Is it alright to still think about an ex even though you are in a new relationship that you are happy in?

Answer 1

I think no matter how happy you are now, there will always be reminders of the past. just don't get caught up comparing your new love to your old one, that's when it gets to be unfair.

Answer 2

It's alright as long as you keep it in perspective. Don't fantasize about what could have been. Keep it real. The ex is an ex for a reason. Learn from what went wrong in that relationship and focus on keeping those mistakes from happening in the current relationship. Focus on the current person you are with so you can continue to be happy.

Answer 3

Yes. You simply can't forget people who have influenced your life. As long as you don't compare your present partner with your ex, you should be fine. No two people will ever offer the same things. If you're happy with your current beau and think about your ex every once in a while, What does that hurt?

Answer 4

Sure it's ok. An ex is a big part of your life! Are you supposed to just drop those years from your memory?

I'm actually sitting across the room from my ex now, as a matter of fact. His g/f recently broke up with him, and he needed a place to stay. My husband (with whom I have never been happier) and I agreed to let him stay here for a little while.

Answer 5

Sure, because they are a part of your past, and even though you may be happily in a new relationship, your past is always a part of you. I would think it would only be a problem if the thoughts were interfering on some level with your new relationship.

Answer 6

Of course it’s OK to still think about an ex.. That’s like asking: is it OK to think of my old favorite movie now that I have a new favorite.

That person was a part of your life for a period. I assume you loved and cared for them. So how could you just chop that part of your brain and heart off? They’ll always be there. When you hear that song or go to that restaurant or see that sunset.

So don’t feel guilty. And don’t feel like you need to disclose your thoughts and feelings to your new love. They have memories too. If they didn’t, I would worry about them.

Fond memories are one of the little perks of life. They're yours. They're private. So just enjoy the fact that you have them. And when you’re snuggling in bed on a rainy Sunday and that old movie comes on and your new love asks you what you’re smiling about, just give him a kiss and tell him you were thinking about him.

Answer 7

ya for sure that's normal, but as long as you are happy in your current relationship. Like if your not and all you can think about is your ex then ya you probably should re-think things. But i think everyone will always have a special place for their ex's.

Answer 8

I think everyone does this. I know I think about my ex all the time, he was a HUGE part of my life. Im in a great relationship niw, and my boy is wonderful, but I still think about my ex. You cant help it, when someone is in your life for a period of time, they impact you. I dont think you should worry about it, unless they start taking up all your thoughts.

Answer 9

I'm sure it is. If you have feelings when you think about him, that may be an issue. But an ex was a part of your life for a while. So it's normal.

Answer 10

I think it's ok to think about an ex, but never act on it. If you are happy in your new relationship, you will be making nice memories now! you will think about them eventually.

Answer 11

Everyone has a past. Thinking about is normal. Having happy thoughts about it is normal. Obsessing over it, or comparing it to the present, or wishing it was not the past is not healthy and does indicate trouble with the present.