2007-04-05 04:20:17 · 18 answers · asked by sticky nikki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you 'think' she's cheating, stay out of it. If you know for sure that she is cheating, tell her, and let her know that you expect her to 'fess up when he gets back.
Do NOT tell your brother anything as long as he is away from home and can't do anything about it. You would be stressing him out in a dangerous situation. That is not helpful.
2007-04-05 04:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT tell him - he's got enough on his mind!!! If you are all adults, you can go a couple of different ways. (1) You can hire a P.I. to find out if she's really cheating. (2) You can follow her and take pictures or gather evidence. If you do get evidence that proves she is cheating, confront her alone - make sure no other family members know about it and do it in a public place (take her out for lunch or something). Tell her you know what's going on and ask her to leave your brother or be faithful to him. If they've got kids, tell her to quit messing around or you'll give the evidence to the whole family. Your brother is in harm's way and in a difficult situation, make sure you don't stress him out more. Put the stress on her (if she IS cheating). If you can't find proof though, let it go and don't treat her any different. Good luck! :)
2007-04-05 04:32:29 · answer #2 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OFF IN NO WAY DO YOU TELL YOUR BROTHER!!!! THAT TYPE OF NEWS COULD REA LY DISTRACT HIM FROM WHAT HE IS DOING. HE NEEDS TO CONCENTRATE ON WHAT IS GOING ON.
YOU NEED TO BE SURE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT (MAKE SURE IT IS NOT JUST RUMOR) BEFORE YOU SAY ANYTHING TO HER. IF IT IS TRUE THAN LET HER KNOW YOU KNOW....LET HER KNOW YOU DON'T APPRECIATE IT....ALSO LET HER KNOW YOU WILL NOT BE TELLING YOUR BROTHER UNTIL COMES HOME, SO SHE DOESN'T FEEL THE NEED TO TELL HIM FIRST. THIS IS NOT INFORMATION HE NEEDS OVERSEAS.
SECONDLY IT IS NOT YOUR BUSINESS. THAT IS PERSONNEL BETWEEN YOUR BROTHER AND HER. YOU CAN EXPRESS YOUR OPINION TO HER AND YOUR HURT FEELINGS. BUT REMEMBER SHE HAS HER OWN FREE AGENCY AND WILL DO WHAT EVER SHE WANTS NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY.
I FIND IT SAD THAT SOMEONE WOULD DO THAT WHEN THERE HUSBAND IS OFF FIGHTING FOR OUR COUNTRY. BUT HONESTLY IT MAY HAVE BEEN HAPPENING ALL ALONG. YOUR BROTHER MAY ALREADY KNOW SHE IS A LITTLE FREE WITH HER SELF. THIS GUY MAY ALSO JUST BE A FRIEND AND THAT IS IT.
2007-04-05 04:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her if she is or if you can just happen to show up at some of the same places she goes and see. Also if she tells you she is then you need to see if she will get help. Tell her also that you don't want to tell her brother but you will if she does continue to cheat. hope she is not but good luck to all.
2007-04-05 04:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by I have his love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are comfortable talking to the wife, I would talk to her first. I would make it clear, without being confrontational, that you will not keep your mouth shut if you see her cheating on your brother. And if she continues with the affair, tell your brother. He deserves to know, and not be made a fool of.
2007-04-05 04:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a pretty sticky situation to be in, but it is between him and her and if she is in fact cheating on him it's going to come out. But since he is in Iraq I wouldn't be telling him anything about it, he has enough on his hands without worrying over something he can't deal with in person.
If you feel you must, confront her. But be ready to be lied to. You are going to need proof, not heresay to get any real answers from her. My advice is to remain observant for now.
2007-04-05 04:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by littlemagicone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know, i mean i am a military wife, but honestly i would find out what is going on, i mean yea he might think its none of your business but if she really is cheating then i am sure he will be glad that someone si looking out for him while he is away... i think its really wrong for wifes to cheat on their husbands while they are in iraq
2007-04-05 04:27:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the 100% evidence - show it to him when he gets back - he doesnt need to deal with this now wait till after he gets back - he needs to know his wife is a cheating wh*re just not right now -the only case this would be different is she is constantly with the same guy and some serious relationship is occuring - (he doesnt need to be the last one to find out )
2007-04-05 04:43:16 · answer #8 · answered by rooster 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell him now, wait until he comes home. He has enough on his mind without dealing with the feelings that come along with that. Not to mention, because he is over there he cannot do anything now and it could be detrimental to him. Take this time to find out if it is the truth without her knowing you know. Tell him when he returns home, not before.
2007-04-05 04:28:53 · answer #9 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some investigating..
Look out for your brothers interests..
Don't make any unfounded accusations
but if you get some evidence that she
is really cheating then you should confront her
and tell her that you are going to tell your brother.
2007-04-05 04:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋