I have this male friend at my college, and I noticed lately that he talks to me only when he needs help with something.. He messages me on MSN about whatever he needs help with, but when I message him just to talk he NEVER responds... And on top of that, he sometimes criticizes me for every single thing, though i'm not his gf .. Should I stop responding to his messages as well?
2007-04-05 06:04:18 · 19 answers · asked by ♥ Lady in Pink ♥ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Please, do yourself a favor. Gather up whatever amount of self-respect you have that this guy hasn't trampled on and quietly walk away. There is no need to get huffy with him. In fact, you probably want to make sure that you don't get huffy with him because he obviously has issues and could be potentially off-balance. Just don't respond. At all. Ever.
If he catches up with you in person and asks what's wrong, just look at him serenely and say you've just been busy and in fact, are busy right now and have got to go.
Life is too short to deal with nutcases like this. You owe him nothing. Walk away. Quickly.
2007-04-05 06:13:11 · answer #1 · answered by rockerchick82 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has put you in his psychologist category, where he trusts you with your advice. Be grateful in knowing that you are helping him and that he realizes how smart your advice is by keeping on coming back. Maybe he just needs someone to talk to. However, just like a psychologist, don't expect your patient to respond in kind or to chit-chat. Maybe if you were to ask him for help with something small every once in a while, he might want to help?
From his criticisms, it sounds like he has advice to give you, but he doesn't know how to say it in a constructive manner. Maybe restate his criticisms of you back to him in the form of a question. For instance, if he says,"I can't believe you wear pink Uggs with your purple leotards", you might say, "Oh, I guess that pink and purple don't work well together, huh?" In that way, you are teaching him to state his advice in a more respectful way. If this approach doesn't work, you may have to be blunt and tell him to not talk to you in a belittling way.
Good luck!
2007-04-05 13:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Traveller into the Unknown 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already know the answer to this. Yes, he is using you. Stop responding to his messages and move on.
2007-04-05 13:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by ladywildfireok 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is. He's one of those people who just like to talk to someone when they need something but it doesnt go both ways. Eg. He probably wouldn't be too willing to help you out with something. & if he cant just talk with you then he's not a friend, stop letting him use you like that. Its not even a mutual "using each other" relationship.
2007-04-05 13:10:18 · answer #4 · answered by 456lily456 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like this guy needs a private Tudor or a free home work doer. Friends or romantic partner? not a chance. try not responding or feed him wrong answers and watch his tune change. He's not a friend , he's a user and a loser. Double time dump this drip, QUICK!
2007-04-05 13:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Gardner? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is using you.. stop responding to his messages and see how he likes it.
2007-04-05 13:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by Christie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to you, but if I were you I WOULD NOT BOTHER to answer him anymore.
He is probably either too shy or too arrogant and stupid. I feel inclined to believe the second as more likely.
So forget him. I'm sure you have other more trustable friends in your school.
Curious98
2007-04-05 13:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by curious98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st what do you think? and 2nd Yeah, stand up for yourself and tell him it's my life go criticize someone else, he doesn't want to talk to you i would say "the hell with you 2" Find someone else to do your work
2007-04-05 13:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop all messages and response to him. seems like he is playing you for stuff that he thinks he can get from you for free. or lays guilt trips on you to make you feel bad. i suggest you ice him and move on. no explanation is needed to end this chapter.
good luck.
2007-04-05 13:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by ty808 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes don't answer him. I had a 'friend' like that. Still hasn't returned my CD's and He even tried to get some booty from me. Run while you can and dont look back.
2007-04-05 13:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Tae's Wifey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋