I'm scared to have kids
2007-04-05 02:56:07 · 41 answers · asked by usikuri 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Don't go there... Marriage is a three ring circus. First comes the engagement ring, then the wedding ring, and then the "suffe-ring". The last ring usually outlasts the first two.
2007-04-05 03:02:32 · answer #1 · answered by ~MIMI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a prospect, or are you just asking??
The thing is, if you find the right person you'll know whether or not you want to get married. And, you two can decide if you want to have kids (and it should be a mutual thing discussed BEFORE marriage).
I don't think this is a "thinking" decision, meaning you can't really think about it and decide, it's more of a "when it happens" kind of thing. Trust yourself, you'll know what to do when the time comes.
2007-04-05 03:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlet Raven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey.. there is nothing to be scared of ... if you are still too young... then wait awhile till you are ready... there is no shame in that! Getting married to someone you love completely and having children is so beautiful... these children of yours and your sweethearts will be precious gifts to you both... do your best to care for them and love them... someday when they are older you will see more rewards and benefits of having them... Just make sure that the person you marry is compatible with you and wants to have children with you... getting married and being faithful also has many great rewards and when you marry the right person for the right reason... not just for physical attraction... it is a total package!
Don't be afraid of love, marriage and children... being alone is much harder and lonelier to deal with... at least for some !
2007-04-05 03:04:01 · answer #3 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have kids just because you are married. The purpose of marriage is not to have children. Lots of infertile couples get married, and lots of married people never have children. Marriage is about loving each other and wanting to make the committment to spend the rest of your lives together. Marriage is also about having the same common goals and wanting to make a mutual commitment to support each other's goals. If your boyfriend insists upon having kids and you don't want to, then don't marry him. He is not the right guy for you.
2007-04-05 03:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you get married doesn't mean you have to have kids. If you love the guy and he loves you, and you have been together for a while, then yes go ahead and get married, but if you don't love him, or the other way around then don't get married. But like i said. Getting married does not entitle you to automatically have kids.
2007-04-05 03:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by pinky_lady_2006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is someone who you love enough to spend the rest of your life with them, marry them. If not, don't do it - it will only end in heartbreak if you marry just for the sake of marrying. As far as kids are concerned, if you wait until you're ready it will never happen. If you just don't WANT kids, don't have them. But if you'd like them but they make you nervous, go for it - my little accident was the best thing that ever happened to me.
2007-04-05 03:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are 2 separate issues. You can get married without having kids. Just be sure you and your potential spouse discuss it first, and agree on what you want regarding kids BEFORE you get married.
2007-04-05 02:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you going to marry someone who wants to have kids?? then i guess the two of you need to talk about it. and are you just scared, or do you not want to have them? if you are just scared, well, you will get through it. if you don't want to have them, that is another thing and your future husband needs to know. and you need to be honest with yourself and any man you want to marry.
2007-04-05 02:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by KJC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love the person get married to the person just don't have kids, use protection.
2007-04-05 03:00:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can get married and not have kids. Married people use birth control too.
"Control the Human Population - Have your spouse spade or neutered."
2007-04-05 02:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by nyhtshade 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋