Is it too much to ask for your partner to spend time with you?

Question

My partner works during the day until 500pm and then goes and works on projects of his own until 10-11pm

Answer 1

I hate to be blunt about it, but maybe you need a new partner. If your partner is spending no time with you, it doesn't sound much like a partnership.

Answer 2

No, it is definitely not too much to ask...but if he is truly busy with things then maybe you shouldn't push it. I find that a good relationship doesn't necessarily need a lot of TIME, but really needs respect, trust, and understanding. My boyfriend doesn't really spend any time with me at all; I'm in a long distance relationship..ish. He doesn't live too far away from me but neither of us can drive and we rarely see each-other. The last time I saw him was 90 days ago! But we've been holding on for a long time now, and we don't spend much time with each-other at all (in person...we talk on the phone late night/early morning). We trust each other, respect, and honor each other. We also have very strong feelings for each other and the distance doesn't affect that negatively; if anything, it makes us love each other more. Absence makes the heart grow fonder . . . So if your partner is too busy maybe you should make a small request for him to spend more time with you but the relationship will last as long as both of you respect, trust, and love each-other. You could always spend time after 11 . . . ^_^' Hopefully things will ease up with you, and I hope that helped.

Answer 3

Some people are just really busy. I'll admit, it's not too much to ask for a little time, but on the flip side of the coin, sometimes it's nice to be able to do "your thing" when you get off of work. Instead of expecting time everyday, it might be easier on both of you to set aside a fair amount of time on a single day where you can spend time together. That let's him do his projects, but still gives you guys time to bond and be together.

Answer 4

No its not too much to ask for your partner to spend time with u, thats one of the reasons relationships fail, lack of time together. If he loved you he would make time for you, i kno he works late and stuff i understand but like at least he could take a couple f mins a day at least to do somthin with u. Ive been thru this my ex didnt wanna spend time wit me i had to beg and no he didnt work late that was before he got his job ...neways guess he just didnt want me.

Answer 5

Its not too much too ask but sometimes it does seem fruitless huh? I have the same problem with mine he is here but yet he is not. I feel for you and I understand but I have the same dilemma and don't really know how to help...I wish all the best. PS. Lately I have been making a point to jump in the shower with him..little things like that..make me feel a bit closer to him. But make sure before you start feeling too distant that you get his attention asap. Im sure he doesnt want to be single and niether do you. Good luck

Answer 6

Ah... join the club. Let him know how you feel. He'll probably start spending time with you. He probably misses you just as much. If this is a money situation, such as him working on own projects for money, then I wouldn't bother him with it, since you probably need the extra money. Otherwise, if he's just doing it to do it, I would talk to him abotu it.

Answer 7

I know how you feel, Im just living with my boyfriend at the moment, we have only been together for a year, and he does the same thing, except his thing is games. He gets home, eats and sits infront of the tv till he is tired. He asks if i wanna do anything, but i dont know!? everyone says its better than him being at the bar's..i guess but it still hurts

Answer 8

Not at all. Ive asked my husband if we could spend time alone but he doesnt seem to want to. Not even a handful of times have we spent time together. Hardly anything. But no it isnt too much to ask.

Answer 9

That's almost how my schedule looks. I work all day and once I get home, my girl (who doesn't work) wants to spend time, the mushy stuff, it seems only natural not to be in the mood for it.

Answer 10

Where exactly do you fit in? If you are in a relationship with him, yes he should be spending time with you. Sit down and tell him how you feel and that you miss him and would love to spend more time with him. I have a great husband, he hates to go anywhere if I won't go with him, he always wants to be together, it is fantastic. If you aren't real serious about him and it doesn't change.......find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and will want to be with you. His loss.