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okay...my mom is a serious control freak and homophobe... ive been in a relationship with a girl for about a year and a half... im only 15 and i've been attracted to girls all my life... i need to make my mom understand...plese help

2007-04-05 03:41:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Cultures & Groups Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender

10 answers

You n need to work out your issues with your mom before you tell her any such thing.

2007-04-05 03:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0 0

I can tell you love your mother and want her to accept you for who you are. That's perfectly normal and fine. You're okay!

Thing is, being a lesbian is not what should define you. You are a girl who likes other girls, but that's not what makes you special.

Truthfully, your mother will freak out. You are only fifteen, and while you may feel very comfortable in your sexual preference, she will come up with a thousand reasons why you are wrong, crazy, stupid, weird, etc. In other words, she might not understand your choice.

While you love your mother, I don't think it's the best choice to come out of the closet. If you feel she might freak out, she probably will. You don't need that.

On the other hand, there may be some more difficult decisions you need to make regarding your relationship with your mother.

2007-04-05 03:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

? To me curiously like she already suspects which you're a lesbian. the best thank you to tell her is do exactly it. i be attentive to that sounds corny, however the longer you placed it off the harder it gets. in case you could't tell her, write her a letter. ? I advised my mom by changing my status on my myspace. that's some thing I wasn't even specific she could word, yet she did. That have been given the communicate began b/c she asked me what it meant by me changing it. as quickly as you get talking issues get much less stressful. My mom constantly reported that she she did no longer care if 2 men or women individuals have been jointly as long as she did no longer might desire to work out it. yet as quickly as my mom have been given over the preliminary ask your self of me being a lesbian she entire heartedly time-honored me & my (now) fiance. She constantly me that she could no longer think of our kinfolk with my fiance and is bugging us to have some grandkids for her. reliable success! EDIT: there is not any thank you to make her have faith you, my mom asked me an identical element in our first communication... how do you be attentive to this isn't a element? how do you be attentive to you in ordinary terms have not got here upon the main appropriate guy yet? the only element you're able to do is be you and in time she'll see that it is not a element. My mom additionally blamed herself b/c my father abused her & i could had a puzzling teenagers. So she reported this is all my fault which you became this way. interior of a few months she discovered the tolerance & that i replaced into quite an identical man or woman.

2016-10-21 02:30:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Being only 15, I think you'd be best to keep this from her until you are like 18 or more. If you tell her she'll ban you from having any females over and become even more controlling.

I know this is hard, but if she's like you say, it will be 100 times worse if you tell her. I'd work on SLOWLY talking to her about being homophobic and what her real issues are with it and talk on a rational basis.

Good luck!

2007-04-06 03:20:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Definitly talk to her! Take her out to lunch or go on a special mother daughter outting and tell her then. Don't be surprised by her reaction though, it sounds like she may freak out. But, she should know---She is your mom and should love you no matter what sexual orientation you have. I wouldn't hide it though, because if she finds out through the grapevine, she may be more freaked out and less accepting....Just an idea!

2007-04-05 03:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by stellniel 2 · 0 0

Don't tell her - yet - if you are only 15. She might have you locked up and put in a mental health facility, and as your guardian, she would have the legal right to do so. Wait until you are older, and OUT OF THE HOUSE. I've heard horror stories of parents kicking their underage kids out of the house and they wind up homeless. Its disgraceful, but it happens. DO NOT TELL HER... at least, not yet.

2007-04-05 03:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 0 0

i wouldnt even tell her now i know if i was your mother i would freak not thats theres something wrong with that but if i were to be a mother i would like my daughter to get married in church and have kids and stuff but w.e

2007-04-05 09:35:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

~ "Isn't it something how we can take something that is so painful it makes you drop to the floor and turn it into a life lesson? ...And we do it in such a way it becomes a gift."

2007-04-05 03:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

this is the same deal with my best friend....except she lied to me and told me her mom already knew and then i mentioned it and she had no clue.....things i think worked out for the better in this way....so have a friend just casually mention something about your girlfriend.....

2007-04-05 03:46:17 · answer #9 · answered by thegeneral719 1 · 0 0

Hold off till your 18 and you will have fewer problems with her.

2007-04-05 08:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by jeskjam 2 · 0 0

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