My husband make my son feel guilty for loving his mother.He makes my son feel like he has to choose all the time.When i do something for my son or get him something when i give it to him my husband says daddy got that for you before i can say anything. when my son huggs me or says mom i love you my husband call to him and start hugging him and telling how much he loves him ,he acts as if it bothers him for my son to love me ,its like he is making him choose all the time, and has went to extreams to make the fact clear,he makes my son feel guilty for showing affectshion for his mother.The other day my son said mom i want to hug you before dad gets home,thats how bad its gotten.I have told im what he doing to our child and he doesnt stop.The same with discipline if i tell my son he cant he says he can.its i do my very best not feed into crazyness,I will not play tug of war with my son.I love my husband but i do not want to scarfic my son mental health .What should i do
2007-04-05 07:03:41 · 8 answers · asked by bree167 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First word that comes to mind about your husband is that he seems to be a very insecure person with perhaps very little or no self esteem. When we grow up and become parents, we tend to stop thinking for ourselves as much and begin to focus on our children's needs before ours. Seems like your husband hasn't made that transition.
If talking to him isn't helping, I would suggest to him that you two go to a family counselor and discuss what's going on.
2007-04-05 07:11:45 · answer #1 · answered by Strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband makes son feel guilty?
2014-12-13 03:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels very insecure as a parent. He wants the son to adore him, crazy yes, but some parents do this. My ex was one of them, if one of the kids, which was my step, would say anything good about me he would throw a fit. They feel like they are the father and they deserve more respect. I could only shake my head and go on and not make a comment because of the children. The kids knew but didn't dare go against what he wanted. Parents like this are only harming their children. They have to be number one about everything, if you ever notice your husband probably tries being number 1 on anything and everything. I called them social paths who is all about them. Never mind that the child should be more important. If possible talk to him and tell him how you think it is effecting your son, and that he loves him as much as he does you and ask him what you two can do about this situation to make it better.
2007-04-05 07:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad your thinking about the kid so keep it that way . Don't you think your son know the difference ? Don't start acting like a kid your husband is doing that don't follow in his footsteps . Just be happy that your son is doing fine and love him . kids see allot more then grownups give them credit for . If the 2 of you act like baby's then your son will think its normal and be the same when he grows up . At least he has you to show him what a true grown up is .
2007-04-05 07:19:49 · answer #4 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called brain washing! He is being selfish and you just do your best to raise your son the way you think is right. He will be able to make his own choice soon enough.
2007-04-05 07:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband obviously has the emotional maturity of a 4 year old.
you must be a saint to continue living this sort of life....
drag your husband to therapy, he will kick and scream, considering his immature behavior. he needs some help.
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