how can someone who is not in the gay bar scene or personals find a decent guy to build a life with?

Question

i am tired of being single, been this way for 5 years

Answer 1

Not that type of sexuality myself, but a good place would most likly be one of the many activitist or support groups out there. That way you don't have to deal with the same bs I have to deal with in the bars. Namly, people distrated by all the pretty lights, just trying to get theres at the expense of whoever.... if not there your going to be forced into taking advantage of the internet, www. plentyofish.com is a decent free dating sight not sure how it is for our homosexual community but might be worth a try... its hard being strait trying to find a good person, but they don't have strait activitist groups that I'd like to get behind, you've got a better deal there, I'd take advantage of that frist. Mostly because anyone willing to sacrifice a club life, for a productive life, most be worth something, good luck

Answer 2

Yeah, that is the million-dollar question, isn't it? Bars are full of people who are typically only there for one thing, and it is not long-term relationships. And personals can feel so overwhelming and daunting. Like you are doing a lot of work and not really getting anything out of it. I guess my advice for you would be to just get out there. Start doing things. Go to events. Go to the park and hang out. GO where the people are. You will never meet anyone if you don't go anywhere where there are people. Join a club or an organization. I would say look up the Gay-Straight Alliance in your area, but they really shouldn't be used as dating pools. Anyway, I really wish you luck with that. Keep looking. You'll find someone worthy of you eventually!

Answer 3

Me. I am a latin guy from Tallahassee, Florida, 18 years old looking for just that...sigh...I hope I meet a nice guy someday.

Answer 4

then maybe you should go back to wanting girls, you will have much better luck