Which is worse: When the husband is unfaithuful to the wife or when the wife is unfaithful to the husband???

Question

I am not going to go into a discussion, but I believe that for many reason, is it worse if the wife (especially if she has kids) is unfaithful to the husband. Besides, it is too typical that the husband is more often the unfaithful one.

So why do i htink it is not as worse when a man is unfaithful?? Because it is more typical. I think the mother plays a bigger part of their childrens lives. If the mum was unfaithful, then what example would she be showing???

I am not saying that it is not wrong when the husband is unfaithful. I am just saying that it is is not as worse as when the woman does it. But both are very wrongful!!!

I know. Both are horrible. But i have my opinions so please respect them. I respect everyone else's, regardless of who agrees or not.

To those who have bee ncheated on by any of the parties: I am sorry and I hope you can move on. It is tough. As a woman, i vow NEVER to cheat on my future husband. If i did, then i would never forgive myself.

eharrah1...good point!! I agree with you. :).

Answer 1

I respect your opinion and I can see what you're saying. I remember reading in a magazine a story about a woman who had walked out on her husband and her two young children to begin a new life with another man. I was genuinely surprised, not that she'd cheated, but that she'd left her family. You tend to think a mother would put her children before anything but this isn't always the case. I think thats why it seems to be worse if a woman cheats.

Answer 2

They're both equally worse. Being unfaithful to a partner shows a lack of self respect, lack of respect for the relationship and for the partner. I feel that women/ wives/ mothers are very important figures in a family set up, so I think it's more upsetting to see a woman fall from such a revered and respectable position than a man.

Answer 3

A husband having an affair is likely to be one of the most painful and devastating things that can happen to you. Not knowing if your husband is cheating on you or not is equally as painful. Even the prospect of your husband being unfaithful is painful and extremely disruptive. Each of the private investigators at ASG is here to help clients like you with this issue, every day. We know that you need a private investigator to get you proof so that you can move forward with your life.

We all know that both sexes are guilty of infidelity and that blame for a broken relationship is not the fault of a gender, but there are several aspects of infidelity that are more attributable to men then women.


The reasons women cheat vary considerably. Some get involved in extramarital affairs because they are lonely, others because they want to escape the monotony of marriage. Still others are motivated to cheat as a form of revenge after they find lipstick or other tell-tale signs of their husbands' infidelity. Then there are the selfish, character-flawed women who marry good men, who love and take care of them, but continue to consort with other men for sexual excitement or for the money and other material goods these men can provide.

Answer 4

Both. Trying to teach children morals, principals, scruples and values, from both sets of parents, whilst having it away with the next door neighbour--(or whom ever or where ever it may be)--is not conducive to the next generation of family's in this world. Cheating is WRONG, whichever partner does it..it causes devastation for any kids in that relationship, it causes deep hurt, depression and myriad other problems to partners cheated upon, and once the forbidden fruit is tried, it will be tried again and again--like a drug. It is also wrong to stereotype the male as being the more unfaithful of the sexes--thats a generalisation from most women because they have picked the wrong partners!!

Answer 5

The wife does not play a bigger role in setting morals and standards in their kids lives. If the father is cheating, then the reprecussions would be just as bad. He is saying that it is okay. Would you want your daughter to marry someone that would cheat on her. Same as with the mother. Showing the wrong standards. Both are equally as wrong. Why be married at all. Divorce and then play the field all you want.

Answer 6

I agree with you to a very minor extent, if only because mother's are generally the primary caregiver to any children in the family, which would hold her to a slightly higher moral standard. But truly, even with children in the equation, both sexes are equally wrong to be unfaithful.

Answer 7

In either case, the unfaithful one would be violating the vows, the bed, the marriage, the trust and love of the other. I do not think one is worse than the other, I think both are equally vile.

Answer 8

I say if a man or a woman has an emotional affair, that is a deal breaker, PERIOD. They have no integrity. They cannot be trusted. What have they shared with someone else that they won't or can't share with you? And no - I DO NOT believe that men aren't emotional creatures... of course they are, but not to the degree that women are.

Answer 9

The husband being the typical one to do it is what makes it much worse...so I say the husband cheating on the wife...after the wife having kids and taking care of them thats the worse thing a husband can do...

Answer 10

Point taken,but it is equal here as some Fathers have been known to get control of the children when the wife has been found to be incapable, then the husband abandons the children with his/her parents.