I have a friend who always wants me to do stuff I don't want to do and threatens me that if I don't do it she'll spill my deepest darkest secrets.She acts like she's the boss of me and my other friend tells me to stay away from her.Then she tells me that my other friend is making me a robot doing things i don't want to do for her.But in reality, she's the one controlling me.Please help me.Any ideas on how she'll just back off?
2007-04-05 01:09:47 · 7 answers · asked by kitbianca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your "other" friends are right. You cannot get this "friend" to change. You really just have to get away from her. She is not a friend. She is a control freak and she is enjoying the control that she has over you. She is not really interested in you as a friend, but as a puppet.
Follow the advice of your real friends and get away from her.
Take care,
Troy
2007-04-05 01:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This girl is not a friend, friends don't threaten you into doing what they want. You need to be strong, tell her that you will not be threatened and you will not be bossed by her. Tell her if she wants to be your friend she will have to respect your wishes and not expect you to always do what she wants. If she can't do this then you need to walk away, forget the friendship and move on. A friend should be there for you, listen to your point of view and respect you for who you are. Sometimes if a person makes you feel bad, its not worth the trouble, leave them and find a real friend.
2007-04-05 01:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kazzbar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, she's not going to change, it sounds like it's time to get rid of her and move on. I have enemies or treat me better than that. But see, I'm different though, when it comes to being threatned, I call the person's bluff, simply because I don't care about the reprocussions, and if they have the audasity to threatnen, they should be able to back it up.
2007-04-05 02:35:09 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me I wouldn't care what your secret is,because sooner or later she will tell!!!,Just tell her your not doin' what she wants anymore,and let her know you don't care about your secret(which u really do)maybe she will leave u alone. Good Luck tell her to take a hike if she is any kind of friend she would not be like that. You can find better friends.
2007-04-05 01:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Gail G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not call this person a friend, because anyone who would blackmail you like that is not a friend. Try your best to disassociate yourself from people like her. They are a cancer.
Just avoid them at any cost, make up any excuse you have to when she comes in contact with you. Hopefully she will eventually go away. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!
2007-04-05 01:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by david 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one can control you without your permission. If you do not want her to boss you tell her to stop. If she doesn't then drop her because she is not really a friend, she just wants to use you.
2007-04-05 01:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by diogenese_97 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everybody have secrets that they dont want anyone to know so just find out what she's got to hide and threaten her
2007-04-05 01:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by nap11t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋