there was this girl and she was my best friend last year. but this year she found 2 new best friends so we went our seperate ways. we were still really good friends and hung out just not best friends. but now when ever her two best friends are around she wont talk to me and she wont let them talk to me. i will be having a conversation with them and she will come up and pull them away. when they leave she will pretend like nothing happened and go back to being my "friend". we used to have a huge group of friends and we all used to hang out together but now no one asks me to come hang out with them anymore. they will take the whole group but me and when i confront them they deny it. what do i do? it seems like its all her and she got really mad when i tried to tell her and said it wasnt her fault and it wasnt anything personal. what do i do and doesnt that sound a little personal?
2007-04-05 05:40:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Its obvious that this girl is not your true friend. Find friends that would not shut you out of conversations or treat you indifferently from anyone else. Its time to find new friends
2007-04-05 05:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by kkbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got mad and told you it was not her fault and it wasn't anything personal? If she was really your best friend she should have came to you right away and told you what was going on. dont waste your time on her and that group you used to hang out with. They were never really your friends, if not one of them came to you and told you what was going on. If I was you I would cut all ties with them all. I know it will be hard because they used to say they were your friends. Just remember real friends always defend each other they all just walked away. let trash stay with trash you are better than them and will always will you know how to be a friend.
2007-04-05 06:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by tarotcardqueenofswords 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make new friends!! Join a club and hang out with the people in it!! Hang out with her friends anyway and if she tries to take them away right in the middle of a conversation, just be like, "Excuse me, we were talking!!!) But say it with a really cocky attitude!! Who knows it might scare her a little and if it does she will let you finish your conversation. And yes that does sound a little personal to me but, you don't need her anyway!!! You can make all new friends like I said earlier and if she really wants to hang out with you then let her( you don't want to sink to her level) and if she doesn't want to hang out with you then ya'll will eventually go your seperate ways!!!
2007-04-05 05:49:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sweet Girl♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually it sounds very personal....
maybe shes just being straight up dumb because she found new friends.....maybe shes trying to show strength and power to control other people in front of her other friends......or maybe you did something in the past that hurt her except she didnt say anything and now shes getting even...???....dont take that personal by the way.......
sometimes you have to leave things as they are.....
theyll get better with time.....
meanwhile....find another group of friends to hang out with....
maybe then shell understand that you arent weak and that you are not going to take any more of her bulls**t and shell go and talk to you....
thats what happened to me and my best friend a couple of months ago...and thats what i did...and now we are closer than we were before!!!!!
2007-04-05 05:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you need to find some real friends. These fair weather friends will never be there for you when you need them most. I don't care if she is the one telling them to not hang out or talk to you. They aren't really your friends if someone can convince them not to hang out or talk to you. Find some others. God bless!
2007-04-05 05:44:29 · answer #5 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. reflect on yourself did you do anything wrong? girls hold gudges and it could be soemthing from way back. dont worry find knew friends its fun cuz its ppl u get to know u already know those girls get to know others, its easier to make alot of friends rather than controling a small gourp. Question were you like the "leader" of your group? i was once i was the bad a$$ of my group and everyone looked to me, but soon we grow up and they looked other ways and so did i. now that i got to know lots of ppl i have more ppl to ask me to hang out!
2007-04-05 05:46:16 · answer #6 · answered by kaylia j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't even discuss with your "friend". It seems like she's wanting to escape from you already. You should just tell her that you don't want to be friends with her anymore, and find yourself some real friends. Real friends don't push you off just because other people come around. Let....her...go!
2007-04-05 05:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by zjraheem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i don't think u shld make frends with the girls who r against u.u shld always make frends with people who are friendless and who first comes up to you asking for friendship.
as far as for ur old frend u ignore her and never try to convince her that u feel she is ur bst frend.u get dressed up well and do new & diff things to attract ur frends so that they leave ur ex frend & join u.and u try to convince ur frends that u give damn for what they did.main thing is try to make a new frend who is not in comparison with u so that she does'nt domimate u and respect u.people say that frenship just happens but it's important to select a good frend coz frndship reflects on us.If we are in good company then our reputation is well and if we are in bad company our reputation is bad.but never differentiate between rich and poor frends.Try to make poor frends coz they are really trustworthy.plz don't run for ur ex frnds coz they have showed their colors.if u have any objection again u can ask a question.
2007-04-05 06:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by blossoms_afshan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she left you, then she is so not a true friend and if all of the other "so called-friends" went w/ her then they werent true friends either! Just learn from the past and take it foward w/ u. [it does sound a lil' personal but people our age {assuming your a teenager} are a lil cold hearted and make descions that hurt people, but makes them popular {so they think} ]
2007-04-05 05:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would so not hangout with her she sounds like a brat! and if you friends arent hanging out with you its probably because shes saying bad stuff about you behind your back and i wouldnt listen to anything she says shes probably lieing! and i would find new friends
2007-04-05 05:45:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋