its like she has destroyed me in every way possible and i should be happy to be free, but i have dated a few girls since and i dont have the connection with them, i really feel bad about it, but im just not happy with them, i have a new girlfreind now and she lives in japan, we have met and its great, she wants me to go to japan but i just dont feel what i had wih my ex wife? is that normal or is it just how the saying goes "time is the healer" HELP!!!!!
2007-04-05 04:27:38 · 12 answers · asked by tresflip1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like you're not giving things a chance with your new girlfriend. All you're doing is comparing her to what you had with your ex wife. Your relationship with your ex wife took time to develop and grow. In the same way, you have to allow your new relationships that time. It takes time to get to know someone well and develop intimacy and trust. Give things a chance before you start comparing. Just focus on your ex wife's bad points and you'll soon remember why everything went wrong. Time is a healer definitely but you have to allow yourself that time. Maybe you're not ready to have a new relationship yet. Even though we resent our exes and can see that we're better off without them, it sometimes takes time to adjust. No matter how much of a devil woman your ex wife turned out to be, there was still a time when you were happy and in love and you shared many years with her. It still takes time to move on even if things did end badly. Good luck!
2007-04-05 04:47:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were in a relationship with a compulsive liar and a serial cheater. You were bamboozled. I have no doubt there were women before you just like there will be women after you. Unfortunately his wife is the poor victim in it all. Breaking the addiction to a love is very hard. You can logically convince yourself this guy is an ***, but your emotional memory is hanging on to the incredible feeling of intoxication that you had with him. You are torturing yourself by having any contact with him even if it's just checking up on in Facebook. If you want a memory to go away, you have to stop feeding it. Hopefully, you have learned your lesson about messing around with a married man. They are highly selfish and very little they say is true. Don't make this mistake again.
2016-05-17 22:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a you break away from woman completely so that you can heal!! I know it sounds silly but time is a great healer and in time you will be able to meet Woman and the spark will be there Trust me! X
2007-04-05 04:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by little kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can heal. You should take a few months or even years to stay single and reinvent yourself. Do something you have always wanted to do.
2007-04-05 05:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to move on mate..don't hang on to the past...be happy for a change and stay with the one in Japan...she's an ex for a reason.....move on
2007-04-05 04:42:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your wife is such a devil then you're right about giving it time and moving on.
2007-04-05 04:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to heal before you date any more women. Get the devil outta your system first.
2007-04-05 05:07:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o dear,seems she is still hauntin u even though u split up. maybe u have to wait for a woman to come along who really drives u crazy,in a good way i mean
2007-04-05 04:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by kc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have some devil mommy issues!
2007-04-05 04:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you are missing with the new women is chemistry and connection
there is someone or many someones that will have that
2007-04-05 04:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by ann s 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋