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How on earth do I get rid of this fear of change?Why am I so paralysed with fear just because I want to change my life for the better?I mean,where on Earth does this fear come from?

2007-04-05 00:29:43 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science Psychology

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Fear comes from thinking about the unknown. It may help us to accept change if we are aware of the reason for the change. Try to think of the positives - if you intend to change something in your life, is it going to make you feel better. Is there somebody you can discuss this with - not necessarily for them to give you advice - merely to listen to you. It is sometimes a good way for you to come up with answers yourself. Good luck and try not to be too scared of the future. Consider change as a journey, with different turnings and roads to be taken. I am sure you will reach your destination.

2007-04-05 00:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Beanbag 5 · 1 0

Change is always hard. I think we as people like to get to a comfortable place in our lives and then stay there. Change may mean uprooting yourself and moving to a new place, breaking up with someone we know isn't really making us happy or changing our groups of friends for the better. Even though you are trying to change your life for the better, it is still hard because it means that the things or people around us will change. Starting over can be a wonderful stepping stone to a more productive life and can bring new adventures and experiences that will make us better and our lives better. I think most people like being in that comfort zone. Personally, my life has been a roller coaster of changes but most all of them have improved my life. Look at it as an exciting new chapter in your life, a new beginning and new things to experience. When we get too set in our comfort zone, our lives can become stagnant and boring. Life really is about growing and changing throughout your life. Each change can be a step closer to fulfilling your dreams and becoming a better, more knowledgeable person. Try to look at making changes as a positive in your life. Fear of change is normal, but instead of fear, try to turn that fear in to excitement about what new things will happen to you with the changes that are coming. I have found that nothing stays the same forever, not people, not the world around us, so embrace change and start a new adventure in your life for the best, Good luck to you.

2007-04-05 00:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0 0

I feel exactly the same way - whenever I think about changing something dramatic I begin to feel extremly stressed and anxious. This fear comes from the unexpected, the fear of the unknown we feel safe and secure if we follow the same routine and do the same activities. Be strong and try to change just something little each day, these small changes will soon add up and hopefully, reduce your fear when you see how far you have come!!

2007-04-05 02:18:37 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia P 1 · 0 0

Cause it is a move to the unknown, what helps for most is planing and also sharing the feel with others seeking reassurance by someone who can and will support you in the change.
This is a basic fear in every human, but you must note that fear is not necessarily a bad thing as long as it dasnt become panic, fear makes you more awe of things makes you more careful. Just don't let it direct your life.

2007-04-05 00:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by Csaba 2 · 0 0

Most people fear the unknown. Changing one's life is a gigantic step, one never knows let alone be sure of whether the change will end up being better, or worse; the latter possibility is the root of the fear.

2007-04-08 07:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0 0

It is normal to fear uncertainity and unfamiliar forthcomings which of course you dont know if what follows would be worse than the innitial.

It is like diving into unclear waters to in search of a treasure that could bring good living for the rest of your life. Even after being assured it is fine down there - and you havent seen anyone do it before.

The fear is from uncertainity and insecurity. Have you studied animals? WHEN A FOUL GETS INTO A NEW TERRAIN, IT LIFTS ONE OF ITS LEGS UP and after familiarizing itself with the place it feels safe and brings down the leg. That fear is reflex

All you need is faith. Believe in yourself, be optimistic and caurageous and know that Life itself is a risk, know that God is watchin, then TAKE THAT PLAUNGE thats the only way to find out whats in there.

2007-04-05 02:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by chika a 1 · 0 0

personally, I think that I fear doing things that make me comfortable, even though I want to change, to better myself and be a better example seeing that it is hard to find a good example, It's just that I have done things so long and it some how became a part of my being happy, even though after I do things I am not happy, I don't think it's fear, I think that you are knowing what you have to let go in order to change, and that's hard, so that you may be afraid of, letting go of the old to bring in the new, and that is hard for me as I speak, real talk


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2007-04-05 01:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Sky 2 · 0 0

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2016-10-02 05:17:50 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Fear of loss can play a part in this.

Try to remind yourself that whatever you are losing is being changed for something better.

I have changed my life lots of times and in the process of doing it again (new career)

Just go for it!

2007-04-05 00:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Great Eskape 5 · 0 0

Change is an ongoing process.... It's happening right now. Each of us is aging (a change), experiencing some aspect of life (which is subtly changing us), getting fat (or thin), etc., etc. Whether you see it or not, your life is already changing with every moment that passes.

It is the mind that tries to abide in one place, trying desperately trying to hold on those things we know. To hold on to those things that provide a sense of security.

Now if you can accept that everything is already changing.... Then, accept that you can choose to influence how things change around you. If you want to change yourself.... TAKE ACTION.

2007-04-05 01:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Shaman 7 · 0 0

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