DO you know any HAPPY MARRIAGES?

Question

Not you people deluding yourselves about your own marriage, I mean from observing others? And not anyone over 60.
Do you know any good marriages of people under 60?
I am not interested in your opinion about your marriage. It is biased.

Answer 1

I know lots of them, including my grandparents that have been married for 65 years. Ive been married for 8 years now, and couldnt be happier. We've got a decent number of people including my sister in law and her husband, my brother and his wife, and a good number of friends that are of similar age (30ish) that at least appear to be quite happy. Oh, my mother and father in law too (they are under 60). Marriage doesnt work well for a lot of people, but for people that carefully select a well-matched partner, that are willing to be flexible, and communicate well, it can be one of the best things you can do.

Answer 2

Who are YOU to tell ANYBODY they are deluding themselves about their own marriage? Do you KNOW every married couple personally? I have been HAPPILY married for 25 years (I'm 44). My opinion of my marriage is REALISTIC. My marriage IS a bed of roses - but that also means there are a few thorns once in awhile. It may not be "peaches & cream" every day, but the biggest obstacle to overcome in order to have a happy marriage is realizing that EVERYBODY has faults (including you) and everything is NOT going to go YOUR way all of the time. Most people under 60 who aren't happily married are only miserable because they are SELF-CENTERED. (From the bitter tone of judgment in your your question, I would guess that you either fall into that category or are close to somebody who does.) Marriage means the two BECOME one, and that can only be done by COMPROMISE. From observing others: my brother in law and his wife have been happily married for almost 26 years (they are 46 and 44), my best friend and her husband have been happily married for 12 (they are 46 and 43), another friend & her husband have been happily married for 20 years (they are 44), one niece and her husband have been happily married for 17 years (they are 40 and 42) and another niece and her husband have been happily married for 10 years (they are both 31). I could go on & on about other happy marriages I've observed. What do we all have in common that allows us to have happy, successful marriages? GOD IS AT THE CENTER of our marriages, instead of each of us focusing on "self"!

Answer 3

No one can really answer that question you can say what you see on the outside looking in but you don't know whats going on behind closed doors.My husband and I have what looks like the perfect marriage, beautiful home we both have rewarding careers and a wonderful child, and that's how people on the outside see us and see our marriage and honestly they think that we should be happy and I'm not saying we are not happy but we are in our mid 20's and still we have a lot to figure out about this whole marriage thing. So for someone on the outside to try and rate someones marriage it's just impossible, because people put on a mask and you can never tell what's going on behind closed doors

Answer 4

Let's see -- well first I assume you mean sort of a chronic conflict and lack of general contentment, since we know you can't live with another human without being ticked off at them every now and then.

Now these are people in their forties who have been married 15-20 years.


Couple # 1: sort of, but no whenever we're watching a game he tells me there's zero sex and he absolutely drools on other women

Couple # 2: Nope. He openly stares at women when she's not around. Never acts on it because he's not that kind of guy, but there's zero sex so zero happiness. And she rags on him in public. Bleccch.

Couple # 3: No. She has one fake health issue after another to avoid sex. Her latest is "anorexia", which if you saw her you'd laugh so hard a bone would fly out your nose.

Couple # 4: There were for quite some time, but now that the kids are older and they are togethe rmore - nope. He retreats into his world of high-tech toys and she is another one who uses parties and other gatherings to emasculate him in public.

Couple # 5: Nope. Zero sex. Zero. He goes outside and chain smokes and drinks and she talks a good talk but there's no action there. Also bitter in public. One wonders if they even sleep in the same room.

Couple # 6: Oh god no. Not for quite some time. She doubled her body weight and grew a furry moustache and that did it for him. I mean I feel sorry for her but the other women have suggested she shave but she won't. Eeeekk!

Couple # 7: Possibly. He is super rich and treats her like a queen in the sense of buying her everything under the sun and giving her plenty of time to be by herself. She responds with lots of sex, dresses sexy, always looks great, very upbeat. It appears to be a wonderful relationship where everyone is happy.

Couple # 8: Good pals, but no, there's no spark there. Both just whine and b*tch all the time about the other.

Couple # 9: No way. He is so goddamned unhappy he makes everyone else depressed. She is cheerful to her girlfriends but the bedroom has cobwebs on the door. Ugh.

Couple # 10: He's a good guy - she's nice. He is in great shape and she looks like a 10-pound chub of hamburger. But she is very nice. They grow flowers together. They volunteer a lot. They seem happy.

Couple # 11: They seem happy they love to drink martinis and sit in their spa. He checks out his waist in mirrors all the time, she rolls her eyes.

Couple # 12: Only married 5 years. Cat fights all the time. They hate each other.

Couple # 13: He is such a pompous a*ss I don't know how any woman tolerates him. They are both in love with the same person - him. Thinks he's a real Don Juan. Would not use the word happy to describe them.

Couple # 14: She is so friggin hot. He isn't. They seem so-so. Tough to tell they are busy with 2 little ones right now.

Wish I had better news for you.

Answer 5

I know many couples that have been married for years including my parents. But I think ALL couples have their ups and down. Their arguments and happy days.
I used to think my parents were the happiest until a few summers ago when they got us all together for a family meeting. I guess some just know when to leave their problems at home so others don't talk about them.
So alot of married couples in my family and for the most part they all seem happy in their own ways.

Answer 6

Three couples come to my mind. My parents have an amazing marriage, thank goodness! My previous bishop and his wife just absolutely loved each other and it showed by every thought and action! And now my Grandparents in-law...they are the happiest couple, but they are over 60...lol...
I am going to have to say my own marriage too--not because i'm being delusional or anything, but I can honestly say i found my soul mate and my best friend--we've been married for almost a year and we have never had a fight, of course we've had disagreements, but nothing major and we are both pretty hard headed...lol....He truly is the love of my life...:)

Answer 7

I know several really happy couples, my parents included, they are both under 60. Of course a couple can always appear to be happy and we don't really know what goes on, but I think that would be hard to fake for a long time.

Answer 8

how would you expect anyone to know if anyone else has a truly happy marriage? no one else knows what goes on behind closed doors. we can only speak for ourselves and be honest about it. and to be honest, no marriage is perfect but it is what you make it. it's gotta be equal, but not always 50/50. sometimes you have to be willing to take the 20/80 if you want to receive the 80/20.

Answer 9

I don't know any couple that is 100% happy 100% of the time. I do know a few couples that must have experienced more happiness than not because they have been together for over 20 years.

Answer 10

My brothers and sisters that are married. All are 20 plus years and counting. And all are under 60.