2007-04-05 07:28:04 · 6 answers · asked by Vannili 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
yes! in how you feel and see things. in your dealings with other people. in how you love yourself for what you are, including whatever shortcomings you have. it's what you are inside you, and being positive in all things. in how to deal with your emotions and feelings when times get rough.
2007-04-05 07:53:12 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do. Being happy is all about expectations. If you have unrealistic expectations, you will be unhappy. People in general would be much happier if they just tried to understand other people instead of trying to control them. If they just did their best and accepted that as their best. I think everyone should figure out what their priorities are, and then live by them. I think if you figure out what is toxic to you - that is, things that make you miserable that are out of your control - and remove them from your life, that will also make you happier. I think if you learn to do these things - you can be happy.
I am happy. I remove all toxic things from my life. I don't try to control anyone - I study personality science so I can understand why people do what they do. I accept people for what they are (and avoid them if their type is the kind that drives me nuts.) I change the things I am unhappy with, and if I can't change them, but I have decided other factors in the situation make dealing with it worthwhile, I just accept those things as the cost of having the other factors. Life isn't perfect. I don't expect it to be. Love is my number one priority.
For example, if I worked at a job where the upper management were crazy, I never got promoted, and the pay was terrible, but I loved my co-workers, I loved the work I did, and it was a really easy commute to the point that I didn't want to leave, I wouldn't "sweat the small stuff" - the things I have decided are not important because I have chosen to stay there. I may complain about the annoying things, but I ultimately don't get upset, because it is no one's fault but my own that I choose to stay.
It's like the saying, no one walks all over you without your permission.
2007-04-05 14:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by industengr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. you can't find happiness in material things or people. love can't even make a person truly happy, because you have to find it w/in yourself. how many people are in love, married, w/ someone, whatever ... and commit suicide? it's not about the other person. or have tons of money? unfortunately it's not about having tons or someone special. things & people help, but aren't everything, in my opinion. if you're not happy w/ or w/in yourself, you'll never be truly happy even having everything you've ever wanted in life.
2007-04-05 14:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by mrs sexy pants 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you are happy with who you are you can have a reasonably content life, despite day to day adversities.
2007-04-05 14:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Murray H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right! No one can tell you to be happy....it is feeling and you have to feel it! You decide what you feel about anything in life.......It's always your choice.
2007-04-05 14:32:05 · answer #5 · answered by Stephen F 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unless you're a felon or you head is full of BS
2007-04-05 14:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋