What's wrong with me, why do people hate me now????

Question

I've always been outgoing and had people like me. I'm always friendly and give advice or try to. I'm pretty but i'm not vain about it.

Well i had a close group of friends kinda like you would see on any show where they always do stuff together. Plus a bunch of people i would hangout with a few times a month. It used to be to the point my cell phone would never stop ringing and i would have to hide, so i could at least watch a good movie alone. Then all of a sudden the aquantances stopped calling so then i moved out of state and my close friends begged me to come back so 6 months later i did, now it's been 4 months since i been back and only hung out with them 3 times and no one calls me anymore!!!
My new job no one will talk to me, i will go talk to them and they act like i didn't even say a word!
Every job i've had before people gravitated towards me, now i can't even get a hello when i walk in to work. I still shower daily and wear stylish clothing same personality,

My question is what happened to me, am i missing something, am i a freak now!
How can one person be liked by sooo many all of a sudden not even an aquaintance will talk to her.
I'm so friendly it sickens me sometimes lol

geesh just wanted some advice and i'm being called self-centered.
I don't act like the world revolves around me, all i was saying is how can some one have soo many people as friends all of a sudden not even strangers talk to her.
I'm a very nice person you listens to people who need advice , i'm always helping them by babysitting for them.
LOL yes i still have all my teeth.
I just want to know how can all these people all at once not like me at the same time, and they all don't know eachother all scattered from different towns.
KArma??? i never really done something that wrong to have karma.
Please some sincere advice, not crap to make me feel worse

Answer 1

honestly if I were you I would just move back out of state.

Answer 2

You sound a lot like me personality wise! You sound like a great girl. I would love to answer your question but there are so many things I don't know about the situation that I can't begin to formulate and answer. For example: Why did you move? What were the circumstances surrounding your move away and then back? Was this a positive move for you? How old are you now? If you were in high school and are now in college then there's a lot of good reasons your social life has changed. Age has a lot to do with it. How well did you keep in touch with your friends when you were away and how often do you try to now? Did you have a falling out with anyone? I need a little more info! What is going on in your life, positive and negative? And, what kind of job do you have and are the people you work with around your age?

Listen sweetie, no one hates you. And a huge part of your problem if that fact that you think something is wrong with you and you allow that to bring you down. People can sense your lack of confidence. You need to stop spending so much time worrying about what people think is "wrong" with you. Also, I would suggest you spend some time with yourself thinking about the person you are now and the type of people you would like to surround yourself with.

Here's the big thing and maybe the hardest-you have GOT to talk to the "friends" you had from before. You need to let them know how you are feeling and how they are treating you. You haven't been there for a while and they had to move on without you. They probably just got so used to you not being there that they don't think about the fact that you are in such easy reach again. If these people are good friends then they will listen to what you have to say and try to rebuild that friendship you used to have.

Answer 3

Well, you were gone for 6 months, during those 6 months you were gone, your friends didn't just sit around waiting for you to come back, they went on and lived their lives without you. You have to do the same. I am a little perplexed that your close friends "begged" you to come back, and now aren't all that interested in you as much. I would talk with them, maybe invite them (separately) to lunch or dinner and tell them honestly that you came back mainly because they asked you to, and now you're wondering why they wanted you to so badly, since they haven't made much effort towards doing things with you since your return. However, you need to make the effort as well, are you calling them, or are you waiting for them to call you? Something to think about.

On your new job, I don't know what to say, sometimes some companies new employees have a harder time fitting in, especially if it's a company with quite a bit of turnover. The longtime employees figure there's not much point in being friendly with the new hires, since they don't usually last long anyway. I don't know if that's the situation or not, it's just one idea.

Maybe you should take a class, or join a club, or do some other activity outside of work that interests you. That way you'll build some new skills, and meet people with similar interests.

Friends change as we get older, our lives change, and the people we once felt were our closest friends are no longer as close as they used to be. This is normal. I have a good friend that I lived across the street from 6 years ago, then we moved to another neighborhood in the same city. Now, I'll go a month without even talking to her. We're still good friends, but our relationship has changed, simply because we're both busy with other things in our lives.

Good luck, you don't sound very happy though, and I can't say I blame you. Hopefully you can get things turned around for you soon. I do know that YOU are the one that has to do it though, you can't wait for it to happen to you, or you'll be waiting forever. Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

You could try taking the initiative. Call your people and suggest y'all get together. If you were a good person before, I'm sure you still are. Just be yourself. The people at your job probably just need some time to get used to you. Don't force your company on them. Be true to yourself. You must have moved outta state for a pretty good reason. Don't let your friends govern the decisions that affect your whole life. If all else fails, make new friends. It's spring, so all kinds of community sports leagues and things like that will be starting. Most of them don't require a huge amount of skill. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

It is clear that the only reason is that you changed settings. You moved out of state, and came back. It has nothing to do with you or your personality. You are expecting what went on for years to redevelop in 4 months. It will come soon, just give it more time. You have nothing to worry about. If things do not pick up within a year, I would say it is definitely aliens. When you moved back, you might have awoken in a city in which everybody has been taken over by alien body snatchers.

I have actually done the same thing. Moved for awhile, and came back. The difference is, I have never not in my entire life paid any attention to who likes me or how many people like me or how much they like me. If I leave and come back or whatever. If less people talk to me less frequently, I would never even notice it. It is just stuff I have never had any reason to pay any attention to. I consider my friends to be my friends whether I talk to them everyday or don't hear from them in weeks. I will talk to them as if I just spoke with them yesterday like no time past. Honestly, I have good friends that I do not hear from in weeks, and never give it a second thought that I have not heard from this person in awhile.

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Answer 6

Those people were never your friends. They were your friends on a conditional basis and that doesn't equate to stable support system. All of you are growing up and going in different directions, your life can't stay the same always. I would say give it time, and people will warm up to you. Also, don't depend on your job for friends, find different activities that interest you and you will meet people that share the same interests as you. Good luck.

Answer 7

You sound like a very self-centered person, mature intelligent people don't want to be around your type. It's too much effort to be your friend. Maybe you have not grown enough as a person lately.

The world does not revolve around you.

Answer 8

OK ITS TIME TO CHANGE AND GET HOPE-STOP GIVING ADVICE UNLESS ASKED FOR-RELAX AND MAKE NEW FRIENDS AND FIRST WITH HOPE=EVEN STRAIGHT THIS WILL WORK FOR Y0U =

YES THERE IS HOPE IN JESUS =EASTER RESURRECTION AND NEW LIFE

i PRAYED Jesus I am sorry for my sins, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen" now i live in the joy set free of salvation and promise of heaven forever too

Jesus promised "I love you, and knock on your heart door to come in deliver from sin and be your friend if you ask me in repenting of sin to be in fellowship with you and you with me." Revelation 3:19&20
Romans chapter 1 which is for all mankind =says by being unthankful, we worship the created rather than the creator and without salvation can be turned over to a reprobate mind to do what is wrong until we get salvation. Worked for me!

Ist Corinthians 6:9-13 "Homosexuals, fornicators and such WERE some of you, but you have been cleansed by the blood of Jesus."

if you stand by someone who is going against JESUS-you got the problem
being in hell for a day-that would change ones whole life-to come to salvation & pray more for those lost -not to go to gnashing teeth torment forever for rejecting the one that would love them forever=Revelation 19-22nd chapters Jesus describes the joy of salvation and heaven to come, and the agony of damnation.
SOME SAY THEY believe in Jesus...but they dont follow Him...no use..they just know Him by name...it's their choice coz for some reason and time they are happy with their PLEASURE FOR A SEASON IN SIN...God gave us the freedom anyway to choose from right and wrong

Answer 9

sweetheart...i wud like 2 add my personal belief to ur question. it can be several reason but wat im seeing is that, 1st u wanted every1 to give u attention and wen u avoided them all, you suddenly started feeling insecured. its ok...u dont hve to worry. if they love u, they certainly will come back to u. and if they dont, so do not hesitate to take d 1st step urself.

Answer 10

its not about the looks its ur personality .try fixing it if something is wrong...........and ur friends......r ignoring u?....try talking to them and asking them whats up! just sit and discuss comly......do u only be friends to those who r kool......be friends with every 1 ......hope that helps:)