My friend who happened to be my ex accused me of some pretty rotten stuff. She accused me of stalking her by sitting outside her house, and also accused me of hacking into her computer. I am innocent of both of these accusations. The worst part is she wouldnt even let me talk to her about it and to tell her i was innocent. She even called the cops on me. (nothing happened as I am innocent.) She told me she never wants to talk to me ever again. If this happened to you, would you give the accused a chance to explain or would you just assume it was them? I thought we were good friends, and I treated her really well.. so these acusations are completly out of the blue.
2007-04-05 04:08:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i want to write her a letter.. just so i can at least get some closure and try to rectify the situation.. is this stupid?
2007-04-05 04:10:34 · update #1
I think you should write the letter and send it to her. but leave it at that. The full truth always comes out in the end. Even if it takes a fw years - be paitent and wait for the truth to come out on its own . don't force it. When later one she realizes that you were telling the truth, your letter will be a reinforcer at that time.
2007-04-05 05:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it will make you feel better, write a letter explaining your side of it but let that be the end of it. From what you've said about her, it may open up a can of worms and more accusations may come flying your way. She is extremely angry and the letter may just cause another explosion. You know her accusations are unfounded. Let it go and move on. There's not much else you can do until she settles down.
2007-04-05 04:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she should have done is a moot point as she has already made her choice. What we would do is also a moot point as we are not her.
If she cared about you, she would have asked you about it first instead of jumping to conclusions; obviously, she doesn't and isn't worth wasting anymore time or trouble over.
As she got the police involved and has accused you of stalking, it would not be in your best interest to inititate any sort of contact with her. A letter, even one that tells your side of the story, could be seen as a continued attempt of stalking as she has told the authorities that she no longer wants any contact with you.
If she calms down and initiates contact, or if you can relay your position through a mutual friend, if she contacts you and asks about it, you can decide at that point if you want to talk to her or not.
2007-04-05 04:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the real world. Being accused of something that you didn't do is common place in this world. Once an idea of impropriety is embedded in someones mind it is almost impossible to change they way of thinking. Hopefully in time things will change. Be careful writing a letter could only make things worse, but if it is going to give you closure, then do it. Be prepared to get negative feed back. Deal with it, as an adult or better yet; live with it, let it go, and get on with your life.
2007-04-05 04:17:22 · answer #4 · answered by whitehairblueeyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, If i beileved that someone was stalking me and hacked into by computer than no i would not give them a chance to explain because i would want to get as far away from the person as possible.
But, If you are innocent i would try my hardest to do some investigating and prove that you did not do this and definitly write her a letter.
Best of Luck to you!
2007-04-05 04:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by jgroover85 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have already answered your own question. Writing her a letter/email is by far better than going up to her, since she is already accusing you of stalking her.
Send it to her, with a closing that says... feel free to talk to me once you have sort out your thoughts. If she don't, take it that you've lost a friend that's all.
2007-04-05 04:15:53 · answer #6 · answered by ET 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you're 100% telling the truth then she's crazy and you should not let yourself get down about this. she could also be so cruel as to make this up as a way for her to get you out of her life. but the more attempts you make to contact and explain yourself, the worse you'll make it...giving her more ammo to call you a stalker. definitely do not pour your heart out in a letter as i think it will fall on deaf ears/blind eyes..whatever you want to call it...she is probably wanting to see other people now and sees your friendship as a threat to that and this is her selfish way of dealing with it. move on.
2007-04-05 04:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by Dimmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she's pretty peeved about it. Write her a letter or e-mail aplogizing for the mix-up, and explain that you aren't guilty. If she responds, cool, but if not, leave her alone. Following up on it too much will just reinforce the 'stalker' idea.
2007-04-05 04:12:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave her alone. She will find out it wasn't you and come back and apologize. Don't force anything. Just relax and she will come around to realize the mistake she made.
2007-04-05 04:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Tettypu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a chance to cool down, then try talking to her.
2007-04-05 04:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋