Do you regret that you got a divorce? How bad was your marriage? Please give details.
2007-04-05 04:46:21 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was married for almost a decade to a guy who cheated, lied about EVERYTHING ( even lied about lies) and who wouldn't keep a job or pay bills when he did have a job. HE MADE ME MISERSERABLE! We had two kids, so I stuck it out as long as I could.
Then, I got a divorce, met the love of my life and I am now happily married. I only regret being married to the ex as long as I was, but I do not regret the divorce one lil bit.
2007-04-05 16:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't regret getting divorced. Coming to the decision to divorce was very difficult. It took a long time, a lot of soul searching, and prayer. I wanted to consider what was best for my child as well as for myself. I prefer not to give details of my marriage as it is personal, but I can tell you it involved adultery, physical and emotional abuse. The day of my divorce was much happier than the day of my marriage! One of the best things to result from the divorce is that I have grown so much as a person and evolved into someone I actually like. I have achieved more than I ever dreamed I would in the career world and as a result am more free to enjoy the things I like. I don't think I could ever marry again. I was married for 22 years and have been divorced 16. The men who are in my age bracket that are single, in my experience, have major problems (ergo the singleness) like drink too much, don't/won't work, abusive, prison history etc. OR, they want women who are younger and prettier so they can feed their fragile little ego's. That has left me to date younger men, which is all right for a while, but I don't want to "train" anyone any more. In the end, I had a father and don't need another, have a child and don't need another, so I would love to find an adult male who is not intimidated by a successful independent woman who just wants to do fun things together.
Divorce is not always the answer, but sometimes it is the best thing you can do for yourself.
2007-04-05 05:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by TexasDolly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are much better answers already, but I feel it should be said: You can't afford counseling? Well, what is your *marriage* worth to you? And if you can't afford counseling, what makes you think you can afford a divorce? Okay, some real advice. If you still care at some level for the guy you're residing with ... then relationship and marriage books should be affordable. Buy some that look interesting and read them first. After that, I would just hate for the two of you to wait until you really have nothing to lose before you start really communicating with each other. Good luck. Oh, and it probably won't get any better on its own thanks to the rut you two are in. So don't stick it out just to stick it out. If you want something better (with or without him), try to be more proactive.
2016-05-17 22:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 42 and been divorced for 5 years and was married 16 years and dont ever regret it, in my marriage he played a lot of mind games, degraded me, expected a lot of me but there was no physical abuse... in the last 2 years of the marriage it hit bottom, I was very stressed out, depressed, and he put his business and himself first and not his family, and I was taking care of our home, help at his shop, and raise our daughter it all became overwhelming and nothing changed for the better so I decided to leave... will never regret it because now I have someone that loves me for me, respects me, and is really grateful for the things that I do....
2007-04-05 06:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, both my husbands cheated on me, I did not want to spend the rest of my life with men who lied and cheated like that, and I have so much more freedom, I moved away from the quiet town I lived in, got a much better job, and now have the confidence to look after and support myself.
2007-04-05 05:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did not regret getting divorced at all , i thought about what would be better for everyone involved so i just kept thinking and putting in my head that it was for the better and eventually you believe what you think and now i am happy
2007-04-05 04:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by dawn p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right you will not need anyone else to tell you this answer ! you will know it trust your inner voice and when it says "go" do it . Dont look back and dont regret. Dont remember the good times and forget the bad, you will know when it is time.
2007-04-05 05:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by waxy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope it was the best thing I ever did. My ex was emotionally abusive and occasional physically abusive. The physical, though I know bad, was not done daily, or weekly, so that wasn't the big deal, it was the emotional abuse. He still continues to harrass because we have kids together, but I am much happier living without him day to day.
2007-04-05 04:51:37 · answer #8 · answered by Elvira 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
NO! i LOVE being divorced!!!!
are you kidding?
my marriage was bad, he lied and cheated, and it was all too much freakin drama!
no i do what i want when i want with WHO i want! ha!
2007-04-05 04:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not one second!!! He was a jerk!!!
My ex cheated, lied, hurt me physically and verbally.
2007-04-05 04:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by Raney 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋