HELP......Dogs vs Fiance???

Question

Here is the story:
My fiance HATES my dogs. We visit him on weekends and all I hear is "Your dogs destroy my property and I've worked hard and long to have the things I have." I am now dreading my weekend trips because of the constant complaining.

This is the damage my dogs have done in the past three years:
(1) My 3 y/o greyhound/pit digs under his shed because she smells rabbits under it. His backyard consists of one shed, one tree and one flowerbed. Lawn is brown because he does not water it.
(2) My 10 month old pit mix chewed a lamp cord which I am repairing.

The 3 y/o dog he talks to and pets. He completely ignores my puppy....because he doesn't like "that" dog.

The 3 y/o dog is leaving to go to college with my daughter next year. I am planning on moving into his house then.

Which leaves me with a dog I love dearly and my fiance hates....

What would you do?

PS I gave my dachshund to a rescue organization because my fiance and daughter.

Answer 1

Seems he has some valid reasons for not liking the dogs.

Perhaps you two are not a good match.

Seems like you have to choose, him or the dogs. At least he is honest about how he feels. He is sharing his feelings, he doesn't like the dogs.

I thought ladies wanted guys to share their feelings. Here we have an example and it appears there are complaints about sharing feelings...

I suggest you stay with the dogs. Not because he is such a bad guy. But it appears you care more about them than him.

Answer 2

Being an avid Dog lover, this is easy to answer. I would never stay with a man that does NOT like Dogs. Obviously you do and this will lead to other conflicts down the road. Why: because, you two are two different types of people ( on the inside). I find that, Dog lovers are the most caring/nurturing individuals and unless you find a partner whom has such qualities as well, YOU ARE NOT WELL MATCHED.
Those little misdemeanors you're dogs have done, is nothing and most things, once you understand a Dogs habits/behaviors, can be altered, so as there will be less damage down the road. I own Dogs ( always finding strays) and once I know them better, I just think ahaid of what they might can destroy, and again, by thinking ahaid, just up and fix or hinder the potential destruction for the Dog and "bingo" those things I don't want destroyed, WONT BE SO! We (people) are able to think ahaid and should. If he is this "pcky", he will be so with you too , eventually.

Answer 3

First, he has to realize that this could be a domestic dog & they chew on issues. he will outgrow that. 2d, if he would not care approximately his backyard adequate to water it, then why does he care if a dogs which would be leaving quickly digs a hollow in it? I promise that if i strengthen into ever put in this situation, i could decide on my cat & i'm very sparkling approximately that from the start if I ever date absolutely everyone. My cats been around 13 years & the place have you ever been all this time? i recognize thats harsh yet thats the way i've got self belief & have constantly felt. I even have been put in an identical situation yet to not that degree. i strengthen into maximum suitable away with him that in case you do unlike my cat, you extra appropriate hit the line because of the fact he's not going everywhere! (I could probable additionally point out that i'm nonetheless single via my determination & am very happy with my determination to be that way. And no thats not by using cat- there have been different themes!) If he incredibly loves you he will settle for you & each little thing that contains you, including pets! i could on no account supply up a puppy for a guy till it strengthen into for wellness motives- distinctly one thats been around lots longer than him. the two way, you have a tough determination to make & i don't envy you. solid success!

Answer 4

How about being a responsible pet owner? Training discipline and taking control of the situation.

He is only partially pissed about the destruction, the rest is that he is seeing that the person he is thinking about spending the rest of his life with being irresponsible and neglectful as a pet owner. What else is she going to neglect in the future?

My guess is that if you have not taken the time and responsibility to be a good pet owner, you are not ready to be a partner.

Answer 5

im a dog lover and a guy so here is my 2 cents worth. dump the guy! that puppy will more than likely be more loyal for a longer period of time! if he hates that dog so much how does the dog react to him ? if there is distrust in any of your pets i would be a little cautious as pets are better at judging people than we are! i know it wasnt worth much so here is a penny back! now have a nice day

Answer 6

If you can't decide between a dog and a man, then you need to go stay home with your dogs and be alone. Obviously this is not the guy for you if you are even considering putting the dogs first.

Answer 7

I'd be choosing the dogs. If this guy isn't tolerant of dogs, what else is he not tolerant of??!! Relationships are all about compromise and this guy seems as flexible as a steel rod! Sorry!

Answer 8

Get rid of the fiance and keep the dogs. The dog is more likely to keep loving you till the death do you part.

Hey, you had the dogs when you met. He knew it. Why should you get rid of the dogs.

Answer 9

I will choose my dogs anytime.

I tell all the girls around me... love my dogs and I'll love you... if you can't, sorry I can't love you.

There is absolutely no way I will give up my dogs just because of a woman. I wouldn't even consider dating a woman who is not dog-friendly.

Answer 10

When you are committed to each other, there are always going to be things you have to contend with that you don't like. Tell him to grow up and do your best to repair whatever damage is being caused. You should not have to choose.