I am married with 3 kids. I have a wife who I think is hot and I am committed to her. It seems that I am constantly taking or picking up kids from events. Anyway there are many very attractive mothers at these things that I see every time we go. I hate it when I try to make small talk when we standing there and they act stuck up or strange. Almost everyone there is in the same economic level so that is not the issue. The will talk to my wife for hours. My small talk usually involved the kids or weather so there is nothing risqué. Strangely enough I have become good “small talk buddies” with some of the less attractive mothers. It is not my appearance. Both wife and I keep ourselves in pretty good shape no beer belly or bad breath. I know from 34 years experience that I am considered to have a clean cut appearance and fairly attractive. So, question is why the big difference in the way very attractive ladies treat me and other men? Do they get hit on so much that they are reluctant to be friendly or do they just have attitude issues? If there are any of you out there I would really like to know. I guess I should say there are a few very attractive ladies there that have great personalities so it is not all.
2007-04-05 05:17:44 · 8 answers · asked by Johnny S 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yea, I have run into similar issues. I think they are just worried about what others will think or they just have attitude issues. You can not lump all into one basket.
2007-04-06 03:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hit the nail on the head with having been hit on so often they are wary. Also some might have jealous husbands?
Not to stroke your ego, but perhaps if you are attractive, some of them just do not trust their own reactions to you. This is more common than you might think! They might not have "naughty" intentions, but the conditioning still kicks in.
I was very active in running such meetings and activities in our school for 18 years and I know exactly what you mean. I immediately visualized some similar situations. I noticed that, as the families became more familiar, these things disappeared and by the end of the school year families were camping together and it was very different. But then, ours was a school that ran on parent participation to make it special.
(I still say if you want to get guns and drugs out of a school, bring in the Momma and Grandma patrol!)
Just be patient. Perhaps join your wife when she is chatting with one of these women and let them see you are a committed man in a happy marriage. That message will soon be understood and I am pretty sure things will change.
2007-04-05 05:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ever consider that you might have offended them by not acknowledging their attractiveness. a small flirtatiousness, but with no objective serious potential. I'm a married guy for 20 years and get along well with women. But I also grew up with all sisters. A complement is kind, but it does not have to be hitting on. Yet many ladies feel you dislike them If you simply talk about evasive topics and are impersonal. noticing nice jewelry or a dress is fine. obviously complementing breasts and buttock is overboard, and anything like complementing the eyes might be boarder line. best to keep it low level and learn each ones boundaries. and some may be actively avoiding you because you are a married guy and off limits.
2007-04-05 05:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by krimlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of eye-catching women would post partitions to weed out the deadly attraction weirdos. Then while they watch you communicate over with different women, they'd enable their look after down and communicate over with you. i does no longer take it in my opinion. I stay in a small city and sometime rumors start or spouses get ticked off while a girl and a guy communicate. i could merely stay friendly with all the mothers. i think of it is great which you're helping out plenty with your babies' activities. I desire greater dads could try this. perchance assorted the mothers are no longer used to having men around throughout those cases. i certainly desire a superb communication with men. i think of they are greater thrilling. It gets previous talking to a similar women daily. merely save doing what you're doing. your babies are very fortunate to have the form of great dad.
2016-11-07 07:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Attractive women do tend to get hit on more. That's just a fact. It sounds as if these particular women don't handle it well or are tired of it, and are assuming that ANY guy who tries to talk with them is eventually going to start up. So they put on a protective front which is offputting to one and all.
Just my guess.
2007-04-05 05:29:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confidence!
2007-04-05 05:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Drujon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A female knows when you instantly undress her with your eyes. Based on you speaking of physical appearances a lot in your question, I'm guessing you might which they would have picked up on your doing so and avoided you as you mentioned.
2007-04-05 05:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have been out of the game too long. Just do what you want... everyone is in their own world anyway.
2007-04-05 05:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋