It all started a month ago. With an old friend of his from high school that called. Now they talk all the time on the computer (IM's, emails) late at night. But he won't tell me what they talk about. If I enter the room when they are talking he hides the conversion. He gets up early to check the email before I get up. He say that I'm acting crazy. But I asked him whats he hiding, and all I got was you don't trust me or you can't pick my friends. After 9 yrs of marrage this is the first time that I think something is not right between us. How can I check to what is being said on Messager without him knowing?
2007-04-05 05:40:28 · 19 answers · asked by YVONNE P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get key logging software. Install it when he is not home. It will show you everything (IMs, text messages, passwords, websites, etc.). Let it run for a couple of weeks, then check it when you know he will be gone for a while Be prepaired for the worse. What he is not telling you is going to hurt. Save it all to a disk and store it in a safe place. If the computer mysteriously gets destroyed (to hide the evidence), you'll have the data saved to a disk (CD or DVD). It may be nothing, but it sounds like something.
2007-04-05 05:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying about what has been said and start horsing around with your husband. If he's having fun with you he will not look any where else.
Play a board game, go bowing, hiking, it doesn't matter what so long as it is something that you both can enjoy and makes you focus on each other. Heck, a good game of checkers could work. Your husband should also be your playmate and not just sexual playmate.
OR
Screw trust and slap a key logger on your computer and read thing that is written on the computer everyday because you will never know when things might change.
2007-04-05 06:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you can check his messenger that's something you need to do. Your husband is doing something and he is blaming you, that you don't trust him and the best one is a lot of men use thisone YOUR ACTING CRAZY don't believe in to it. My first husband had me really thinking I was crazy and that something was wrong with me. So don't let him use that. You no as a women that gut feeling your husband is up to know good, and he probably is. Just on what you said, I believe your husband is doing something wrong. If he just text her,right now one day there going to meet up and maybe they already have. You need to set a side a few days in following your husband. Or pay someone to do it. Your husband is doing wrong maybe he hasn't gone all the way but he sure is thinking it and has a interest in this other person. You need to find out facts.
2007-04-05 06:01:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation is only going to get worse. Trust is going out the door. Take some space and stay at a friend's or family member's place. You shouldn't even have to play these games at this stage. Be alone and reevaluate the situation. It will also send a message to him as well to THINK about what he's doing.
2007-04-05 05:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to snick up on him. Why should you do that? You are his WIFE....!! If you want to know, ask him for his user ID and his password. I don't have any problem sharing my ID and password for anything, because "I HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE". If he refuse to give you his ID and password for his e-mail and IM, then there is seriously something going on. Yeah, you can say ones privacy, but for married couple this shouldn't be a problem at all. Why wouldn't you want to share e-mail ID/password and IM ID/password? If your hubby is not willing to reveal his IDs and passwords....something is definitely up with him... Confront him and warn him for whatever he may be doing behind closed doors.
2007-04-05 05:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by Victoria78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is what spyware is for. You can get recorders to put on your phone at the local radio stores. Good Luck . He is cheating or he would not be hiding things. Get a detective. It is worth the money. Put a tracking device on his vehicle to see where he is going.
2007-04-05 05:55:39 · answer #6 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have his log in info. Go to message archives and turn it on to keep messages. Then when your on the computer, look at the transcripts. If you need help let me know, you can email me or IM me. I am good with this sort of stuff. And if this doesn't work, contact me, I have even more tricks up my mouse, lol, hehehe!!!!
2007-04-05 05:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by moostang67 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right click the start menu and open explore users if there is a log of the chat you can see it there if not then you would have to sign into it and archive all chat logs Also if he is cheating dont be a fool and do the same thing just get away from that situation
2007-04-05 05:44:48 · answer #8 · answered by aggadan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have to check he should just show you.... and when he said you dont trust me you should of said ya thats right because if you were honest you wouldnt be hiding your IM's and email.... it definitely sounds like he is cheating and would confront him, and you cant ck unless you know his passwords.... but im sure he is probably erasing the message archive in IM anyways and deleting the trash in his emails....
2007-04-05 06:04:21 · answer #9 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to find his password. but when you're using something like aim or yim unless you copy the conversation they don't stay once you close the im window. i would look for some evidence because i wouldn't trust that he's talking to her so late and hiding things from you
2007-04-05 05:45:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋