My wife thinks i spy on her. I looked at a profile with the name Jennifer. I knew it was not her. She got mad and got on answers and asked a question on my name about me spying on my wife. I do have reason sometimes because she has cheated and when we decided to stay together I told her i could never trust her like i use to. She said we would deal with it. Besides she needs to ask the same question on her own answers id because how did she know i was looking at a profile. She was looking in my profile. I have nothing to keep secret on the computer so she knows my password and i dont get mad. She will change her password if i was to find out hers. I just found out she is bi and wants to have sex with another woman. She is very secretive. What do you think?
2007-04-05 02:51:24 · 28 answers · asked by mojo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it sounds like there are alot of issues in your relationship. Im not so sure you will be able to work them out.
2007-04-05 02:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jill knows best 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well hiding her password is the first thing you should see, there is no trust coming from her... She dont trust you or dont trust herself.. She is checking up on you more then likely cause she is already doing something wrong, or has done something wrong.. As far as the bi thing..run fast, and keep going.. You dont need to deal with her cheating with men and women.. being secretive is crazy, if she can not tell you, then you need to find someone out there that will talk to you.. I also think she is secretive and jumpy to find the facts because she wants to catch you first...good luck
2007-04-05 03:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two probably have been together long enough to become a little bored with each other so why not just throw her out the door and go find another.
If she reads this she might throw you out the door.
Either way just get on with life.
I never could stand the same woman for very many years. Have had some very nice ones from time to time. Actually I do not dislike any of them.
2007-04-05 03:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mojo, I'm the kind of man that likes to make the best out of a bad situation and your situation is for the most part a bad situation, however, there are some positives.
Look, if your wife likes other women, she's already cheated on you once, you and I both know she's likely going to cheat on you again and it doesn't seem like you are ready to move on...accept it for what it is man! Learn to roll with the punches. See if you can't have some threesome action with your wife and her friends and then after sometime has passed of doing that, you'll probably have the confidence you need to still be friends with your wife but to move on and start your own life.
Sometimes we can't control everything that happens in our lives but try to find a silver lining when you can.
2007-04-05 03:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW it is hard to have a relationship when there is no trust or even compromised trust. Little things seem to blow up quickly. It sounds she may be insecure about this,she should be ( since she is s cheater).If u r going to hang it out with her u need to make her understand u r not a cheat and u r an open book BUT IF SHE CANT DO THE SAME u might want to rethink your future.
2007-04-05 03:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by lou lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm dealing with an obsessive, wierd wife, too. read my last post...and some of my others. i have a cell phone from work. i was given one about a year ago and she made me turn it in. I finally convinced her that when i was offered another one it was going to look bad if i kept turning it down. so this morning i received my second call on the phone and she went ballistic because it was a woman from work....not an emergency call, but a call asking a question. so i had to explain that since i've had the cell phone, only two people have called..however, they were both co-workers and both women.
i think life would be better without women and a bottle of lotion and a Playboy. you know?
2007-04-05 02:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of you need to address issues with a therapist. You cant take her back and then tell her you will never trust her again. That's too much of a burden and will ultimately halt the relationship moving forward. What are the two of you doing messing around on the Internet anyway? Dint you have enough trouble keeping the relationship Alive. Comon folks make better decisions and take control of your marriage!
2007-04-05 02:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to have to tell you this but TRUST is everything in a marraige without trust you have nothing.You have already stated that you will never be able to fully trust your wife again so you really need to reconsider what you are doing.Your wife has cheated on you once before and usually once a cheat always' a cheat.Now you bring in the fact that she is bi and want's to have sex with other women..Honey...Please wake up your wife is not committed to you and she clearly has no respect for you.She does not love you.You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect and she is not going to give that back to you.You deserve much better..She sound's very insecure and she obviously has secrets she is guilty as sin and she knows it..Sound's like it is time for you to move on she has proven that she is untrustworthy..You have been wasting your time with her because you will never beable to forgive her for what she has done to you and you have every right not to forgive..All you are doing by staying with her is trying to put a band aid on an open wound and what she has done is never going to heal you have tried but she has'nt..As I said you deserve to be treated with dignity & respect and you need to move on the right woman is out there for you and waiting to treat you right..Good Luck Best Wishes..
2007-04-05 03:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you two get rid of the internet for a start. Then, individual counseling for you as it is apparent that you have yet to deal with her unfaithfulness and now need to process that she is interested in women. Time to discover what is going on in you and forget about her for a bit. She is going to do what she wants to do, anyway. Spend some time on yourself - discover who you are and what you want. After that, if you still want to work on the marriage then do. But remember, you can't make your wife do anything so if you stay accept her as she is or you need to move on.
Get rid of the internet - is it worth all the fighting and suspicion in the marriage? That is step no. one.
2007-04-05 03:11:05 · answer #9 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is something you really shouldn't have to
deal with. I think the first clue here was unheeded...
meaning when she cheated on you, even just once,
you should have walked away from the relationship.
Trust is the very foundation, without trust everything
is shaky. She's obviously not treating you the way
she wants to be treated. It's very one sided and the
only person who can make a decision for you is you.
So consider your options, this may very well be ALL
there is to life...is this how you want to spend it?
2007-04-05 03:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by S T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you two still have alot of issues! and maybe she is not as committed to you as you are to her and she is not being honest with you now if she is gets mad and hides her password from you. and about the Bi that's just sick. and cheating is cheating no matter what the sex. perhaps you should check into counseling or something. and I hate to tell you, most of the time if you suspect your mate is cheating, they most likely are I would watch her closely!!!
2007-04-05 03:14:02 · answer #11 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋