Why do people talk about themselves alot?

Question

I work with this guy, and I'm sure we all know somebody like him. He gets very comfortable with people very quickly. He seems to open up and tell alot about himself. Today he was talking about his apt, and how he has it docorated and how he learned it from working with women and when girls come over they compliment him on his candles etc. To me its a bit annoying but I try to understand him. Is there some kind of complex people like him have? Is there a way for him to change? I can understand why he may add in a little "fib" it's obviously thinks it would make him "fit in" but I wonder if its a confidence issue. If it is then why isn't everyone like him? We all have some kind of confidence issue and we all lie. Anyways just wondering...

Answer 1

Most people who talk about themselves too much are lonely and insecure and the others who aren't are just full of themselves which leads back to some form of self-esteem issue as well.

Answer 2

First of all let me just say we all do it,its just in human nature.Most of the time its just a cover-up of a deeper issue that needs to be resolved that occurs at home.Its mainly an attention issue,were the person is missing the time of a family member or a close friend,so the person try to fill that void with the attention from others that will praise that person with the idol that his or her life is so great.Its just a quick fix for the real issue.It might just be jealousy of another person life,as the saying goes ''money can't buy love''.So that person uses the great material things to make someone feel bad about their life.Just know that person will do anything to make them feel better about them-self.

Answer 3

I get a kick out of people like that. Sometimes they're fun to listen to. Eventhough it may be obvious he's throwing in a little 'fib' which could be considered annoying, it's probably better to just laugh it off. He may have self-esteem issues and feels the need to stand out a little and seek others' approval. To each their own. It sounds cliche, but we need people like him in our lives to make it all (life in general) just a little more interesting.

Answer 4

Maybe he's just proud of his apartment and new decorating skills. He sounds like he may be a lonely guy trying to make some friends by impressing them. I would say he probably does have a self esteem issue.

Answer 5

It sounds like your co-worker may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. This disorder is characterized by extreme focus on oneself. It usually occurs due to social neglect as a child, from either the child's parents or other sources, so, he quite simply craves attention ... which he didn't receive as a child. He has to first admit that he has a problem, then, if he's willing ... counseling should help.

Answer 6

to each his own. every person is different. this is his own way of relating to other people by being open about his life. he's just a friendly person and if he doesn't harm anyone by just being himself, let him be. i know a lot of people like this in my work so this is nothing new and this actually gets everyone closer than ever and get along fine in the work place.

Answer 7

I think its part of our human nature to look out for number one. Ourselves. When we act certain ways around people, we are influencing them, even if we don't realize it. This guy you described, the only way he's gonna change is through the way you treat him.

Answer 8

it's either that he is very cocky and wants to show off or it's becuz he's proud of everything he has earned by himself... maybe he didn't have any of this wen he was a young kid or something like that... and he is just insecure and thinks that the only way to get people to like him is by showing off his stuff.

Answer 9

I had a girlfriend i dated for a couple years-EVERY conversation had to center around her. The second i would change it to something else it would go back to her.
I cant believe i stayed with her for that long-she drove me insane with that crap.