Is the saying Once a cheater always a cheater true?

Question

I want to know if there is actual hope for those who have cheated before.

Answer 1

My experience has shown that this has always proven to be true

Answer 2

Maybe....but I doubt it. Being unfaithful is actually a reflection on a person's character, which isn't likely to change without someone making a conscious effort to do so. It's not a matter of the particular relationship the cheater is in although that's often used as an excuse. A faithful person would break things off before pursuing a different love interest. Sometimes the cheater is insecure and self-focused. But it's my belief that cheating becomes an old habit and will always be justified by that person in some manner.

Answer 3

It depends in the conduct of the person. Does the cheater shows any remorse? Or it doesn't really matter to that person the pain that is bringing to his/her partner? If he/she is repentant, does his/ her actions back up that? If says that he/she is repentant, does he/she had cut any ties to the other person, or it's reluctant to finish with that relationship? I mean in all ways, no phone calls, no text messages or voice mail, no emails, I mean no communication at all with the other person. Period.Even if the cheater has to get a new job, or make any other big change in order to prove that you will not even think about the other person or persons.Once that person comes cleaner of that relationship, is he/she willing to get some counseling and work out on those items that are affecting your marriage/ relationship?You have to consider a lot of things, actions and words if a cheater would do that ever again. That statement is pretty conclusive. I'll say that you have to give some thinking, before jumping to any conclusions. After that, you can decide it that statement is true or not.

Answer 4

I have heard it said that people can change. And that is true but only if they want to. If a person is truly sorry for cheating and can admit that they made a mistake, then there is a possibility that they can change and the saying doe's not apply to them. But on the other hand when people are cunning and conniving, and use to getting away with dirt.They don't care about your feeling and cheating is second nature to them, they only care about not getting caught. And in there case the saying is absolutely true once a cheater always a cheater!

Answer 5

No, its just been said so many times, people start to think it is true. When someone cheats, it is really not the cheating that is the problem. Cheating is the RESULT of a problem. You have to understand all the factors that caused the person to cheat in the first place. It is generally because they are not getting their needs met --- and I don't mean just sexually, but emotionally, intellectually, spiritually --the whole nine yards. A relationship encompasses all of these aspects. That is why communication is a key ingredient in a happy satisfying relationship. Once the cheating has been discovered, both people have to decide if they are willing to forgive, make changes, and move on without bringing it up every time there's another problem. Sometimes they can and sometimes they can't do it. But, there is ALWAYS hope. Life without hope is meaningless.

Answer 6

Am a firm believer a cheater always a cheater. I seen it I lived it. However is there hope yes. Only if the cheater puts God in the center of it, otherwise if the cheater revolves around the world and not have God in the middle of his life he going to do it again and again. The cheater was temped by temptation, lust, whores, etc....and the only one who can deliver the temptation from the cheater is God. He/she can't do that alone. If he/she could of he/she would of never cheated . So God has to be his way of life or he/she will do it again. He/she did it once and they will do it again and again, he/she has no boundary's but with God in the center there will be boundary's.

Answer 7

No I don't think it is. I think people cheat cause they haven't found the soul they are ment for. I know from exsperiance, I was a cheater to a very good man who didn't deserve anyhting like what I did to him. But in the process I found my soul mate, who also cheated on his very good spouse. Well 2 years later we are happy together no cheating in sight, an vow never to cheat on each other again. As to our ex's he has done much better with his life became a truck driver, stood up to his jerk of an uncle and is planning a move. and She has found a new love, moved him in, and now together they are happy raising each others children. So Yes, I believe there is hope for cheaters. Good Luck! But remember, you can only change if your willing to change!!!

Answer 8

I cheated on my ex boyfriend for almost the entire two years we were together (with the same guy) It was both sexual and the fact that the other guy was like my friend that I needed in my life. Needless to say me and my ex broke up. I told him all about me cheating on him. Then I met this wonderful man that I used to date years ago. I was more in love then I've ever been. I completely stopped talking and seeing my lover the day my new man and I got together.
I could never see myself with anyone but him. I've talked to my lover a few months ago. My brother gave him my number because he knew it was my birthday. Well he knows that there could never be anything between us and that I am totally in love with my man. He wishes me the best as I do for him. But yes people change. I did.

Answer 9

I guess it's all different to everyone, but for my own experience the first time he did it,I forgave him. He change,he promised that the pain that he coast me is not worth loosing me, but after so many years he did it again. I guess to me a cheater will always going to be a cheater...

Answer 10

I believe that people can and will change. The person I am today doesn't even closely resemble the me of 20 years ago.

Believe in a person's abiity to change. A man or woman who cheated before may not be in the same circumstances today as when they cheated.

Answer 11

It is true, there is hope, it takes complete self control, avoiding a relationships with the opposite sex. It is a addiction. Remember history is a great teacher. Are you considering a relationship with this person ? yes ? be careful, already in relationship ? yes, move on. It will hurt, but will hurt less than when you are married and you find out your spouse has been cheating. Already married ? ouch, get counseling & therapy.