He calls, sms's or Emails me at least 15 times a day to tell me how much he is missing and loves me too. Its been over a year now however he hasnt left her!!! She is now very suspicious and has even questioned him about me and who I am. He tells me he is leaving her and that it wont be long now. He sms's me from his house and goes out late at night to call me. I know that people may say he wont leave her however if he didnt feel the same way I did then why the effort ?
Do I wait or do I move on breaking my heart .
2007-04-05 05:55:00 · 17 answers · asked by waxy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Although he may feel the same way as you still does not matter. When you get involved with a married man you are setting your self up for heart break.
See even though he emails you and calls and does stuff doesn't mean that he is going to leave her or that he doesn't love her. If he didn't love her he wouldn't still be married. It may be the thrill of having someone on the side. And now that it's over it makes him thrive more to still keep in contact with you.
After a year you have to wonder why he still is with her and has not even seperated yet. Because he loves her, hunny.
I would think it's time to move on. After a year of not being together and however long you were with him and he still hasn't left her, that should mean something and make you want to do better for yourself because you deserve it.
Please if not my advice listen to someone because this can only get worse not better as time passes unless you move on.
2007-04-05 06:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by Kenneth and LaQuita B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking something you know the answer the question to. First of all what are you thinking he is married..Second do you really think that he loves you or using you? If he loved you he would not be with her it sure don't take a year to leave someone that you don't care about. Did you think of that? Thirdly, why do you want to be with someone who cheat on their wife..If he did it to her then he will do it to you.Remember you are breaking up a home especially if their are children involve. I understand that he goes out of his way to call you and everything else but that is not love playing with 2 women feeling don't you think? You deserve better why put yourself in this situation? Don't you love yourself? Come on there are a lot of single men out there and there is one for you. Remember Don't do anything that you don't want done to you. I'm sure you'll make the right decision. Your heart will heal.
2007-04-05 06:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He simply loves his wife more than you. To be honest he probably loves his wife and loves you sucking his ****. Plus If he leaves his wife for you, he will leave you for another. Once a cheater always a cheater. He can tell you till he is blue in the face that he will leave his wife, but " action speaks louder than words". Listen, if he can pull chicks half his age and wanted to leave his wife, he would have done it a long time ago! Once you are a little older he probably wont want you anymore and he will have to find another dumb young girl. Do you ever imagine him as your father? Creepy. Does he ever ask you whos your daddy? Grow up, wise up and find a single man , preferably one closer to your age who respects you. This old guy obviously doesnt. Hey I have an idea, he probably has a son your age. Sorry, to be so harsh, but if you dont end this behavior now, you will deserve the misery that will follow you the rest of your life.
2016-05-17 23:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A close friend of mine went thru the same thing. For 7 years. He never left, he lied.
Chances are, he will string you along until you get fed up and leave. Then he will find a new sidedish.
One other point to consider - will he stay with you? Would you trust him not to do the same thing to you after a few years?
2007-04-05 06:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, how the hell would you feel if you were the wife. Don't you see what you've done to her. I've been cheated on and unless you have been too, you don't understand the pain. Everyone on here is right, if he did it to his own wife, he'll do it to you. He's obviously not leaving her or he'd of done it a year ago when he "fell in love with you". Get your head out of your a$$ and find someone good enough for you.
2007-04-05 06:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by dyutz22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is TROUBLE with a capital T! You need to cut off all contact with him, and tell him that until he leaves her, moves out, divorces her, and goes relationship free for 6 months, that you are NOT available!!! This guy is going to play you, and wear you out until you are totally an completely sapped of all strength and self-esteem. I cannot stress enough - GET OUT NOW!! Besides, how does it really make you feel to be "the other woman"??? How would you feel if you were in his wife's shoes?? YOU are allowing her to be hoodwinked, and people who have any kind of morals at all don't do that to other people. It's wrong and selfish. Not to mention, I am 100% sure that you will get nothing but pain from this guy! Get out, get out, get out!! Enough said.
2007-04-05 06:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Aims4usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be involved with a married man to begin with! Then you wouldn't be in this predicament! Think about it...would you really want to be with this guy anyway? Obviously he is untrustworthy since he his unfaithful to his wife. Why do you think he would treat you any differently? It is a vicious cycle, and he will do the same thing to you. You need to get out now and ask the Lord for forgiveness for your indiscretions.
2007-04-05 06:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Ray-Ray 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend...
its quite a critical situation to love a person and knowing that he or she is somebody else's. before making any decisions.. just think abt his first family. will it be ok if he came along with u leaving that behind? or just think like this... he comes with u leaving his lady.... wont he go with another gal leaving u? just think abt it being in his wife's state. waiting wont help u. in the meantime... think cant u live without him? so i will suggest u to keep going with ur life leaving everything behind.
2007-04-05 06:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by dreamgal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if he was in love with you, he wouldn't be with her. it just doesn't work that way. he is staying with her for whatever reason, and you are fulfilling whatever is missing. he has no reason to give up either of you. but trust me, if he loved you, he would be with you and make a life with you. and then, you will always wonder who he is talking to, and who he is making feel that same way he made you feel when he was still with his wife.
2007-04-05 06:03:03 · answer #9 · answered by spacey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is never good to fall in love with a married man. Think about it, How you meet that person is how that person will meet with others.... What i mean is, if he can't be trusted with his marriage vows... How will he be trusted when you perhaps end up married?
2007-04-05 06:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by larua_2005 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋