eternal. Im sorry to hear about your situation and although you may be mature for your age this man has abused you. He took advantage of your youth and inexperience and told you what you wanted to hear in order to get what he wanted. This man should not be able to do this to anyone ever again. Talk to your parents, a teacher or any adult you feel comfortable talking to, this man needs to be taken off the streets before he can strike again.
2007-04-05 08:41:02 · answer #5 · answered by Desi W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable to be scared, but depending on who your parents are, they will always love you no matter what and would love nothing more than to hear the truth and be able to be there for you when your hurt.
If it was such an abusive relationship, then hunny, your so much better off without him, even though he told you all of those lovely things and made you feel invincible.
2007-04-05 08:32:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jolie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say so...you had a 26 year old boyfriend at 12...he lied to you because you were and are still a child and very gullible and easy to lie to just to get his way. Did he steal your virginity also? That is called child molest you know...tell your parents and the police and anyone else you can think of.
2007-04-05 08:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are legit, which I have my doubts, then you just need to get over it. If a 28 y o was with a 12 y o, it would be for one thing, and it ain't marriage or kids.
2007-04-05 08:33:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you were 12 you were with a 28 year old?Where were your parents?Your boyfriend should be in jail.That is disgusting.Tell your parents.
2007-04-05 08:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure that they will support you in this. Dont be afraid to tell your parents. Obviously you need their support.
2007-04-05 08:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋