I am enraged at them. How can I develop compassionate thoughts about him to help me through this without hating him?
Thank you....
2007-04-05 03:16:00 · 16 answers · asked by ? 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
See how compassionate others are toward your feelings?
Don't let one idiot turn your thoughts negative.
Even though it seems we are, we aren't alone in this crazy world.
2007-04-05 10:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you open yourself to another and they treat that gift with contempt, you have a rjght to be angry. Then, calm yourself, acknowledge the mistake and get on with life. There will be a time of sadness at the loss. Hatred saps energy and why give that person that power over you. Be in charge of you. The time will come when you will be able to love again. A wiser you with a possible roadmap to give you guidance.
2007-04-05 13:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are used to looking at negative things in life always. Instead of trying to be angry at him and looking through all his faults, just think about his good qualities. You might not have seen these. We always take peoples good qualities for granted. Then you will be able to forgive him. In a relationship it is not me or him, it is us.
With time you will calm down and you will be able to contemplate what happened and could you have prevented it. People make mistakes. He might be wrong, and you might also have some week points because in a relationship it is always two and both are responsible.
2007-04-05 03:48:30 · answer #3 · answered by Mahesha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By realizing that it was his loss the minute he broke your heart. Now he has to figure out a way to make it without a good person like you. Don't sweat it, life is to short for you to dwell on things like this.I know it sounds harsh, but true.
Hope you feel better.
2007-04-05 03:49:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understand that everyone makes mistakes and that the ability to forgive is a very admirable trait. appreciate the knowledge you gained from the experience, good or bad, and use it to make yourself a better person. also know we all must atone for the wrongs we've done and karma is a bit*h. remove the hate from your heart.
2007-04-05 03:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by scauma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To start with, you don't hate him. Anger for what happened is normal and everyone thinks bad thoughts during that period. You will probably never hate him personally but you may be angry for a while. Remember; 'What doesn't kill us can only make us stronger, if we want it.'
2007-04-05 03:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by mr.bond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont really need to feel compassion for them, and its fine to be angry,,,,, you probably are not really feeling hate,,, deep hate,,,,,, as i doubt you want them dead,,, right? suffer a little, maybe, and its ok to feel that way
then you must analze the whole situation,,, your part in it,,,,, even if you acted with honor, did you ignore certain things about him? were there signs yet you let your heart get that involved anyway?
even if you come to the conclusion that it was all his fault,,,, that is how he is,,,,,,, perhaps how he was created,,,,, not a match for you,,,,,,, but just move on,,,,, dislike him, be angry with him, but focus on yourself,,,,,,, also remind yourself that if you hadnt cared, you wouldnt be upset,,,,,,, and caring is a good thing, you shouldnt be in a relationship if you dont,,, if its not going to hurt when it ends
2007-04-05 03:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to sacrifice yourself for his sake then it's your choice.
If you want to live for yourself, you should cut all ties with him. 100% permanently.
Those who would hurt you do not deserve compassion. They do not deserve any thought from you at all.
Move on with your life without giving everyone unconditional compassion. You'll be a lot happier.
2007-04-05 05:31:32 · answer #8 · answered by kensai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had to contend with similar things in my life. I recently came to a realization about people. People do what is in their nature to do. My ex did me kinda bogus but I always knew there was that side to her, I ignored it. So when she acted out in a way that I knew she could but just hoped she didn't I was pissed until I thought about it. Expecting her to be any different is as insane as expecting an apple tree to produce coconuts. She is who she is.
2007-04-05 03:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Immortal Cordova 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to get over it with Your wisdom, i mean, You already know his mistake, You are wiser than he, it may also help get more confident, good luck i'm with You
and, remember it will be only a memory some months later
2007-04-05 03:25:49 · answer #10 · answered by pearlblood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋