Ladies: Do you think that you can adequalty raise a child without a man?

Question

This is not an attempt to slam single moms, but for you women that feel that a man's leadership in a home is not important, please consider these statistics.

A Gallup Poll finding showed that about “80% of all Americans feel that the most significant problem facing our country today is the physical absence of the father from the home.”

Stats::

63% of child suicides come from fatherless homes.
Almost 90% of all homeless and runaway children come from fatherless homes.
85% of all children with behavior problems come from fatherless homes.
71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
75% of all teens with drug and alcohol problems come from fatherless homes.
70% of all long term prison inmates were raised without their fathers come from fatherless homes.
70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions come from fatherless homes.
85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes.
72% of all youths who commit murder come from fatherless homes

Answer 1

Sure there are really deadbeat dads. But many homes are fatherless because the biased court system gives the mother complete custody over the kids in a divorce. Often the mother won't let the father see his children simply out of spite, this while turning the children against their father.

Answer 2

I would rather raise a child with my partner but if something happened to him and I was left to raise a child alone -- I think I would do an acceptable job because I would have very supportive and active male role models in my child's life, grandfather, brother, brother-in-laws, and friends. I don't where you statistics come from but I would be careful as stats about single parent households can be deceiving. Your stats say "come from a fatherless home" this does not mean the the father was not involved in the child's life and the institution of marriage is not a guarantee of problem-free children.

Answer 3

Sorry you stats don't mean much without the context associated with them such as when, where, how, methodology etc. There are plenty of children that have turned very well without having a male in the home. Generally these children find positive influence from others as well as from their mothers. There are a lot of children who grew up in good homes that turned out very badly. Every heard of Leopold and Loeb. No point in generalizing because sometimes there is no choice and a mother does her best. There are also single father homes that are perfectly acceptable as well. What about after the first and second World War when all those young widows raised their children to be productive. Your statistics really mean nothing and prove even less.

Answer 4

OK, first off: It's not that these kids (or adults in some cases) get into trouble just b/c they don't have a father. It's b/c the people that are raising them don't have enough support from THEIR family to help care for them and teach them the difference from right and wrong. I grew up w/o a father figure and all of the boy-friends that my mom had were worse than my dad and I grew up just fine. You can't blame the whole thing on fatherless families. It all depends on what the other parent or guardian teaches them and what they are willing to sacrifice for them. If the parent or guardian doesn't teach them the difference between right and wrong then the kids wont know the difference.
Even with all that said, (and my previous experience w/ men) I still believe that in order for a child to understand the world EVENLY, there should be both parents raising the child not just one! No matter who says what!

Answer 5

as a single mother of three......I have to admit the statistics you quoted are all terrible......heartbreaking in fact...........but I don't believe they are all correct......There are many very successful people in the world today raised by single mothers who work damned hard to raise children alone because the men they married were not men at. I have two daughters in school......both are honor roll students and the younger daughter will turn 7 next week.....she is 1st grade age.......getting straight A's in 3rd grade......do you think they would have been better off living in a house with their father in it.......My oldest daughter was there the day he held me at gunpoint......she still goes to see her therapist.........but I think mother and father doesn't always mean more well adjusted.......in some cases in means more damage......and another thing why are you asking the ladies.....if they are the ones raising kids in fatherless homes.....it seems your point should be made towards the absent fathers......they seem to be the ones at the root of the problem not the mothers who stay around to pick up the pieces......

Answer 6

In a fashion he's a clever guy yet that's what a prenuptal settlement is approximately, isn't it??? needless to say he hasn't fallen in love with all people only yet,,,, the main appropriate lady hasn't come alongside. he's proper if he have been to get divorced and the girl keeps the little ones..... sure he can strengthen teenagers on his very own and be a reliable father as long as he works at it as puzzling as he has in organization. He can't only bypass obtainable and purchase a toddler from a women individuals legally. i'm specific there are women those that would do this for the money component yet he additionally has too evaluate the courting a newborn has with its mom too. What of his courting along with his mom, whether or no longer that's reliable or undesirable...... the newborn has a stunning to get to be attentive to its mom....... if she is absent for the duration of its yearling years whilst the newborn is an grownup it could carry resentment in the direction of the father or seek for out the mummy. He could take that into attention..... Their are searigent mothers for couples that can't have toddlers........ if he's so wealthy he would not have a project dealing with a organization that deals with childless human beings or couples. He might have met somebody who could agree on having a newborn with him and proportion the bond of parenting giving the newborn a courting with a parents. of direction specific workplace work could might desire to be signed in settlement of different technicalities yet i think of He could be making a mistake only paying a women individuals too provide a toddler and stroll away....... a women individuals who can stroll away like that holds alot of questions of what the newborn might inherit from her genes. Your coping with a newborn, a residing man or woman, no longer a company transaction.

Answer 7

My father died when I was very young. My mother did raise me adequately but I feel that a father (a good father) is priceless.

Further, I think we need to stop down-playing the importance of a man's role in a family. Yes, a child can be adequately raised in a single parent household, but why wouldn't you want the best for your child, which is the benefit of each parent's role in a child's life, if it is available?

Answer 8

It's all very well going on about fatherless homes, but why are they fatherless? It's not JUST because women tell men to sling their hooks. A lot of fathers are off fighting in other countries and may not return. A lot of men walk out on women because they want nothing to do with the kids. Some leave their women for others..
You should show these stats to fathers as well before they turn their backs on their families.
As I keep pointing out, I know for a fact that some women can make it on their own. Not everyone needs to depend on others to get them through life.

Answer 9

I think it is possible since I know a couple of living example's of great people who were raised by just their mom. Having said that I think that both parents involved gives a child a more well rounded personality and tends to raise children who have confidence and ambition.

Answer 10

This has been researched for decades. I've been reading about it for the past 20+ years.
Ladies, the facts posted are correct.
You have a choice. You can continue to destroy the children of the US with you selfish and greedy little plans to overthrow society in favor of a matriarchy or you can climb down out of those self-made ivory towers and admit that men are every bit as important as women; mothers are just as important as fathers but NOT MORE SO.
It amazes me to this day and again on this thread to see the same old tired and incorrect excuses used again and again. Everything from the old standard "it doesn't apply to me because... " or "I know someone who..." to the most usual, blaming the problem on men.
The problem is feminism and what it has done to destroy families.
Sure, there are cases where a single mom has raised a well-adjusted individual just as there are intact families that have raised thugs but those statistics above indicate something and they are VERY telling.
Ignore them at your peril as well as that of civilization as a whole.

Robinson: Research shows that the children who lost their father through death fared almost exactly as well as those who lost their father in divorce (or never had one in the home at all). It all appears to be in the viewpoint of the mother, who after divorce is less than loving to the memory of the absent partner compared to that of your mother who loved your father even though he was deceased.